| 21 Oct 06 | Protection and Security (1) | (22 Oct 06, 11:17 AM by Sweetiejar) |
| Dominance and submission can mean so many different things to so many different people. There are more than enough labels and definitions flying around than you can shake a stick at. I was reading a pretty ordinary book today and there was a line within it where the heroine of the scene was talking about her current male lover. She was saying how she could see he needed to have his life controlled and that made him feel protected and happy. [more...]
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| 12 Oct 06 | Sleepless Nights (3) | (16 Oct 06, 10:09 PM by subtrainer69) |
| Finally, after well over a year of pondering and browsing online and in person, debating and deliberating, asking opinions of all my friends and family and then ignoring them, I have chosen a new bed frame. Mostly I was driven to decision making because my current beloved bed has become so squeaky and creaky it wakes me up when I turn over. As for the noise it makes when some bedroom action is going on, that's like several cars are being crushed during Jamaican tin drum jamboree. It's enough. [more...]
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| 10 Oct 06 | The Weekend & Name Changes | (10 Oct 06, 9:42 AM by alexandraa) |
| Busy busy busy weekend and yet relaxing and well chilled out too. Good company, good food and good wine what more can you ask for? Oh good sex, I'll leave that bit to your imaginations. [more...]
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| 9 Oct 06 | Blogging For Backlash | (9 Oct 06, 7:51 PM by alexandraa) |
| Yes I am a sado-masochist. I spent my formative years hiding my sexuality. That disgusts me when I look at it, and when I think the current government wants to introduce yet more laws to restrict our lives. How dare anyone restrict our free choice of sexuality? How dare they? Please explain this to me because I cannot grasp why. [more...]
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| 3 Oct 06 | The Touch of a Whip (16) | (4 Oct 06, 6:15 PM by alexandraa) |
| A flick, a flutter, a touch on your shoulder like a spider saying hello. A tap, a brush, a few strands of hair knocked astray. A point sweeping across your back barely there yet leaving a mark, you know it. A cut, hard, fast and fleeting then back again, heavier, gone again almost before you sense it. A crack, sharp and loud, a slash as if a steel edge were laid across you. [more...]
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| 27 Sep 06 | Abuse and Anger | (27 Sep 06, 10:41 PM by alexandraa) |
| It was a long time ago. I lived with anger without realising it. I don't know why I didn't realise it. I don't think I twigged actually until the relationship was in total meltdown, about 5 years ago now. I'd started talking to Colbeh already by then and he said, you know you are in an abusive relationship don't you? I knew at that point that I was but hadn't truly faced that fact until that moment. The first of many things he made me face. [more...]
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| 26 Sep 06 | I Should Be So Lucky, Lucky, Lucky, Lucky! (4) | (26 Sep 06, 10:25 PM by The_AntiSub) |
| Oh yes, we (FT and I) are off to see Kylie. Yep yep yep. Planning our show girl outfits already. Lots of glitter obviously, goes without saying. Tickets and hotel all booked for January. You're jealous right? Hahaha! I laugh at you, and, what's more we have tickets really nearly the front. Oh yes. Just checked on ebay and I could be reselling them already for half again as much. They'll be worth a fortune in January. [more...]
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| 25 Sep 06 | Can There Be Submission Without Dominance? (3) | (26 Sep 06, 7:01 AM by Moonbeam) |
| Labels, not my favourite thing as my regular readers will know, but I do have definitions I apply to my own emotional relationships, and expectations that run alongside those definitions. To me submission and dominance are sides of a coin, equal and opposite, in balance and attuned. Sadism and masochism similarly so. [more...]
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| 20 Sep 06 | Completely Impatient (1) | (22 Sep 06, 5:10 PM by alexandraa) |
| Why use one word when you can talk for twenty minutes to impart the same level of information? I'm not the most patient of people. My most hated thing is to go to meetings and be kept waiting. Especially when the people concerned have begged and pleaded and understand the pressures on my working day. I've learnt my lesson in times gone by and keep very strict hours. Either it gets crammed into that or it's bollocks to it. Work life balance and all that. It's very important. [more...]
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| 18 Sep 06 | Time Travel & Tiffany's | (18 Sep 06, 7:17 PM by alexandraa) |
| I went back in time today. I went to a meeting with an organisation I used to work for 4 years ago. I'm developing some new areas of work with them that I think will prove interesting and exciting for both our organisations. I had mixed experiences of working for them, some good, some bad but still have a lot of respect for their approach and field of work. They are still the kind of organisation I'd look to work for in the future. Albeit at a seriously senior level, of course!! [more...]
