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| 23 Aug 06, 6:56 PM x_Thunder_x UK(E), 9 yrs        |
I agree. On a related theme I was talking to a sub at Hades last Saturday about feet. I don't have a foot fetish per-se but love sucking a sub's toes if they are pretty. A male sub on the other hand would beg to be allowed to kiss a Domme's foot or to suck her toes. It's all in "head space" if I want a sub to sit on my face or to suck her toes I'll just do it whereas a sub, doing the same, will beg for it. I remember a few years ago a female sub telling me she was shocked that her Dom wanted her to pee on him. She thought that submissive. I told her that if it was him asking for it then it wasn't. ^Thunder^ | |||
| 23 Aug 06, 10:22 PM yoursbutnotmine UK, 5 yrs |
I'd agree that it's the mindset that makes it dominant or submissive, but even that isn't always a clear thing, depends whose mind you go by. A guy once had me use a dildo on him and called that me topping. As far as I was concerned, I did it at his request and for his pleasure and that doesn't feel like topping to me. But I can understand a sense of ambiguity with it if it made him feel submissive. Anyway, we both liked it so I didn't debate the point. It's more fun taming fire than ashes. | |||
| 23 Aug 06, 10:29 PM wastrel UK(TS), 5 yrs |
All depends on how you feel about it. A person doing something that makes them feel dominant is being dominant. A person doing something that makes them feel submissive is being submissive. The actual act is irrelevant as long as it works for them.
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| 25 Aug 06, 7:24 PM hillfortlover1 UK, 5 yrs |
I can equate with that. Part of my enjoyment is oral sex with my slave. I enjoy teasing her, and I just love it when she climaxes and nearly breaks the ropes. As to how I breathe, through my ears (grin)
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| 30 Aug 06, 10:15 PM wastrel UK(TS), 5 yrs |
It's a useful skill.
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| 31 Aug 06, 9:11 PM SeeksDommewithaheart 5 yrs |
I,ve had it done to me in the past on several occaisons and i absolutely loved/adored it. | |||
| 10 Sep 06, 5:54 PM steve_curious UK(L), 7 yrs |
All depends on how you feel about it. A person doing something that makes them feel dominant is being dominant. A person doing something that makes them feel submissive is being submissive. The actual act is irrelevant as long as it works for them. [/quote] Well Ive read this post with great interest, so thought id add my views, as i love being facesat/queened or whatever the latest term is and i consider myself submissive, but feel i will never fit into the BDSM lifestyle as i enjoy, the lighter side of D/s, but have absolutely no interest in being hung from the ceiling and having pins stuck in my balls or whatever but each to there own. To me facesitting is the anticipation, knowing whats goin to happen as she slowly lowers herself to my eager mouth and giving up control n trusting that person, I've never experienced prolonged facesitting, maybe one day, but how can you say its not a submissive act, if it was 69 ing then I could understand, but surely the person doing is the Dom and the person on the receiving end is the sub, no matter what the act may be and who says the sub cant enjoy it too?. | |||
| 11 Sep 06, 1:39 AM Original_Rebel UK(CT), 10 yrs |
More face sitting oh yes please more and more  he's not the messiah, he's a very naughty boy....... | |||
| 11 Sep 06, 12:03 PM naturallynaughty 5 yrs |
I actually enjoy it more if I think the sub isn't enjoying it. To me it's a very dominant act. It gives a delicious feeling of power. | |||
| 11 Sep 06, 12:04 PM MistressRouge UK(B), 6 yrs £ |
A submissive's face, is the best seat in the house I say Torment & Pleasure.... entwined together.... |
