alexandraa's blog on Informed Consent http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/weblogs/alexandraa/ The IC RSS Gadget webmaster@informedconsent.co.uk 360 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:37:35 GMT Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:37:35 GMT Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:37:35 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/324437/ For those that might recognise it.... yes... This is an old blog from January 2006 about a playtime Colbeh and I had together way back then, it was a favourite and got a bizarre 5,000 hits, re printed here by the request of someone special.... I hope those that saw it first time around enjoy it again, and that new readers get something from it too.... Thu, 12 Jan 2012 12:23:23 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/323227/ In a funny mood today.... tired of men who only want to have sex. Absolutely nothing wrong with a man keen on sex, but it'd be nice if they tried to speak to me at all. I have shagged at random in the past, played at adult clubs with people whose names I didn't even know, played at SM clubs with people I did know, but then I was with my partner at the time, so it was all a different context and different objective in truth. Now I am a woman alone, seeking sexual fulfilment, sm fun and friendship. Even..... OH MY GOD..... a relationship.... Tue, 23 Mar 2010 16:20:55 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/267454/ “Why do we like pain?” A friend asked me today. Good point? Or is it? Why doesn’t everyone like pain? Sex, life, birth, death, it’s all pain isn’t it? I think liking pain, giving and/or receiving, is normal. Yes and I know everything, so there..... Sat, 27 Feb 2010 15:14:08 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/265140/ I visited Informed Consent today, as you can see. I feel divorced from it nowadays. There seem so many young people on here now, playing games with power exchange and SM. In a way how lucky they are and in another way I think - how frightening that young people, still learning about life and relationships, would meddle with power exchange. Keep it to SM play I want to tell them. Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:54:35 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/260864/ Sometimes you want sex like a cosy old jumper, pull it over your head and snuggle in it Sun, 15 Mar 2009 09:05:49 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/230094/ Some people make an art of it. You know the ones, they change the world according to what they want to remember happened, as opposed to what really happened. In some ways we need to do that, our brains do that for us, to help us be happier, keep us sane….. I suppose…. Me? I’ve always been a starkly upfront face the facts and suck it up kind of gal. I think so anyway? After all, do people who rewrite their own history realise they are doing it? Wed, 04 Mar 2009 17:55:56 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/228892/ It's a sad thing but it has to be done. I'm moving flats and this means the agents will be popping in and out with prospective tenants giving little notice to me. It would not be consensual to leave them out, on clear display, would it? Sun, 15 Feb 2009 17:52:25 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226853/ For my Valentine, a Thank You Sun, 15 Feb 2009 10:05:47 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226792/ I have a friend, we've known each other for more years than I care to remember, over 25 years in fact eek! Surely I'm not that old. For the last nine years she has been in a relationship I struggle with on many fronts. You'd think hey, look at me, with a married man, into power exchange and SM, dabble with another woman, what's to not like about anyone else's relationship choices. Wed, 04 Feb 2009 21:53:08 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/225433/ A reply to Sun, 25 Jan 2009 11:19:55 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/224016/ I feel very stressed at the moment. It makes me angry. Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:48:17 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/223354/ This weekend I seem to have been bombarded with friends who are at logger heads with their partners. He said/she said/they said. I listen patiently, understanding completely that they all still love their partners/friends/family and the drama was actually all arguments about nothing. They just wanted to vent but had no real hatred for their chosen ones. They all knew I would just listen and not judge. Sat, 17 Jan 2009 09:40:33 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/223019/ So earlier this week, I nearly left IC for good, nearly did a bat and ball job. To my amazement I found my views deleted by “admin”. Apparently I was, quote “slagging off” someone. Has administration been delegated to a 13 year old I did wonder??? I've hummed and harred. To leave completely a site that no longer encourages debate and learning, or to battle on and stick with something that has been a good resource for knowledge, debate, titillation, gossip and laughs over the years. I'm still undecided, but for now will keep my views to weblogs, where apparently I will not be censored…. they assure me…... Sun, 16 Nov 2008 09:32:46 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/215563/ I ache. My body aches. It aches all over. I feel stiff and tense. I need his touch. I need it like air to breathe and water to drink. I need it. My body yearns for him, like a plant stretching to the sun. I can’t control or stop it, I just need it. An essential need, not a want or a desire, a need. I need his touch. Need to feel that release, tensions leaving me, stresses disappearing, problems gone and forgotten. I need his touch. Sat, 08 Nov 2008 10:10:17 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/214602/ I get confused with all the discussions I see on here about people who don't have sex. Don't want it, don't like it, don't enjoy it, enjoy the feeling of not having it, enjoy the feeling of resisting it, enjoy the feeling of not allowing their bodies to respond sexually, enjoy the feeling of having their sexual release controlled (ok that one I can understand), enjoy announcing how long they haven't had sex for, enjoy sado masochistic activities but no sexual intercourse. … Tue, 28 Oct 2008 20:31:23 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/213236/ I want him to touch me, to run his hands over me Sun, 26 Oct 2008 20:47:44 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/213005/ I’m missing him. Which is silly. He’s out of the country. It’s only been a couple of days and he's back tomorrow. With texts and phone calls too. But I’m still missing him. I live alone anyway. How can I miss him? But I do. Sun, 12 Oct 2008 12:40:01 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/211201/ You have an ache inside. A need. You yearn for….. Something…. Your partner wants sex…. Dull boring sex, so gentle and quiet, you want to spit on them….. So sweet you could turn into beating them with a spiked club and laughing at their bruised broken bodies….. Turning your heel and walking away without a thought. Yet, you aren’t sadistic nor dominant….. Sun, 12 Oct 2008 09:55:04 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/211191/ I've been running a course on leadership skills the last couple of weekends, yesterday one of the trainers was doing a piece on responsibility. You had to think of situations where you give up responsibility. In an everyday work/life situation this is about nil for me. Sexually of course a great many thoughts sprung to mind but nothing I was going to share with anyone. In the end I managed to come up with being a passenger on an aeroplane. People assumed I had a fear of flying, no, I don't, I just don't think about where I am or what could happen while I'm doing it but I don't mind flying at all. Thu, 21 Aug 2008 17:11:06 GMT http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/205063/ There are a few things of late that have got me thinking. Meeting up with old friends from the BDSM Community, looking at how our relationships have developed over the years, seeing how people have settled into their lives and found a way to integrate their BDSM fantasies with reality. It's really interesting to see how different people work that out as their relationships mature and experiences turn fantasy into reality.