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| 7 Jul 04 | A few more munch tips | (7 Jul 04, 9:46 AM by cerrynn1) |
| ShadowRose's weblog on munches is outstanding, and I agree with her comments and recommendations wholeheartedly. Just a few more suggestions to add to hers ... [more...] | ||
| 2 Jul 04 | Orgasms: controlled, denied and on-command | (2 Jul 04, 2:36 PM by cerrynn1) |
| As I sit here writing this, I am aroused, turned on, feeling every-so-slightly "buzzed", and very happy. Why? Because yesterday evening, Matou did *not* allow me an orgasm! It's one of the many paradoxes of what we do. In the midst of a (vanilla) culture in which a tremendous number of words in the various print and electronic media are devoted to "How To Have an Orgasm Every Single Time!" or "How To Make Sure Your Girlfriend Has an Orgasm Every Single Time" or "How To Become A Multiply-Orgasmic Sex Goddess" ... here I sit, relishing the fact that I have not had one. [more...] | ||
| 29 Jun 04 | Just a little announcement ... | (30 Jun 04, 7:41 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Quite a few of you know about this already. We didn't want to generate any major fanfare about it for various reasons, but ... if you happened to read suzee's charmingly mysterious weblog of earlier today, the "Mansions" to which she refers are our own Matou Mansions, and the "Mr & Mrs M" to whom she refers are, ummmm, us. [more...] | ||
| 21 Jun 04 | Two years | (21 Jun 04, 1:40 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Two years ago today, in the presence of some of our dearest friends, surrounded by shadows and candlelight in one of our favourite places, Matou placed his collar around my neck. Since then, it has only been removed twice, briefly ... *physically* removed, that is. But that's not what matters. What matter is what my collar - - or rather, Matou's collar which I am privileged to wear -- *means*. [more...] | ||
| 15 Jun 04 | Jealousy, envy, and multiple subs | (15 Jun 04, 2:02 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Funny how when the question of monogamy v. polyamoury or non-monogamy (the last two are not the same thing, to my mind) comes up, all of us rush to our battle stations. I haven't written in a while, but couldn't resist this one. I shall insert the usual disclaimer: this is just *my* opinion, based on *our* D/s and *our* experiences. I am *not* judging others' responses, feelings, or relationships (really!). [more...] | ||
| 16 May 04 | Re: Self-esteem and submission | (16 May 04, 9:27 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Just a quickie as we are preparing to head off to the BBB. For sabrina ... in my opinion (and it's *just* my opinion, mind you!), low self-esteem and submissive tendencies are not *connected*, although certainly some submissives do suffer from low self-esteem. Some dominants suffer from low self-esteem as well. It's one of those "human being problems", not a D/s problem ... in my opinion, at least! [more...] | ||
| 10 May 04 | Moving Matou Mansions, and some special "thank yous" | (10 May 04, 12:26 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Some of you -- our many dear, long-suffering friends -- know that Matou and I have, for *months*, been involved with trying to move house. Finally, *finally*, over the past couple of weeks, we have in fact been able to get most of our belongings into the new incarnation of Matou Mansions. Still no telephone or internet hookup, so the computer still resides at the old Matou Mansions, where I am now composing this weblog. The new place is a rental (which makes the difficulties we've had getting the transaction completed even more frustrating) so it's not really ours in an ownership sense, [more...] | ||
| 22 Apr 04 | Skiing, BDSM ... and "advice" | (23 Apr 04, 8:50 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Years ago, and long before I ever got into BDSM, I was passionately into downhill skiing. Now, I can see some commonalities: the "rush", the excitement, that frisson of anticipation tinged with fear, the way when things were going well (on a run, as in a scene) I would feel transported to a different head space, almost a different plane of existence. The parallels continue, especially (in my opinion) in the learning processes for each activity ... [more...] | ||
| 20 Apr 04 | The BBB, demos, "bratting", bamboo, alarm men, and ... | (20 Apr 04, 12:32 PM by cerrynn1) |
| As always, we had a great time at the BBB on Sunday. Many thanks to all who gave us feedback after Matou's demo ("The Art of the Cane"). The responses and comments we receive, along with (of course) the response from our audiences *during* each demo we do, encourage us to continue to do demos and workshops. Few people who present workshops and demos at BDSM events get paid -- we certainly don't. Both of us, but especially Matou, put a great deal of time and effort into planning what we will do each time. Feedback and response are our rewards. [more...] | ||
