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6 Nov 08	Sadomasochism: From De Sade to the DSM-IV (24)	(1 Apr 09, 9:04 PM by silver_lotus)
A few people on IC have asked me to put up a uni paper I wrote on Sadomasochism and so I selflessly (scratch that - delightedly!) oblige.... [more...]
20 Jul 08	The dominant-submissive blur & the power continuum	(20 Jul 08, 4:57 AM by bellahindia)
I think that there are 2 types of sub and 2 types of Dom in that 1 type of each wants a dynamic that focuses on the sub worshipping the Dom and the other type of each wants a dynamic that focuses on the Dom actively dominating the sub. [more...]
4 Jan 08	I'm a submissive, hear me ROAR (and waffle... endlessly) (11)	(17 Jul 08, 10:22 PM by Bronson)
There was a time when any questioning of my submissive identity would have brought about a panic. This may have been because, then, I was in my first ever D/s relationship and, out of naivety, believed that unless one was O's 'soul sista', one was not a real submissive at all. And if one was not a bona fide, factor 10 submissive...? Well then one was not the Dominant fantasy, instead, nothing, crap, a pale imitation. [more...]
22 Dec 07	When a submissive says No (15)	(26 Dec 07, 8:26 PM by chartreuse)
I did initially write this in response to a post on the discussion boards but I felt bad about perpetuating a derailment of a thread and so decided that I'd post it here instead. [more...]
15 Dec 07	First Christmas (13)	(26 Dec 07, 4:06 PM by Oceanus)
This will be the first Christmas without my dad. [more...]
30 Dec 05	whoring out my poetry (3)	(5 Dec 08, 8:41 PM by TheKey)
Having written my first poem for years, I decided to dig out some of my old attempts to compare. It's shown me that I really was a morbid git as a teenager. None of that tra la la wordsworth stuff, more like sylvia plath without the panache. In fact, plath was one of my favourites at the time, along with the rest of the misery bunch like anne sexton and emily dickinson. I guess I was the poster child for teenage angst [more...]
22 Dec 05	irrational insecurities - how to overcome them? (14)	(23 Dec 05, 2:14 PM by verte)
I fear that I have gone stark raving mad. Every so often my emotions can get so overblown that they just scoot right off the charts. Everyone has insecurities, it's pretty much par for the course of life, but what about when they are fundamentally based in bullshit and when they can threaten to upturn an otherwise perfect relationship? [more...]
31 Oct 05	The Weight Debate - a final attempt to explain (9)	(31 Oct 05, 6:00 PM by MKane)
I was going to start my weblogging with something perhaps a little witty, maybe something cute, definitely something not-too-controversial... but I rarely stick to my plans. And, besides, what with all the hoopla my Master and I have unwittingly started, I feel the need to defend my corner in my actual corner. [more...]