| 30 Dec 11 | 2011: a review | (30 Dec 11, 9:59 PM by verte) |
| I've been dormant on this site for a while. Why? Well, apart from the usual reasons (do I need to list them again? really?), my love-life has been a total disaster this year. [more...]
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| 21 Jul 11 | BDSM and conservatism (21) | (6 Aug 11, 1:25 PM by toothbrush) |
| To whomever it was that used to post interesting things on this site about the inherent conservatism that lies at the heart of sexual perversion: [more...]
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| 30 Jun 11 | the 'negative' turn | (30 Jun 11, 12:00 PM by verte) |
| I had a long phone conversation with the recent-ex last night, at last. I cried, we had a long conversation about shit, and the resolution is that there is no resolution. But I think I understand myself better, or at least how my non-monogamy tends to work. [more...]
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| 25 Jun 11 | All change (4) | (27 Jun 11, 10:43 PM by DancesWithPussycats) |
| One of my relationships ended last week in the worst possible circumstances I'm capable of imagining. I don't know what the future is for our friendship right now, and that in itself is so uprooting I've been in a strange state. The closest friendship I've made since I moved back to London is all but over. If we are ever to be pally again, we'll have to start from scratch. [more...]
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| 18 May 11 | I never say this but... (4) | (29 May 11, 12:41 PM by verte) |
| I'm bored. I'm procrastinating. I've got a pile of marking to finish, a documentary to watch so I can take part in a panel discussion on Monday and two papers to write. [more...]
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| 6 May 11 | tomorrow (6) | (8 May 11, 12:04 AM by Beauxxxx) |
| With the sadist there is no pandering to my alleged limits; I play to his. Given that he knows I hate talking about limits or consent or safewords, that with me it's always all or nothing, and that the last time he attempted to get me to discuss it with him I ended up writing 5,000 words of what is now going to be an article to avoid talking personally, his attempts today to tell me to that I am allowed to tell him to "get out" as a kind of safeword (but if I do he will in fact leave) did not go down well. He knows how tempted I will be to call his bluff, but that in fact if I do the result will [more...]
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| 1 May 11 | Members of the Dildocracy (6) | (6 May 11, 4:20 PM by P_r_a_x_i_s) |
| This song is for you, and your Buffalo Stances*: [more...]
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| 15 Feb 11 | A Valentine | (15 Feb 11, 2:59 AM by verte) |
| It arrived in the post this morning, from Z. Pitying my sprained, swollen, purple ankle and inability to walk beyond the top of the road, he sent me a cd of clips of the nastiest scenes of sexual violence from horror films he owns. [more...]
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| 29 Dec 10 | 2010 (2) | (1 Jan 11, 12:21 PM by Szymanowski) |
| As is tradition, a lovely survey: the IC version. Thereby inclusive of all things rude. [more...]
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| 12 Nov 10 | A fine romance (2) | (28 Nov 10, 1:12 PM by verte) |
| "I had every intention of coming over, objectifying, raping, beating the shit out of you and leaving, but instead I had a really nice evening and remembered how much I love you. I even brought The Pliers. You fucking perfect fucking fuck." [more...]
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| 3 Nov 10 | Depressing fact of the day (7) | (3 Nov 10, 11:06 PM by Doghouse_Reilly) |
| I just read that the total sum spent on the extensive police investigation, code named "Operation Spanner", was over £3m.
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| 10 Oct 10 | First day at school tomorrow.. | (10 Oct 10, 7:57 PM by verte) |
| .. and it's a terrible shame my mouth is so fucked up from the op, because he had planned to brutalise me upon my return in my first-day-of-school dress. [more...]
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| 8 Oct 10 | National Sex Survey (1) | (8 Oct 10, 1:41 AM by Elysium) |
| Just stats, not facts... But quite interesting all the same. [more...]
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| 4 Oct 10 | Video nasties (19) | (28 Oct 10, 10:56 PM by Notasquick) |
| Please to recommend me the vilest, most wretchedly horrible films you've ever seen. Quality appreciated (for my own sanity), but not a necessity. [more...]
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| 9 Sep 10 | howlin' at the moon | (9 Sep 10, 11:08 PM by verte) |
| you got me chasin' rabbits, pullin' out my hair and howlin' at the moon. |
| 2 Sep 10 | non-monogamy.... | (2 Sep 10, 5:38 PM by verte) |
| ... is wonderful. This summer has been a breeze. And then everything goes completely up the shitter all at once. [more...]
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| 24 Aug 10 | A Divine Image (6) | (25 Aug 10, 4:57 PM by Tinsel_Seeker) |
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| 19 Aug 10 | Stripper fail (24) | (23 Aug 10, 11:14 PM by Notasquick) |
| http://thescotsman.scotsman.com/scotland/Dancers... [more...]
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| 25 Jul 10 | Reader, he hit me (3) | (25 Jul 10, 1:27 PM by MissTee) |
| It seems extraordinary that I have been waiting nearly ten years for the most prominent sadist in my life to hit me. He has hurt me many times. I have spent countless tears over a relationship that never happened. Beyond anything else, I have realised selfishly, I have cried because I wanted that man to hurt me, and then hurt me again, and because I have known since I was a teenager that if ever there were a person I could and would suffer for, a person to whom submitting would feel more natural than not doing so, it would be him. The realisation that traditionally coupling ourselves would have [more...]
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| 22 Jul 10 | BDSM theory group? (18) | (26 Jul 10, 11:55 PM by verte) |
| It's come to my attention that there are a bunch of us on this site who are interested in researching kink and BDSM, and who also have an interest in critical theory. [more...]
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