Thu 10 Aug 06, 8:09 PM
Iceshimmer
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' Edited Fri 29 Feb 08, 4:06 PM by Iceshimmer
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10 Aug 06, 8:14 PM
MarkVarley
UK(PE), 7 yrs
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Speaking personally, my name is Mark, call me by it. It is expected for subs to be always polite etc when conversing with Doms / Dommes but I think it's best if everyone tries to be polite with everyone.
I do find other subs/slaves refer to me as Sir etc and if thats the protocol they have agreed to then fair enough.
Your submission is yours and you submit to whom you choose to. Be polite and respectful to everyone you deal with and you'll not go far wrong.
Mark -
Twisted Photography.co.uk - Twisted Photography IC Profile
"You have the right to remain Violent"
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10 Aug 06, 8:16 PM
elfling
6 yrs
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MarkVarley wrote:
Speaking personally, my name is Mark, call me by it. It is expected for subs to be always polite etc when conversing with Doms / Dommes but I think it's best if everyone tries to be polite with everyone.
I do find other subs/slaves refer to me as Sir etc and if thats the protocol they have agreed to then fair enough.
Your submission is yours and you submit to whom you choose to. Be polite and respectful to everyone you deal with and you'll not go far wrong.
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What he said 
'Wo cao ni ba bei zi zu zong'
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10 Aug 06, 8:17 PM
Kas_Pasha
5 yrs
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I agree with you, fireglow, 100%. one to one is best and right
fireglow wrote:
My partner and I are fairly new to "the scene", only about a year or so, so we are constantly learning about the protocols and etiquette. A question on another thread got me thinking. I only submit to him, both in real life and cyber, I notice that some subs, submit to all Dom/Dommes online, for example following their instructions to go to bed etc., I have also noticed, for a long time that it is expected to address Doms on some sites formally and ofcourse there is the use of capital letters when writing about Dom/Dommes.Personally I don't use capitals and I wont call anyone other than him Sir or follow their instructions,I feel a d/s relatioinship is a personal thing between the two of us which we will only share with others of our choice, if or when the inclination/opportunity arises.What do other people think?
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10 Aug 06, 8:34 PM
Romola
UK, 7 yrs
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fireglow wrote:
My partner and I are fairly new to "the scene", only about a year or so, so we are constantly learning about the protocols and etiquette. A question on another thread got me thinking. I only submit to him, both in real life and cyber, I notice that some subs, submit to all Dom/Dommes online, for example following their instructions to go to bed etc., I have also noticed, for a long time that it is expected to address Doms on some sites formally and ofcourse there is the use of capital letters when writing about Dom/Dommes.Personally I don't use capitals and I wont call anyone other than him Sir or follow their instructions,I feel a d/s relatioinship is a personal thing between the two of us which we will only share with others of our choice, if or when the inclination/opportunity arises.What do other people think?
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I don't submit to anyone else and it's never been a problem for me. I wouldn't really be interested in a site that insisted I dropped my capital and addressed people as Sir or Ma'am. If my lover sends me to bed online, he can be fairly sure that i will probably go within about an hour, if i think I should. If anybody else sends me, it will be because I asked them to. i haven't got further, I'm having to jiggle too much. I will get there but its too fragmented and needs to be knitted together, tits assorted out of sexuence
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10 Aug 06, 8:35 PM
MariaB
UK(GU), 6 yrs
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fireglow wrote:
My partner and I are fairly new to "the scene", only about a year or so, so we are constantly learning about the protocols and etiquette. A question on another thread got me thinking. I only submit to him, both in real life and cyber, I notice that some subs, submit to all Dom/Dommes online, for example following their instructions to go to bed etc., I have also noticed, for a long time that it is expected to address Doms on some sites formally and ofcourse there is the use of capital letters when writing about Dom/Dommes.Personally I don't use capitals and I wont call anyone other than him Sir or follow their instructions,I feel a d/s relatioinship is a personal thing between the two of us which we will only share with others of our choice, if or when the inclination/opportunity arises.What do other people think?
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I think a lot of this comes down to too much cyber and online Masters/Mistresses stuff. Each to there own and all that but the very fact that another Dom would expect you to call him Sir even though you blatantly have a Master is a big presumption on his part that you are submissive to all.
I always tell my subs that they are submissive to me and not everyone else out there and although I would expect them to respect others I would also expect others to respect them. I would also expect my sub to stand up for his/herself if another Dominant crossed the line. Heartsong, my pony girl, has permission to kick anyone and kick them hard if they touch her with a crop!!!
The only thing I don't tolerate is intolerance
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10 Aug 06, 8:58 PM
Kiriosity
UK(BH), 6 yrs
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fireglow wrote:
My partner and I are fairly new to "the scene", only about a year or so, so we are constantly learning about the protocols and etiquette. A question on another thread got me thinking. I only submit to him, both in real life and cyber, I notice that some subs, submit to all Dom/Dommes online, for example following their instructions to go to bed etc., I have also noticed, for a long time that it is expected to address Doms on some sites formally and ofcourse there is the use of capital letters when writing about Dom/Dommes.Personally I don't use capitals and I wont call anyone other than him Sir or follow their instructions,I feel a d/s relatioinship is a personal thing between the two of us which we will only share with others of our choice, if or when the inclination/opportunity arises.What do other people think?
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Yes, i agree totally... and as for the respect word, i tend to treat everyone with the same degree of respect they show me, not just along this path but in every day life. 
~Things are changing
But nothing changes
And still there are changes
Le roi est mort, vive le roi!
There is no teacher
Who can teach anything new
He can just help us to remember
The things we always knew ~
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10 Aug 06, 9:10 PM
Elohims_jay
UK(B), 7 yrs
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I am sub to only one person, however there are a number of Dom/Dommes that have, over time, earnt my respect although I do not sub to them
As for those I do not know ? To me they are no different to any other "normal person" I may speak to on-line. Just because this particular forum is D/s related does not mean they automatically have my respect other than that I treat any person with.
I do not use the upper/lower case form or writing. I do not call anyone Sir/Madam/etc because their persona here indicates that they are Dom/Domme.
If anyone, online or in real life, decided they could Dom me they would soon find that this so called sub is a strong independant woman that does not take BS purely because of the term submissive. "Other men said they have seen angels, But I have seen thee
And thou art enough." ~ G. Moore ~
Edited 10 Aug 06, 9:11 PM by Elohims_jay
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10 Aug 06, 9:12 PM
squiggle
UK(SW), 9 yrs
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elfling wrote:
MarkVarley wrote:
Speaking personally, my name is Mark, call me by it. It is expected for subs to be always polite etc when conversing with Doms / Dommes but I think it's best if everyone tries to be polite with everyone.
I do find other subs/slaves refer to me as Sir etc and if thats the protocol they have agreed to then fair enough.
Your submission is yours and you submit to whom you choose to. Be polite and respectful to everyone you deal with and you'll not go far wrong.
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What he said
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Hello Mark  --
London Alternative Market | SquiggleWeb web design
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10 Aug 06, 9:12 PM
DancesWithPussycats
UK(TW), 7 yrs
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Romola wrote:
If my lover sends me to bed online, he can be fairly sure that i will probably go within about an hour |
Hah!
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10 Aug 06, 9:13 PM
Romola
UK, 7 yrs
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Bluemax wrote:
Romola wrote:
If my lover sends me to bed online, he can be fairly sure that i will probably go within about an hour |
Hah!
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I did say probably! i haven't got further, I'm having to jiggle too much. I will get there but its too fragmented and needs to be knitted together, tits assorted out of sexuence
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