| 23 Jun 08 | One handed typing (5) | (25 Jun 08, 11:50 AM by wonderer) |
| All my typing will be one handed for a while, with possibly more typos than ever, but don't jump to conclusions. My other arm is in a sling following a 25 mph cycling accident this morning. (Broken collar bone and wrist). [more...]
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| 22 May 08 | munching again (7) | (28 May 08, 12:55 AM by slavegirlclover) |
| Another and necessarily rather brief visit to the LND munch in Nottingham last night. Was persuaded by clover's memos. Great to meet a few people I remember from January as well as others. (I hope it isn't a breach of protcol / confidentiality to name people who were there; I won't in case it is). The venue is a Goth themed pub and so people get away with wearing all manner of weird and wonderful outfits if the want, though "normal" clothing seemed quite acceptable too. In fact there was obviously some other group in fancy dress in the pub at the same time. Had a very interesting chat with someone [more...]
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| 15 Feb 08 | Still hanging in | (15 Feb 08, 9:03 PM by wonderer) |
| Well .. since my last weblog, I'm still here, though not as much as I was. Trying to give time to my priority relationship when possible, to be grateful for the freedoms I have and patient and hopeful for what may be. |
| 29 Jan 08 | Oh dear ... | (29 Jan 08, 6:56 AM by wonderer) |
| As a few have expressed interest in my personal story so far, I hope it won't be thought too self indulgent to recount the latest of the twists and turns in my discourse with the one I love more than any, committedly and permanently. [more...]
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| 27 Jan 08 | London Munch - my second scene outing | (27 Jan 08, 8:52 AM by wonderer) |
| I had the opportunity to be in London for the London Munch on Friday, and better still to have the generous offer of a certain most glamorous dominant Woman, well known in these circles, to be introduced to some of the personalities. [more...]
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| 18 Jan 08 | Campaign against Pornography (3) | (23 Jan 08, 9:58 PM by Lady_Vanessa) |
| In the late '80s in my younger and more earnest days, I used to belong to a (many female) feminist group affiliated to the Campaign against pornography, supported nationally by Clare Short (she of the page 3 bill). We used to go en masse into W H Smut, remove all the top shelf mags, take to the till and ask to see the manager. Then we'd explain that this was demeaning to women and to the men who buy them too. [more...]
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| 17 Jan 08 | First ever Munch ... (8) | (27 Jan 08, 7:41 AM by wonderer) |
| ... with the full (though slightly concerned) support of Mrs Wonderer. And what a fascinating, eye-opening and enjoyable evening. Had the pleasure of meeting people in some ways so different to my normal circles, more alternative, creative, colourful. Some of the jewels who stand out in the rich tapestry which is humanity. [more...]
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| 13 Jan 08 | Permission to explore? A more nuanced response (3) | (14 Jan 08, 12:39 PM by candyflip) |
| Following this weblog: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/weblogs/wondere... I've reopened the discussion with my (vanilla) wife about permissions and got a less enthusiastic, more nuanced & guarded response. Still accepts it may be part of me, but she has loads of concerns. [more...]
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| 7 Jan 08 | A public humiliation fantasy (12) | (31 Jan 08, 7:55 AM by wonderer) |
| I posted this as a thread but decided it might be thought too racy for the boards, so here it is. [more...]
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| 1 Jan 08 | Things get even better (5) | (1 Jan 08, 1:13 PM by BlueVelvet) |
| Well following this weblog: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/weblogs/wondere... I had a follow up conversation yesterday, and my dearest exceeded all possible hopes and expectations in terms of generosity of spirit. She seems to be saying I should feel free to explore my strange desires and appetites with others as she can't begin to comprehend them or hope to satisfy them. Will discuss again in the cold light of day, unfuelled by wine, to make sure she really is happy and to discuss boundaries, but I get the impression I'm lucky beyond my wildest dreams. [more...]
