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| 2 Oct 06 | Rough love - a story (1) | (2 Oct 06, 10:55 PM by Elegantly_Wasted) |
| As he lay there, he realised that he now knew what it really meant to be loved. His back was sore and crimson, wheals tracing random paths across his muscular form. His wrists had deep creases where ropes had cut into them, his flesh was a mass of bite marks from sharp teeth that almost punctured the skin. If they left visible marks, he would also be smothered in the signs of multiple kisses, planted in each spot where the violence was so evident; instead it was only his own memory that held the record of those. [more...] | ||
| 1 Oct 06 | Breathless - a story (2) | (1 Oct 06, 5:51 PM by fluffy_welsh_angel) |
| She lay on the bed, her perfect form spreadeagled, each limb anchored to a corner of the bed. She was naked, bathed, relaxed, massaged, calmed, prepared. This was a moment for which she had waited a long time. She had waited for the right person, for the person in whom she had total trust. Implicit, explicit, deep, unqualified, total trust. In some ways her whole life, or at least since she discovered the erotic qualities of power exchange, had been focused on this one moment, this one event, this one expression of total giving. [more...] | ||
| 30 Sep 06 | The end - a story | (30 Sep 06, 1:13 PM by relaxed1) |
| It was difficult to see where he was going as he stood on the brow of the hill. Not in any literal sense, since he could see further than anyone might imagine, but in a metaphorical sense. The vista that stretched before him was impressive – a vast expanse of valley populated by an infinite number of trees forming a deep green carpet that hugged the valley floor. Or at least what he presumed was the valley floor, since there could have been anything, or nothing, beneath that dense impenetrable canopy. [more...] | ||
| 29 Sep 06 | Heat - a story | (29 Sep 06, 7:01 PM by relaxed1) |
| The humidity seemed to accentuate the discomfort. The scorching heat of the day had given way to an oppressive, sultry evening. It would not be a natural evening to choose to be roped up, but then these things happen whenever they happen, and she didn't get to choose. As she sat on the grass, her wrists tied together, then secured to her waist, she wondered, briefly, why she did it. Well. Of course she didn't really wonder. She knew precisely the way it worked, the way she needed the liberation that came from ceding control, the way he fed on that need and fulfilled his own needs through her. [more...] | ||
| 28 Sep 06 | All for love - a story (22) | (30 Sep 06, 11:51 AM by sunfire) |
| Her friends and family had long abandoned her, unable to comprehend the life she had chosen to lead. That was her greatest, in fact her only, sadness about the way things were. Sometimes, just sometimes, in her low moments she yearned for the touch of her mother, the kindly word from her father. But it was almost inevitable that they would not understand her sexuality. Only people who shared her needs understood. For most others, they saw what she enjoyed, what she needed, as abusive, even insane. They didn't realise that the things that were done were done out of love. [more...] | ||
| 27 Sep 06 | A different view - a story (3) | (27 Sep 06, 11:40 PM by relaxed1) |
| He smiled to himself, actually smiled visibly, as he saw her laying there sprawled across the bed. He enjoyed the ease with which she slipped into place without any question. Not that he saw her as compliant as such – in fact far from it, he was always very aware that their relationship was based upon deep mutual respect, and that it could never work any other way. Her apparent instant compliance was simply born of her desire so ease into play. But it still made the first steps so easy, and always set his mind in motion thinking about what he would do to her. It was as if she were presenting [more...] | ||
| 29 Aug 06 | The problem of expressing an opinion. (9) | (14 Sep 06, 12:43 AM by PVCcat) |
| At the weekend I was criticised on a thread for being up my own arse, pretentious, weak, for being pseudo-intellectual, for writing in a way that others wouldn't understand, even a suggestion that I was intolerant. So why am I writing this blog? To justify myself? Of course not. Simply to explain my reasoning and to put my thoughts down clearly in my own space, in my own way. [more...] | ||
| 17 Jul 06 | A pretty full year (2) | (18 Jul 06, 11:02 AM by x_Raven_x) |
| How appalling to miss a birthday, especially when it's my own. Well, not my own per se, but the first anniversary of my joining IC. Worthy of recognition I think. A whole year since I finally discovered a place on the net where it's possible to explore and discuss BDSM without encountering (too many) weirdos, timewasters, fakes and dreamers; a place where I feel at home, discussing stuff with clever like-minded people. [more...] | ||