| 13 Apr 04 | "It won't happen to me!" | (14 Apr 04, 9:42 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Not often, but from time to time, weblogs appear on this site in which we are regaled with stories of Doms taking their subs to clubs, saunas, parties or what- have-you, and "playing" by ordering the sub to suck off or engage in miscellaneous other sexual activities with other people. It is frequently unclear whether or not these "other people" are known at all to the parties concerned, or whether they are total strangers. Moreover, what is often notable by its absence is any mention of condom use or any other form of safer-sex precaution. One such weblog was posted yesterday. I just [more...] | ||
| 6 Apr 04 | On "bad submissives" -- for hellsbells (and anyone else who cares to read) | (6 Apr 04, 9:13 PM by cerrynn1) |
| I am going to write something here that is defiantly opinionated, possibly pushy, maybe even arrogant. I guess that makes me a Bad Submissive ... or at least a bolshy submissive! Well then, so be it. I am never terribly distressed if anyone wants to call me a "bad submissive". Here's why: in my opinion, there is no such thing as a "bad submissive" or a "lousy submissive" (and no such thing as a "bad Dominant" either, but for the purposes of this blog I'm sticking to the submissive orientation; also, if you prefer to think of yourself or your partner as a "slave" or a "bottom" rather [more...] | ||
| 15 Mar 04 | Rules and contracts ... or the lack thereof | (15 Mar 04, 7:07 PM by cerrynn1) |
| I've read with interest several weblogs discussing rules and contracts in different people's D/s or BDSM relationships. Consequently, I felt inspired to ramble on a bit about the role of rules and contracts in Matou's and my relationship. Except ... um, there aren't any. Specific, spelled out "rules", that is. I actually had not even thought about this until a discussion Matou and I had last week about rules that some Dominants set for their submissives: some, in our opinions, appropriate and others (again only in our opinions) less so. Matou then asked me, "What rules have I set [more...] | ||
| 7 Mar 04 | I'm back! Plus a bit about what this has all been about ... | (7 Mar 04, 7:06 PM by cerrynn1) |
| I have looked forward to writing this weblog for a very long time. [more...] | ||
| 10 Feb 04 | Loki strikes again | (10 Feb 04, 7:17 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Another weblog in less than two days ... hmmm. This is a short one (really!) -- I write only because desperate times call for desperate measures. [more...] | ||
| 8 Feb 04 | Weblogs and public play: connections? | (8 Feb 04, 10:46 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Last night -- Saturday night, GMT -- I began having the urge to write a weblog. It might have been coincidence, but at the same time that I had this thought, Matou and many of our friends were at a party, one of our favourite regular events in Birmingham. I was wishing, intensely, that I could be there, that I could play with Matou in this place where we have played so many times before, in the presence of our friends. Then that wish was joined by an almost equally intense desire to write; specifically, to write a weblog. Why were these desires travelling in tandem? I began thinking [more...] | ||
| 28 Jan 04 | Learning the hard way | (30 Jan 04, 4:03 AM by cerrynn1) |
| My computer has suddenly gone into a coma. I am composing this weblog, surreptitiously, on my mother's desktop, and shall attempt to erase all traces as soon as I have uploaded. Were it not for the fact that I feel compelled to write at the moment, I would not risk doing this. To my readers, let me first say that this may well be a bit of a "downer" to read. I contribute it to the public forum in the hopes that others may learn something that I seem incapable of learning except by bitter experience. Or perhaps incapable of learning until now. [more...] | ||
| 23 Jan 04 | A joint weblog from both of us, on punishment | (23 Jan 04, 11:46 PM by cerrynn1) |
| At the risk of seeming (at best) self-referential or (at worst) self-aggrandising, I'm going to post links to Matou's and my own weblogs from earlier last year on the topic of punishment ... and then add a bit. Matou has kindly offered a few comments as well! So this is a first for us -- a *joint* weblog! [more...] | ||
| 23 Jan 04 | Happy Birthday to Oph and emenac... | (23 Jan 04, 4:35 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Belated (sorry!?!) birthday greetings to you both! And Steph? I quite like "Stevie" -- I think it suits you! [more...] | ||
| 17 Jan 04 | No longer lost for words | (17 Jan 04, 6:22 AM by cerrynn1) |
| The words that I have found, the words below, are for Matou (as are all my words, and everything that I am). But all of you -- our friends -- are welcome to stay and read on. I call you "our friends" because I believe that anyone who has read our weblogs with sympathy and understanding ... or at least with an open mind and heart ... is a friend, even if we have yet to meet you in person. [more...] | ||
| 17 Jan 04 | Thank you, everyone, and ... lost for words | (24 Jan 04, 7:16 AM by cerrynn1) |
| First of all, *thank you* so much, everyone, who sent me birthday wishes in their blogs, and emails and cards. Your thoughts helped make the day special ... love and hugs to you all! [more...] | ||