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| 31 Dec 07 | Out in the open (7) | (1 Jan 08, 8:23 AM by Violently) |
| Well I did it at last. Plucked up courage (after plying her with 3 glasses of wine) and told my wife what a strange bundle of kinky appetites I've been harbouring. It went far better than I had any right or reason to expect. Somehow managed to open up the subject without causing shock, rejection, pain or a feeling of inadequacy. Once I'd explained she could see links back into my adolescence and into our early marriage. I don't think she's going to become suddenly domme nor suddenly poly and I didn't even tap on those doors, yet they seemed less closed than I expected. She's moved in much more [more...]
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| 1 Dec 07 | Advent and Christmas (1) | (1 Dec 07, 1:51 PM by Ceridwen) |
| I posted a piece to a thread almost by accident yesterday, describing how one might mark and enjoy Advent and Christmas here in the UK. This is a reworked and expanded version. [more...]
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| 7 Nov 07 | Corporal punishment (4) | (13 Jan 08, 6:14 PM by slave_vs) |
| As a person with sub tendencies (more D/s than SM) but no practical experience, I have never quite "got" CP nor indeed any use of pain within BDSM. Much more into humiliation, degredation, sexual frustration (with or without chastity), public embarrassment etc. I can just about work up an appetite for light OTK spanking if I fancy the owner of the knees and most importantly thighs! And can imagine a schoolroom scenario in which I'm caned by a suitably busty mature teacher. But never had any appetite for pain or punishment for its own sake. [more...]
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| 7 Nov 07 | A confession - tendency to be over familiar (3) | (18 Nov 07, 6:53 PM by Lady_Vanessa) |
| I feel it's right to record here a fault of mine which has become apparent on one particular occasion on IC, but which also highlights for me an underlying tendency. No-one has asked me to write this - it is my own initiative, recorded here for two purposes: [more...]
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| 21 Oct 07 | Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. (3) | (22 Oct 07, 9:09 AM by Ceridwen) |
| I've added the quotation "Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est" as my signoff on posts. So here is something of an explanation. [more...]
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| 9 Oct 07 | Horrible cough and cold (2) | (9 Oct 07, 8:22 AM by wonderer) |
| I've picked up a horrible cough and cold. Worst bit is coughing myself to sleep for what seems like hours night after night. And my darling wife is away so no-one to make a fuss of me. I'm having to make a fuss of myself like in my bachelor days. Anyone got a spare shoulder to cry on? [more...]
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| 6 Oct 07 | I don't use profile pics as masturbation fantasies! (3) | (7 Oct 07, 12:41 PM by wonderer) |
| Several times I've sent a memo which ended by complimenting someone on their profile pictures, and then have felt I might sound like a "wanky man" so I've added a postscript to say I don't allow myself to fantasize in that way about pics found on profiles. (Though of course like virtually all men, I do pleasure myself from time to time). The text below, copied from my contribution to another thread, clarifies my position. Hopefully now I won't find it necessary to keep adding my postscript to memos! [more...]
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| 29 Sep 07 | Remembering adolescent predisposition to kink | (29 Sep 07, 9:52 AM by wonderer) |
| I've remembered an early subtle stage in my journey. I think I discovered I was both slightly kinky and a newish man before I'd ever encountered either term. [more...]
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| 10 Jan 07 | Many a slip between cup and lip (2) | (11 Jan 07, 12:59 AM by Mellifera_Siren) |
| Visiting this site is really corrupting my mind. I found my self at work today saying, in all innocence, "there's many a slip between cup and lip", and as soon as I'd said it I got images of the slip being lingerie, the cup being part of a bra, and the lip being ... somewhere lower on the female anatomy. [more...]
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| 22 Dec 06 | Just wondering ... why am I here? (3) | (22 Dec 06, 12:33 PM by teach_me) |
| Well as my profile says, i'm not a practising BDSM-er and may well never be. And as I said one of the threads: [more...]
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