| 10 Jul 06 | The danger of relying on safewords (8) | (10 Jul 06, 11:09 AM by MarcusStrapp) |
| Safewords are not the panacea for all ills. I had an unstinting belief in the importance of safewords as a last line of defence both for the dom and the sub. I still believe that they are an essential means of communication. I don't buy into the theory that they will be abused by someone turning the tap on and off; so far as I am concerned, a safeword stops play, instantly, with no question. There is no point in it otherwise. [more...] | ||
| 23 Jun 06 | When... (1) | (23 Jun 06, 6:58 AM by Dana_Phais) |
| When you can see my insecurities, and still trust me [more...] | ||
| 15 Jun 06 | What am I? (3) | (16 Jun 06, 1:58 PM by Platinum) |
| It's strange how you can struggle with something for ages, and then all of a sudden you achieve a moment of clarity, that moment when something just works. Being dominant, I'd always looked for a submissive. Well, as it happens I didn't find, I was found, but that's pretty irrelevant. What is relevant is that she's not submissive, or at least not a submissive. There are moments, of course. It really wouldn't work otherwise I don't think, but it's not D/s in the sense I think most people would imagine. Actually, I have no idea what most people imagine, so that's probably not a true statement. [more...] | ||
| 14 May 06 | My girl (2) | (14 May 06, 10:25 PM by clare) |
| I saw a girl [more...] | ||
| 12 May 06 | Question for heterosexual males: my response (2) | (13 May 06, 2:50 PM by relaxed1) |
| I wanted to respond to this question, but not on the thread posted, partly because I am not a heterosexual male and partly because I think it deserves a more detailed answer than can be given on the boards (or, than it is appropriate to post on the boards). [more...] | ||
| 4 May 06 | So confused (5) | (4 May 06, 10:31 PM by strictlynormal) |
| I've been forced to admit something to myself, which I never quite thought I would be prepared to do. Inter alia, I've been happily spanking and flogging away, and enjoying the vicarious pleasure of it thrilling a sub, whilst not really feeling much about it myself, or perhaps more accurately not thinking about how I felt about it. I was more interested in the control and submission, the power exchange, that was taking place. It seemed to me perfectly logical that it was the way that it worked for me. And after all, experience, the way that you experience things, your own perception of things, [more...] | ||
| 29 Apr 06 | Haiku (9) | (30 Apr 06, 9:06 AM by relaxed1) |
| Beautiful woman, [more...] | ||
| 24 Apr 06 | I don't know (1) | (24 Apr 06, 3:18 PM by Quaoar) |
| The more I know, the less I know. [more...] | ||
| 20 Apr 06 | Don't Ask Me Why (3) | (23 Apr 06, 11:20 PM by relaxed1) |
| I was asked recently to explain what I get out of domination, given that I don't like to do anything in particular (not that I dislike anything, just that I don't really have particular preferences), and I don't have any particular fetishes that are related to domination. So if I don't get any particular sadistic pleasure from inflicting pain, for example, aren't I simply responding to the needs/wants/desires of a sub - in which case in what sense am I dominating at all? And because that didn't make sense to me at all, it made me think, to try to work out what it is that motivates [more...] | ||
| 13 Apr 06 | Reasons to be cheerful (4) | (13 Apr 06, 11:12 PM by DrPeterVenkman) |
| Sitting on a train [more...] | ||
| 12 Apr 06 | Why worry (1) | (12 Apr 06, 10:32 AM by Mirren) |
| It's always struck me as curious the insecurities we all feel, even in spite of overwhelming evidence to the contrary; the recent thread on body image highlighted this quite clearly. It set me wondering why it is that, if we're honest with ourselves, many of us suffer from these nagging doubts. In fact, quite a number of the postings on IC have self-doubt at their core – “Should I do this for my domme”, “Am I wrong to want to do this”, “Does my bum look big in this” (ok, that last one might not have come directly from IC, but you get my drift). [more...] | ||
| 7 Apr 06 | Trust me to open my mouth (5) | (7 Apr 06, 10:34 AM by augusta) |
| Having spent an awful lot of my life as a fervent advocate of the importance of frank communication (you will, I'm sure, note my deliberate use of “advocate” rather than making any claim to have practiced it with total success historically), as my understanding of BDSM has developed, so has it become increasingly apparent both how essential it is – from both a safety and compatibility perspective - but equally apparent are the difficulties and dilemmas that we all face in our lives as a result. So often people post about being in relationships where they feel unable to express aspects of their [more...] | ||
