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| 26 May 07 | Cocooning (3) | (27 May 07, 9:19 AM by caprycorn) |
| Are any of you Babylon 5 fans? If so, you may recall the scene. If not, it doesn't matter. [more...] | ||
| 29 Dec 06 | Learning to love my inner sadist (5) | (30 Dec 06, 11:03 PM by caprycorn) |
| No, I'm not going Domme. No, I'm not even going switch. I know full well that deep down, as far as my own psychological/sexual wiring is concerned, I am a submissive (and a pretty darned happy and contented one at that). [more...] | ||
| 27 Dec 06 | Greetings, and a five year summary (5) | (28 Dec 06, 3:20 PM by maihri) |
| Happy Christmas/Saturnalia/Winter Solstice/Channuka/O-Sho-Gattsu/New Year's, to each and every one of you (no doubt I have missed a few festive events, but hey, at least I have tried!) Hope everyone is contented and well and peaceful and stuffed to the gills with mince pies. I know we are. [more...] | ||
| 9 Apr 06 | Just once ... (11) | (11 Apr 06, 2:05 AM by OpheliaUK) |
| Well, a quick look around suggests that I don't know anyone here anymore. No, that's not true. I see a weblog from at least one person that I know (and like and respect and all those good things very much, and in real life, even!). And a couple from people I've met. And a couple from people whom I remember from blogs of long ago. [more...] | ||
| 17 Feb 05 | Just wandering through the neighbourhood and thought I'd say 'hi'... (10) | (18 Feb 05, 5:58 PM by alexandraa) |
| ...Anyone remember me? My last weblog was waaaaayyyyy back in September, I see. So I thought I'd say hello to any friends still out there and catch up a bit. So often when people disappear off IC it's because some dreadful personal crisis has brought their BDSM/scene-related life to a screeching halt. With me -- with us, rather -- that's certainly not the case. [more...] | ||
| 30 Sep 04 | The 24/7 threesome, monogamy/polyamory debates, and domming the washing machine | (1 Oct 04, 9:50 AM by cerrynn1) |
| With reference to the current debate: the last three years of my former marriage were a 24/7, living- together threesome (the ex-husband plus another woman plus me). Unsurprisingly, as a result of that experience I have thought quite a bit about monogamy and its alternatives. I wrote about my adventures in a full-time polyamorous relationship at some length when a previous mono/poly debate was raging in the blogs. Some people seemed to find it interesting. If you want to read about it, it's at: [more...] | ||
| 22 Sep 04 | Communication, expanding "limits", great scenes & more communication ... | (22 Sep 04, 9:50 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Much of the debate over "limits" and how they should best be handled seemed to stem from people having different conceptions of what the word "limit" means in this context. If a Dominant and a submissive were discussing "limits", and had not clearly defined the key term(s) involved, possibly some communication misfires might result. In fact, the weblog debate of the last couple of days might just serve as a metaphor for what can and all too often does happen in "real life" interpersonal communication. A misunderstanding, a communications misfire, led to anger, bitterness and bad feeling. [more...] | ||
| 13 Sep 04 | Re: "being monogamous" (or not) & "being normal" (or not!) | (13 Sep 04, 2:39 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Center's recent weblog on "being monogamous" invited responses, so here's mine for what it's worth. This is something I've touched on before in past weblogs ... issues of mono- and poly- relationships, jealousy, playing with others ... so I run the risk of repeating myself here, and probably also risk boring my handful of regular readers to a shameful degree. But I did have a couple of new thoughts on it all, for center and anyone else who may be pondering these topics. [more...] | ||
| 10 Sep 04 | To slave-mai, and to everyone ... | (10 Sep 04, 8:24 AM by cerrynn1) |
| I doubt you'll ever read this -- after all, we don't know each other. But know that you are in our thoughts ... and if any deities or spirits are listening, my wishes for you go to them. [more...] | ||
| 2 Sep 04 | Safecalls | (2 Sep 04, 12:18 PM by cerrynn1) |
| It's been my opinion for a while that the main benefit of the safecall system comes from what you learn about your prospective person in the process of gathering the necessary safecall information. [more...] | ||
| 31 Aug 04 | Responses: training and compromises ... and thank-you's | (31 Aug 04, 2:39 PM by cerrynn1) |
| As some of you may have picked up from fleeting, sarcastic remarks in some of my other blogs, I'm not especially sympathetic to the concept of "training". Larra, in her next-to-last weblog, stated very well a number of the same reasons why I am skeptical, although she was substantially more diplomatic than I am likely to be if allowed to state my opinions on this particular topic. [more...] | ||
