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IC : Weblogs : alexandraa : "Irritable & Things That Make No Sense"

Irritable & Things That Make No Sense (10)

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Posted by alexandraa* on Sat 3 Feb 07, 7:23 AM

Weird mood this morning. Probably because lack of sex and beatings makes me sulky and its been oooooo………….. a week. Quite the reverse to a lot of people who seem to use any excuse to avoid sex. Mind you, I've been there and done that with my ex husband. Couldn't stand the twat coming anywhere near me in the last couple of years of our marriage. I'd never put up with that again. Need to have that full on body crazy sexual attraction to someone. I'd not want any old rubbish sex. Men seem quite happy in general with any old rubbish sex, well otherwise why would they send those fucking annoying memos that are only about sex?

You sit there, open up your PC, having dinner at 6.30pm or whatever, breakfast maybe, or you could be in the middle of watching Richard and Judy, makeup washed off, in your scruffs for a chilled out evening. Potter into IC to see if anyone has sent nice memos. And what do you get? Tedious crap. Why do they bother? It's quite beyond me. And does anyone ever respond to them? It irritates the fuck out of me and I'm not really sure why. Am I supposed to be instantly aroused and running off for a wank? Ooo oooo some completely fucking daft twat stranger has said he loves to spank girls, ooooo so sexy. That his slaves always beg him for more. Yeah whatever. Fuck off. This girl isn't interested in your sweaty pants junior nonsense.

I think it's that men's memos mostly annoy me because they tend to be so utterly thoughtless. You know how they are, rolls eyes, and when you're looking for a dominant, thoughtless is quite frankly the last thing that's attractive. In fact it's completely nauseating sometimes, disappointing often and yes irritating on the whole. That's probably why I have such a short fuse with crappy stupid memos. It's about expectations. Maybe I need to change my profile.

This slave girl has high expectations. How's that for a mixed message?

The “this slave girl” crap annoys the fuck out of me too while I'm on an irritable roll. I know, I know each to their “blessed be” own. (Yes all the blessed be stuff I find…. unsettling actually. It creeps me out when people try to bless me. Shudder. Don't force your religion into my face thank you very much). She says forcing her opinions into people's faces. I think I'll use the, “it's my blog and I'll say what I like” joker/get out of jail free card right there.

I'm thinking after all the full on adrenalin rush of yesterday (see LJ blogs for more info if you're in the slightest bit interested) I've kind of dropped into a I need to kill someone mood. Like sub drop, it's “charged up for interview” drop. No question I was as enthusiastic as they come. Practically climbing across the table. Probably scared the crap out of them. Like most men actually. They seem terrified of me.

Why is it a full on sexual intelligent woman scares the crap out of most men? That's hard too when you're a submissive. A scared thoughtless dom is clearly not the best match in the world for me. If only I could find that connection with the sexual charge of being a dominant woman, I'd be made. It makes me think, shit I need to tone it down and dumb it down, but then where do you end up? In some shitty marriage where you're unfilled, frustrated and burying your husband under the patio before you can say Jack Robinson.

What do you mean I'm irritable this morning? Fuck off.

Where does that Jack Robinson phrase come from anyway? What a stupid phrase. Just Googled it. Everyone agrees it means, immediacy, something that happens fast, but there are a variety of suggestions as to why that phrase has come to mean that. I think my favourite explanation is -

Between 1660 and 1679 the officer commanding the Tower of London was one Sir John Robinson. It is suggested that during his command, the speed and frequency of beheading with an axe made the phrase “before you can say Jack Robinson” come into popular usage as a term meaning immediate action. Jack being a well known form of John.

Although it's always perplexed me (but I've never dwelled on it) why Jack should be a nick name for John. It makes no sense at all, just for a change.

Edited Sat 3 Feb 07, 7:29 AM by alexandraa

Replies

3 Feb 07, 8:19 AM
x_pixie_x
UK, 3 yrs 
Grins. Good Morning.

When a pixie does 'bad' things.... it's called showing affection!!!

3 Feb 07, 8:31 AM
alexandraa*
UK(NW), 5 yrs 
Better now lol and I've had a nice memo so that's good.

Good morning to you too

xxx

Be careful what you wish for

3 Feb 07, 8:49 AM
Venus_Inbetweenus*
UK(WR), 2 yrs 
Omg I can relate with every word you have said. This is one of the reasons i've been stalling so much. I'm not looking for an introduction via many different helpful hands, with messages left me such as, "I'll help you learn the ropes, or show you the ropes or prepare you".

If they actually bothered to try and get to know me first and meet as friends and showed themselves as available to some exclusivity it may actually spark up a response, but when most of them live a 3 hour plus journey a way, it's hardly practical for anything more than the occassional meet anyway.

