| 26 May 07 | Cocooning (3) | (27 May 07, 9:19 AM by caprycorn) |
| Are any of you Babylon 5 fans? If so, you may recall the scene. If not, it doesn't matter. [more...]
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| 29 Dec 06 | Learning to love my inner sadist (5) | (30 Dec 06, 11:03 PM by caprycorn) |
| No, I'm not going Domme. No, I'm not even going switch. I know full well that deep down, as far as my own psychological/sexual wiring is concerned, I am a submissive (and a pretty darned happy and contented one at that). [more...]
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| 27 Dec 06 | Greetings, and a five year summary (5) | (28 Dec 06, 3:20 PM by maihri) |
| Happy Christmas/Saturnalia/Winter Solstice/Channuka/O-Sho-Gattsu/New Year's, to each and every one of you (no doubt I have missed a few festive events, but hey, at least I have tried!) Hope everyone is contented and well and peaceful and stuffed to the gills with mince pies. I know we are. [more...]
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| 9 Apr 06 | Just once ... (11) | (11 Apr 06, 2:05 AM by OpheliaUK) |
| Well, a quick look around suggests that I don't know anyone here anymore. No, that's not true. I see a weblog from at least one person that I know (and like and respect and all those good things very much, and in real life, even!). And a couple from people I've met. And a couple from people whom I remember from blogs of long ago. [more...]
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| 17 Feb 05 | Just wandering through the neighbourhood and thought I'd say 'hi'... (10) | (18 Feb 05, 5:58 PM by alexandraa) |
| ...Anyone remember me? My last weblog was waaaaayyyyy back in September, I see. So I thought I'd say hello to any friends still out there and catch up a bit. So often when people disappear off IC it's because some dreadful personal crisis has brought their BDSM/scene-related life to a screeching halt. With me -- with us, rather -- that's certainly not the case. [more...]
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| 30 Sep 04 | The 24/7 threesome, monogamy/polyamory debates, and domming the washing machine | (1 Oct 04, 9:50 AM by cerrynn1) |
| With reference to the current debate: the last three
years of my former marriage were a 24/7, living-
together threesome (the ex-husband plus another woman
plus me). Unsurprisingly, as a result of that
experience I have thought quite a bit about monogamy
and its alternatives. I wrote about my adventures in a
full-time polyamorous relationship at some length when
a previous mono/poly debate was raging in the blogs.
Some people seemed to find it interesting. If you want
to read about it, it's at: [more...]
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| 22 Sep 04 | Communication, expanding "limits", great scenes & more communication ... | (22 Sep 04, 9:50 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Much of the debate over "limits" and how they should
best be handled seemed to stem from people having
different conceptions of what the word "limit" means in
this context. If a Dominant and a submissive were
discussing "limits", and had not clearly defined the
key term(s) involved, possibly some communication
misfires might result. In fact, the weblog debate of
the last couple of days might just serve as a metaphor
for what can and all too often does happen in "real
life" interpersonal communication. A misunderstanding,
a communications misfire, led to anger, bitterness and
bad feeling. [more...]
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| 13 Sep 04 | Re: "being monogamous" (or not) & "being normal" (or not!) | (13 Sep 04, 2:39 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Center's recent weblog on "being monogamous" invited
responses, so here's mine for what it's worth. This is
something I've touched on before in past weblogs ...
issues of mono- and poly- relationships, jealousy,
playing with others ... so I run the risk of repeating
myself here, and probably also risk boring my handful
of regular readers to a shameful degree. But I did
have a couple of new thoughts on it all, for center and
anyone else who may be pondering these topics. [more...]
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| 10 Sep 04 | To slave-mai, and to everyone ... | (10 Sep 04, 8:24 AM by cerrynn1) |
| I doubt you'll ever read this -- after all, we don't
know each other. But know that you are in our
thoughts ... and if any deities or spirits are
listening, my wishes for you go to them. [more...]
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| 2 Sep 04 | Safecalls | (2 Sep 04, 12:18 PM by cerrynn1) |
| It's been my opinion for a while that the main benefit
of the safecall system comes from what you learn about
your prospective person in the process of gathering the
necessary safecall information. [more...]
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| 31 Aug 04 | Responses: training and compromises ... and thank-you's | (31 Aug 04, 2:39 PM by cerrynn1) |
| As some of you may have picked up from fleeting,
sarcastic remarks in some of my other blogs, I'm not
especially sympathetic to the concept of "training".
Larra, in her next-to-last weblog, stated very well a
number of the same reasons why I am skeptical, although
she was substantially more diplomatic than I am likely
to be if allowed to state my opinions on this
particular topic. [more...]
