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| 18 Jan 01 | So, what's in it for a Master? | (18 Jan 01, 9:07 PM by lili) |
| So, what's in it for the Master? At first it seems obvious...he gets his washing done, his meals cooked, he never has to wash up etc etc...and, yes, he gets to have sex whenever [and indeed however] he pleases. Bringing it down to basics he gets to do exactly what he wants, whenever he wants...or does he? [more...] | ||
| 5 Jan 01 | Society of 2 | (6 Jan 01, 1:14 PM by lili) |
| Today I unsubscribed from most of the mailing lists I used to read and sometimes participate in. I finally came to the conclusion that they are, basically, unproductive and extremely unhelpful. I always joined in the hope of finding people and discussing in a productive way how things can and sometimes actually are for people interested or actually living this kind of relationship. [more...] | ||
| 17 Dec 00 | The elements of a Master-slave relationship | (17 Dec 00, 12:24 PM by lili) |
| There are many elements required to create and maintain a Master slave relationship. Some are specifically D/s but many are not, although they are essential to the healthy development of an ownership based relationship. [more...] | ||
| 9 Dec 00 | Letting go | (21 Feb 01, 9:29 AM by lili) |
| Tanos is away. [more...] | ||
| 28 Nov 00 | Enslavement and the threat to self | (21 Feb 01, 9:31 AM by lili) |
| One of the biggest problems I had (and to a much lesser extent still do have) is coping with the very real experience of "threat to self". [more...] | ||
| 25 Nov 00 | About that gift..... | (28 Nov 00, 10:42 AM by lili) |
| "Submission is a gift" is one of those lovely slogans we see bandied about all over the internet [at least a good portion of the D/s sites anyway]. It sounds nice and as submissives we like it because it gives us a sense of importance. It also makes us feel less vulnerable because it reminds us [and the dominant population] that this "gift" can just as quickly be withdrawn. [more...] | ||
| 3 Nov 00 | Another beginning. | (3 Nov 00, 3:19 PM by lili) |
| In the beginning I was scared and insecure and feeling vulnerable. I had begun to understand my needs and that those needs were not conventional but I didn't really understand why that was or what that would mean for me. I knew what the idea of slavery did to me. I knew how my mind and body reacted to the concept of being owned by someone. I did not know how that would feel or how, indeed, one was supposed to go about becomming the property of someone. [more...] | ||
| 2 Nov 00 | Acceptance | (3 Nov 00, 3:23 PM by lili) |
| I always believed that when it happened to me it would be as so many others describe. Something significant would happen, something BIG! Something that would leave me sobbing and begging at the feet of my Master. Truely a day to remember. It happened to me, but not like this, not how I expected and not as others describe. [more...] | ||
| 9 Oct 00 | The perception of needs | (6 Jul 01, 9:51 PM by lili) |
| Someone pointed out recently how an ownership based relationship can often, quite mistakenly, be regarded as the cure for all ills and how many submissives hold on to the belief that finding the right partner is the answer to all their problems, no matter what their problems are. [more...] | ||
| 8 Oct 00 | How safe is a "safe-word" | (6 Jul 01, 9:50 PM by lili) |
| Within the context of a stable, ongoing ownership based relationship how safe is a "safe-word"? [more...] | ||
| 8 Oct 00 | A question of love | (6 Jul 01, 9:49 PM by lili) |
| A question which is often raised when discussing ownership based relationships is whether or not there must be love in order for that relationship to flourish and grow and have longevity? [more...] | ||
| 30 Sep 00 | Resistance, Reactance and Changes | (30 Sep 00, 11:45 PM by lili) |
| I thought I'd write a little about acceptance and changes, really, because I have been through some strange times because of resistance and reactance to the changes brought about by the increasing loss of authority in areas of my own life. [more...] | ||
| 30 Sep 00 | Empowered submissives | (6 Jul 01, 9:47 PM by lili) |
| To live as a submissive in a patriarchal society involves a great deal of personal power. We learn to survive the everyday challenges with the additional burden of a nature which does not fit well into the "dog eat dog" mentality of life in the 21st century. [more...] | ||