I think temperament (is that spelt correctly?) wise i'm of a similar position too. I keep getting told that I must be a Domme because i'm quite head strong and opinionated. I have considered the switch option, but my gut instinct was sub. I'm more confused now than I was before I let others influence my path. Again I think this good reason to wait until I find someone I truely click with before doing anything. I'll just continue making friends and watching, i'm sure by taking notice some of the pieces will naturally fall in to place with my jigsaw.

Glad you had one decent response today anyway lol.

Go to www.funfashion.co.uk for all your fun fashion needs!

3 Feb 07, 8:58 AM
Island_man*
UK, 2 yrs 
Just for the record, I am going to send you a memo. I do that sometimes not in an attempt to begin a seduction process but to show that men can write honest friendly memos. Weird I know, as is posting about it here. ;-)

ask for your own limitations and, sure enough, they're yours

3 Feb 07, 9:32 AM
Wildfire
UK, 4 yrs 
I hope your day improves! x
3 Feb 07, 10:38 AM
MarcusStrapp*
UK(CB), 3 yrs 
Oh sweetie, sweetie, sweetie!

I'll send you a one liner to cheer your way through the day!

Actually I will bet a pound to a penny that I have writen an order of magnitude, quite possibly two orders of magnitude more words by way of introduction than you! Bold talk huh? But then you are a rather lovely female, quick and bright and interesting and a self proclaimed submissive woman to boot! I mean, hens teeth, hens teeth!

Have you ever written an unsolicited introduction to someone on here? How many? I shouldn't think you could possibly have much call to. They must be throwing themselves at your feet, even if so many of them do it with such lack of flair and style. I have to say I did not belive things were quite so dire until fairly recently.

For myself, I have entered into lengthy and the most delightfully protrcated affair of letters with folks on here. Some of it, one correspondence in particular was how I might imagine an Edwardian romantic courtship of letters (well with a bit of Salacious Strapp thrown in). It's not all bad my sweet.

I rather like the courtship process. Perhaps no obvious right or wrong ways. Each one unique.

P.S. Shouldn't the P.S. be redundant in the 21st century. We all have cut and paste. But no!, It hangs around as a delightful en-passant, the after thought of informality and affection. And, as I write I tell you recent events have moved be to blog. Oh dear it may just overrun one line, But then when a man has been in receipt of gifts beyond measure of value, what else can he do? It's only half done, and we are on the third chapter. Oh dear. I fancy that you may well eat your words and wish for a one liner ;-)

Regards -- Marcus Strapp

Conventional wisdom is often more about convention than wisdom.
-- Marcus Strapp

3 Feb 07, 11:04 AM
alexandraa*
UK(NW), 5 yrs 
MStrapp wrote:
P.S. Shouldn't the P.S. be redundant in the 21st century. We all have Cut and Paste.

I much prefer CP to PS too.

As for the rest it might have been flowery but at least it made sense.... is that scary that your words made sense to me?

Yes I think so.

Be careful what you wish for

3 Feb 07, 11:26 AM
caprycorn*
UK, 4 yrs 
alexandraa wrote:
Why is it a full on sexual intelligent woman scares the crap out of most men? It makes me think, shit I need to tone it down and dumb it down, but then where do you end up? In some shitty marriage where you're unfilled, frustrated and burying your husband under the patio before you can say Jack Robinson.

Even talk about dumbing down and I'll slap you purple. There you go, one of your problems solved! Can't do much about the sex thing though.... hmmmm you're on your own with that one (which is no solution whatsoever, I appreciate).

Anyway, rant away although you've probably scared off most of those that weren't terrified anyway. But as you and I have both said before, if they are easily scared then they aren't going to be able to cope any further in, so might as well sort them out now!

Try not to maim too many though. Bloodstains are a bugger to wash out

xxxxxxxx

My imaginary friend thinks that you have a problem

3 Feb 07, 11:40 AM
alexandraa*
UK(NW), 5 yrs 
caprycorn wrote:
Anyway, rant away although you've probably scared off most of those that weren't terrified anyway.

Hahahhahhaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

You can but try........

Be careful what you wish for

3 Feb 07, 12:41 PM
MushroomGirl
UK, 2 yrs 
I found myself nodding in agreement and smiling wryly as I read your blog. What you say about the vast majority of domly memos is only too true.

Until I rewrote my profile I used to get showered with up to six utterly banal two liner memos from "doms" every day. Oh and when the memos were longer than two lines they tended to be things of this sort.

I sometimes wonder if it's actually a REAL person writing these things... or if they're just some especially annoying kind of computer virus. I would sometimes like to believe that the writers of some of these memos are actually lovely, charming articulate gents in real life but I can only suspend my sense of disbelief for so long.

Before entering into correspondance with someone from IC I read what they have written, assuming of course there are things there to resd, which in the case of one liner doms there ususally isn't.

 
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