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| 23 Aug 04 | IC weblogs, life in general, and a "first"! | (23 Aug 04, 11:33 AM by cerrynn1) |
| The IC weblog "environment" seems to have been
undergoing one of its periodic metamorphoses of mood,
tone and character(s?) recently. I've been
(sporadically) writing here long enough now to have
witnessed these changes before. I've stuck with it,
though, mostly because I have come to know some
wonderful people through IC. At the last BBB, as she
wrote in her own weblog last week, Matou and I had the
chance to meet Pussylash and Perverted. Actually, we
knew (and liked, and like!) Perverted already, but this
was the first time we had the opportunity to meet the
delightful and charming [more...]
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| 12 Aug 04 | Submission, definitions, labels: kudos and rantings | (12 Aug 04, 11:22 AM by cerrynn1) |
| First the kudos ... to caprycorn (yesterday's weblog)
and to unDIMinished{D} for brilliant, cogent and
sensible comments on this most pernicious topic. I
can't resist adding a few of my own reflections, but
really they have already said it all. Because the most
recent weblogs on the subject have focused
on "submission" and its variants I will stick with
that, but everything I will say below applies just as
well to the dominant side of things. That said, let the
rantings begin. [more...]
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| 5 Aug 04 | Epiphany | (5 Aug 04, 10:38 AM by cerrynn1) |
| Not a rant. Not a scene report. No advice to those
who don't want it. Scarcely relevant to D/s or BDSM.
There are other things I should be doing right now.
Who knows why I am doing this, writing this, to all of
you, people who either don't know us or scarcely know
us, and most likely don't care either way. Perhaps it
was Dewi Cinci's weblog, his beautiful description of
waking up next to the person you love, whom you want to
make happy. It reminded me of a realisation I had last
night. [more...]
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| 2 Aug 04 | Miscellaneous responses: slaves, subs, limits | (2 Aug 04, 1:56 PM by cerrynn1) |
| So that oldie-but-goodie, "what's the difference
between a slave and a sub", seems to have surfaced
again. Alexandra's weblog is one of the best answers to
that question that I have ever read. If you haven't
read it yet, go read it now. It's at: [more...]
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| 30 Jul 04 | On "exile" ... for ShadowRose (and anyone else who cares to read!) | (30 Jul 04, 2:00 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Once again, I must say how much I enjoyed ShadowRose's
latest weblog (yes, we'll have to make that mutual
admiration society official some day!). Although our
experiences of living in a country not your own are
very different, much of what she wrote resonated for
me. Reading her weblog, and recalling an incident from
yesterday (one among many) led me to write a bit on the
phenomenon of living in a culture that is not *quite*
your own ... [more...]
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| 22 Jul 04 | Rape, rape fantasies and safewords | (22 Jul 04, 10:45 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Strangely enough, Matou and I were talking about this
very topic last night: about how many submissives,
myself included, have and enjoy "rape fantasies"
(or "ravishment fantasies" or "forced sex" fantasies).
Many submissives, myself included, have and enjoy these
fantasies, *and* enjoy enacting BDSM or D/s scenes
involving forced sex. Some submissives, myself
included, have and enjoy such fantasies, and enjoy such
scenes (enacting the fantasies), even when we have
experienced *real*, non-consensual rape. [more...]
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| 15 Jul 04 | D/s community, support and intervention (a joint weblog) | (15 Jul 04, 10:09 PM by cerrynn1) |
| I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible.
Really ("yeah, right", I hear you say). Matou has
added a few comments, so this is in fact a joint weblog
by both of us. His contributions are so indicated. [more...]
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| 12 Jul 04 | "Proud to be yours" -- in answer to a question | (12 Jul 04, 2:49 PM by cerrynn1) |
| At the conclusion of my last blog (the rant on
cliques), as is my custom, I addressed a few words to
Matou. As often (not always, but often), my final
words were "...and I am so proud to be yours." [more...]
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| 9 Jul 04 | Cliques, "cliquishness", shyness, munches and more ... | (9 Jul 04, 2:18 PM by cerrynn1) |
| Ok, I admit it. This is going to be a bit of a rant.
Mostly it will be a bit of a rant about cliques
and "cliquishness", in response to several recent
weblogs on the "munch" topic ... but perhaps not quite
the response that some might expect. Also, be warned:
I have allowed myself to indulge in some minor sarcasm
here, so the faint-of-heart may as well turn back now.
Still with me? Then let us proceed ...
Our handy paperback Collins Reference English
Dictionary offers the following definitions
for "clique": "1. small exclusive set 2. faction, group
of people". All right. I am [more...]
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