| 23 Aug 04 | IC weblogs, life in general, and a "first"! | (23 Aug 04, 11:33 AM by cerrynn1) |
| The IC weblog "environment" seems to have been undergoing one of its periodic metamorphoses of mood, tone and character(s?) recently. I've been (sporadically) writing here long enough now to have witnessed these changes before. I've stuck with it, though, mostly because I have come to know some wonderful people through IC. At the last BBB, as she wrote in her own weblog last week, Matou and I had the chance to meet Pussylash and Perverted. Actually, we knew (and liked, and like!) Perverted already, but this was the first time we had the opportunity to meet the delightful and charming [more...] | ||
| 12 Aug 04 | Submission, definitions, labels: kudos and rantings | (12 Aug 04, 11:22 AM by cerrynn1) |
| First the kudos ... to caprycorn (yesterday's weblog) and to unDIMinished{D} for brilliant, cogent and sensible comments on this most pernicious topic. I can't resist adding a few of my own reflections, but really they have already said it all. Because the most recent weblogs on the subject have focused on "submission" and its variants I will stick with that, but everything I will say below applies just as well to the dominant side of things. That said, let the rantings begin. [more...] | ||
| 5 Aug 04 | Epiphany | (5 Aug 04, 10:38 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Not a rant. Not a scene report. No advice to those who don't want it. Scarcely relevant to D/s or BDSM. There are other things I should be doing right now. Who knows why I am doing this, writing this, to all of you, people who either don't know us or scarcely know us, and most likely don't care either way. Perhaps it was Dewi Cinci's weblog, his beautiful description of waking up next to the person you love, whom you want to make happy. It reminded me of a realisation I had last night. [more...] | ||
| 2 Aug 04 | Miscellaneous responses: slaves, subs, limits | (2 Aug 04, 1:56 PM by cerrynn1) |
| So that oldie-but-goodie, "what's the difference between a slave and a sub", seems to have surfaced again. Alexandra's weblog is one of the best answers to that question that I have ever read. If you haven't read it yet, go read it now. It's at: [more...] | ||
| 30 Jul 04 | On "exile" ... for ShadowRose (and anyone else who cares to read!) | (30 Jul 04, 2:00 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Once again, I must say how much I enjoyed ShadowRose's latest weblog (yes, we'll have to make that mutual admiration society official some day!). Although our experiences of living in a country not your own are very different, much of what she wrote resonated for me. Reading her weblog, and recalling an incident from yesterday (one among many) led me to write a bit on the phenomenon of living in a culture that is not *quite* your own ... [more...] | ||
| 22 Jul 04 | Rape, rape fantasies and safewords | (22 Jul 04, 10:45 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Strangely enough, Matou and I were talking about this very topic last night: about how many submissives, myself included, have and enjoy "rape fantasies" (or "ravishment fantasies" or "forced sex" fantasies). Many submissives, myself included, have and enjoy these fantasies, *and* enjoy enacting BDSM or D/s scenes involving forced sex. Some submissives, myself included, have and enjoy such fantasies, and enjoy such scenes (enacting the fantasies), even when we have experienced *real*, non-consensual rape. [more...] | ||
| 15 Jul 04 | D/s community, support and intervention (a joint weblog) | (15 Jul 04, 10:09 PM by cerrynn1) |
| I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. Really ("yeah, right", I hear you say). Matou has added a few comments, so this is in fact a joint weblog by both of us. His contributions are so indicated. [more...] | ||
| 12 Jul 04 | "Proud to be yours" -- in answer to a question | (12 Jul 04, 2:49 PM by cerrynn1) |
| At the conclusion of my last blog (the rant on cliques), as is my custom, I addressed a few words to Matou. As often (not always, but often), my final words were "...and I am so proud to be yours." [more...] | ||
| 9 Jul 04 | Cliques, "cliquishness", shyness, munches and more ... | (9 Jul 04, 2:18 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Ok, I admit it. This is going to be a bit of a rant. Mostly it will be a bit of a rant about cliques and "cliquishness", in response to several recent weblogs on the "munch" topic ... but perhaps not quite the response that some might expect. Also, be warned: I have allowed myself to indulge in some minor sarcasm here, so the faint-of-heart may as well turn back now. Still with me? Then let us proceed ... Our handy paperback Collins Reference English Dictionary offers the following definitions for "clique": "1. small exclusive set 2. faction, group of people". All right. I am [more...] | ||