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| 16 Sep 06 | Something For the Weekend? (3) | (16 Sep 06, 2:09 PM by Strangelove) |
| Its been a whirlwind couple of weeks. I've worked hard and played hard. Tonight it's both Hades and Nemesis, I'm torn across the country about where I'd like to be, special parties at both, and I'd like to go to both too, but I'm just worn out. Enough. I fell asleep on the sofa last night, crawled to bed and slept nine hours solid. I don't do that. Seven hours and I'm up and bouncing, raring to go. I still feel wobbly legged and could happily go back to bed… Sounds like there's a poem in that. [more...]
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| 13 Sep 06 | My god the way that people live… (11) | (15 Sep 06, 3:12 PM by travelling_man) |
| I mean each to their own and all that. You know, live as you choose. It has to be what you feel comfortable with, its your own home. I'm not a manic compulsive cleaner up-er myself (although evil twin might say otherwise) but I do like things to be neat and tidy and hopefully cleaned within the last week or two. But fuck me rigid I just happened upon Channel 4 and its not a pretty sight. “How clean is your house?” It's a scum hole that's what. Raze it to the ground NOW. [more...]
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| 11 Sep 06 | All the Fs……. or... Adventures in Bristol (11) | (11 Sep 06, 10:10 PM by Zardos) |
| A fabulous weekend of friends, frolics, fun, fizz, fetish, fairs, favourite restaurants and more fizz. And fuck-thing of course. PD needs to change his name to something beginning with F, he's not fitting in here. She extended a most marvellous welcome to me, as of course did PD (thank you kind sir), and I had a really, really great time. Absolutely exhausting, we finally collapsed, after a non-stop 2 days, in our not so glamorous pyjamas (although mine are black and silky, we'll not go into hers), in front of the Full Monty (aww what a fantastic film that is) with pizza and salad. [more...]
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| 7 Sep 06 | Playing The Negative Game (3) | (8 Sep 06, 5:14 PM by subsumed) |
| I'm tired tonight. It's been a long day at work and I didn't sleep well last night, my upstairs neighbours came home from holiday at 3am and brought a herd of tap dancing elephants with them. They all unpacked and then took showers until about 4.30am. I'm also tired of people playing the negative game. It's not my way and it drains me. [more...]
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| 4 Sep 06 | Oral Sex..... or Suck it and See (15) | (12 Oct 06, 1:14 PM by paulhooters) |
| Oral sex it's a funny old thing don't you think? I spent many a year being disgusted by the thought. In fact I can just about remember my incredulity when the first man tried to push my head down that way. What the fuck was he after? I couldn't imagine. Must be just a slip of his hand because surely…. he couldn't mean.…. no no… people don't actually, really truly, put those things in their mouths do they? Get away. [more...]
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| 3 Sep 06 | Monkey Business | (3 Sep 06, 10:00 PM by alexandraa) |
| For some reason I have the desire to write my memos and weblogs in the form of satirical verse. OK OK so piss taking bollocks would be closer to the truth of the matter. But hey it's hard to get out of the style. Book your wedding and funeral compositions now, or better still have a word with fuck_ thing, she's on a complete roll. Can't stop herself. It's like trying to talk to a Shakespeare play at the moment. [more...]
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| 3 Sep 06 | An Offering to All (10) | (4 Sep 06, 3:21 PM by ScarletPimpernel) |
| The Breeze Touches My Tender Soul [more...]
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| 31 Aug 06 | Damp in My Drawers (4) | (1 Sep 06, 3:52 PM by Faistoidesbleus) |
| So the question is, to hide sex weapons or not to hide sex weapons… My landlord came round the other day and I had about 60 seconds to thrust a plethora of canes, crops, floggers, whips, paddles and chains into the draw under the bed. And then, oh shit!!!, a couple of dildos… Now I keep walking into the bedroom thinking fuck what's missing? Oh!! Where are my beautiful weapons? Where are my canes and crops? What is this empty space on the wall? This empty stand on the floor? Sob. [more...]
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| 30 Aug 06 | BDSM Protocol - The Sequel (1) | (30 Aug 06, 11:07 PM by Skyhook) |
| So the truth of the matter is……. Once you've been snared by that Dom, hook line and sinkered onto your knees, by sensible talk and a twinkle in his evil eye. Ensnared by his possession of your mind. What do you want? [more...]
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| 28 Aug 06 | BDSM Protocol - Reality or Fantasy? (18) | (29 Aug 06, 1:35 PM by x_Thunder_x) |
| Sometimes its all too serious on here don't you think? Lots of deep and meaningful discussions on submission and dominance and yet so little humour. You'd think we all performed our BDSM without laughing. Oh you do? Oh. That's me drummed out of the club then…. Mind you I have been in trouble in the past for unnecessary and uncontrollable nervous laughter at the wrong point. But then that's part of the fun too sometimes, surely? [more...]
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