| 21 Aug 08 | The Holy Grail of Power Exchange (7) | (23 Aug 08, 12:16 PM by thea_x) |
| There are a few things of late that have got me thinking. Meeting up with old friends from the BDSM Community, looking at how our relationships have developed over the years, seeing how people have settled into their lives and found a way to integrate their BDSM fantasies with reality. It's really interesting to see how different people work that out as their relationships mature and experiences turn fantasy into reality. [more...]
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| 10 May 08 | Happy Birthday Augusta (14) | (14 Aug 08, 12:33 AM by DDDDom) |
| Augusta was her name [more...]
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| 23 Apr 08 | It's In His Touch........ | (23 Apr 08, 6:06 PM by alexandraa) |
| He rolls over and looks at me. [more...]
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| 20 Apr 08 | If it Makes You Happy.... (16) | (21 Apr 08, 8:45 AM by lucky_1) |
| If it makes you happy..... Then why the hell are you so sad.... (Cheryl Crow). [more...]
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| 4 Mar 08 | Falling From Grace… or the Journey into Submission (10) | (6 Mar 08, 6:42 PM by alexandraa) |
| His voice? His touch? His presence? His smile? The smell of his maleness? His laugh? His frown? His joy? His sadness? The way he moves his body? His sex drive? His cock? The whole fresh sunniness of him? The electricity between us? His intellect? His work? His knowledge? His wisdom? [more...]
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| 20 Feb 08 | Come "out" as a submissive? (14) | (7 Mar 08, 2:11 PM by Scribbles) |
| Up until about 7 years ago, the word submissive had never really been part of my world. Other than to be something you'd use in a slightly disparaging way or a word you'd use about animals, meaning the opposite to aggressive, rather than something related to power exchange. [more...]
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| 25 Nov 07 | Is Power Exchange Really So Far From Vanilla? (7) | (25 Nov 07, 4:51 PM by caprycorn) |
| I seem to be struggling to express myself at the moment. [more...]
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| 3 Aug 07 | Roller Coaster Rides (2) | (3 Aug 07, 11:20 PM by TwinkleXx) |
| You can't go wrong with a good fucking and beating so they say, and they're not wrong. What do you mean who are “they”? You don't know anyone do you? Cuh! [more...]
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| 24 May 07 | The Joy Of Sex…. (with control) (2) | (25 May 07, 9:17 AM by lucky_1) |
| The Joy of Sex - I know, a cheesy somewhat prissy and cold 1970s publication on the one hand, (actually that kind of reminds me of some people's attitudes when it comes to all things rude and wetly messy), but on the other hand, what joy there is to be had in sex when you have that match, that compatibility between two, three or more of you. I've always had a healthy interest, an appetite, a longing for sexual pleasure. I think it's one of the things that really gives me no shame when it comes to desires and nakedness. [more...]
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| 8 May 07 | Is BDSM Unhealthy? And Surrendered Wives is it? (18) | (10 May 07, 8:28 AM by colbeh) |
| Channel 5 last night for those of you who missed it. A programme, they titled Obedient Wives but the women, and training programme, yes training programme, termed themselves as Surrendered Wives…. as in surrendering all authority to their husbands. [more...]
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| 24 Mar 07 | Power Exchange - Nature or Nurture??? (11) | (25 Mar 07, 7:50 PM by Insistor) |
| I've been thinking a lot lately about power exchange. Why I seek it and prefer it. Why, after all, would anyone choose freely to be in someone else's absolute control? It's a bit barking mad when you think about it like that. The point is you don't seek to be in anyone's control, you seek to be in the control of a particular and very special person, someone you trust to take care of your emotional well being. Someone you trust to take your utterly exposed self and protect it better than you can protect it yourself. [more...]
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| 19 Feb 07 | Pain Satiation (2) | (8 May 07, 5:33 PM by Prescription) |
| I had a craving. A need to feel pain, not any old pain, but sexual erotic cruel and evil pain, to feel that red hot passionate intensity that only sado-masochism will bring to sex. It seemed it had been a long time. My mind plays games with me. My body craves the heat, the burn of the lash. My mind dithers, wants it, hates it, fears it. [more...]
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| 11 Feb 07 | Submissive, Sexuality, Fluffy Bunnies & Wolves (14) | (16 Mar 07, 5:46 PM by Ferrymans) |
| The word submissive means so many things to so many different people. I think over the years the main assumptions I've encountered about the word are pretty negative actually, in and out of the scene. Personally I'm happy with my nature and understand my needs. I don't see a conflict between my can do confidence and independence, and my submissive nature. Or do I? After all, why am I writing this? [more...]
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| 4 Feb 07 | B&Q Not Only Rope But Humiliation Too | (4 Feb 07, 9:21 AM by alexandraa) |
| Just searching on Google this morning for the opening times of my local B&Q. Don't get excited I just need some wall fixings for some candle wall thingies I've bought. Found the opening times no problem but noticed on the list a link to a BBC news story….. so followed it. [more...]
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| 3 Feb 07 | Irritable & Things That Make No Sense (10) | (3 Feb 07, 12:41 PM by MushroomGirl) |
| Weird mood this morning. Probably because lack of sex and beatings makes me sulky and its been oooooo………….. a week. Quite the reverse to a lot of people who seem to use any excuse to avoid sex. Mind you, I've been there and done that with my ex husband. Couldn't stand the twat coming anywhere near me in the last couple of years of our marriage. I'd never put up with that again. Need to have that full on body crazy sexual attraction to someone. I'd not want any old rubbish sex. Men seem quite happy in general with any old rubbish sex, well otherwise why would they send those fucking annoying [more...]
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| 26 Jan 07 | Something for the Homophobic (23) | (29 Jan 07, 4:44 PM by alexandraa) |
| Research by Prof Henry Adams of the University of Georgia in the USA suggests that 80 percent of homophobes get sexually aroused by gay erotic imagery, lending support to the theory that overt homophobia is often evidence of repressed homosexual feelings. [more...]
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| 24 Jan 07 | Can There Be Dominance Without Superior Intelligence? (18) | (28 Jan 07, 10:43 PM by Maugrim) |
| I spoke to one of my friends last night for 2 hours.. Yes 2 hours. We do tend to do that. Don't ring each other for months and then when one of us finally picks the phone up, we just fall straight into chattering like we'd just ended our last conversation 5 minutes ago rather than 5 months ago. [more...]
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| 21 Jan 07 | Females that like to be Dominated - or... look back in time (12) | (24 Jan 07, 11:11 PM by M_n_cheeky) |
| Don't know what made me do it but I just went on an old, old site from years gone by, a community group I belonged to when I first started exploring BDSM. Grammatically I think it should be females “who” like to be dominated, not “that” like… I think we used to argue about that too. We used to argue about a great deal of things but had a good rowdy fun time doing it. [more...]
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| 17 Jan 07 | Balance in a Power Exchange Relationship (13) | (18 Jan 07, 10:56 PM by TheGovernor) |
| You see many discussions within this site about power exchange, is it 24/7 or this or that or something else entirely. It's always been a simple thing to me. Do I feel sufficient respect to submit to someone's guidance and control, or not. One or the other. No degrees of submission, no ifs and buts or maybes. Just a simple yes I respect that person and want his control or no I wouldn't trust him to make a decision about what colour toilet paper I use, never mind my emotional well being. To what degree a dominant might provide that dominance is another thing entirely. [more...]
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| 11 Jan 07 | Sex, Your nose & Orgasm Control (5) | (12 Jan 07, 12:14 AM by velvet_minx) |
| Never say I can't find links between diverse subject matters. Here's an interesting thing or three. [more...]
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