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| Tue 8 Aug 06, 1:55 AM masterwolfie 5 yrs |
x Edited Sun 12 Nov 06, 11:17 PM by masterwolfie | ||
| 8 Aug 06, 2:01 AM Masterstroke  UK(WF), 7 yrs   |
Chat freely and sweat a lot. | ||
| 8 Aug 06, 3:33 AM TheWhiteWitch UK, 5 yrs |
I am certainly no expert, but I would suggest that you just be yourself. It is tempting, when one is insecure to play the role of what one thinks a dom(me) should be ("KNEEEEL, YOU HOUND!" :p) but, sadly, I believe that invariably looks offputting. Just hold your head up high, treat your friend with respect and have fun. The two of you will figure it out together. | ||
| 8 Aug 06, 10:33 AM Kiriosity UK(BH), 6 yrs |
I agree totally...... and take some deodorant
~Things are changing
But nothing changes
And still there are changes
Le roi est mort, vive le roi!
There is no teacher
Who can teach anything new
He can just help us to remember
The things we always knew ~ | ||
| 8 Aug 06, 10:44 AM sylvan UK(FK), 6 yrs |
Have you thought of the 2 of you going through a checklist of likes/dislikes/possibles etc?? You can easily get one online. eg. http://www.fetishexchange.org/bdsm-checklist.sht... (Easy to google more) That way it is clear that both of you are thinking along the same lines. It's all about mutual benefit after all.....
A masochist walked up to a sadist, and said 'Hurt me'. The sadist said 'No' and walked away. | ||
| 8 Aug 06, 10:54 AM tails_SB UK(CB), 6 yrs |
Yep the checklist is a good idea, and definitely be yourself - for a first meeting I would usually be wanting to get to know the person before the D/s dynamic came into play. | ||
| 8 Aug 06, 11:17 AM ll_2ndSkin_ll UK, 7 yrs |
Communication is most important thing. You're both meeting up for the same reason - to get to know more about each other, the physical reality of the situation, your presence with each other. Remember why you want to be there, remember who you are and what you are offering. Talk to each other, imagine what you will do together in private, have a glint in your eye and talk some more. Above all enjoy your time together. Be safe and make sure someone knows where you are. Have a nice time.
The large print giveth and the small print taketh away - Tom Waits. | ||
| 8 Aug 06, 11:24 AM MKane 9 yrs |
Don't piss in the jacuzzi --------------------------------------------------- - | ||
| 8 Aug 06, 11:45 AM Adwhored UK(BN), 10 yrs  |
I think treat it like any meeting. See if you like each other, if you can relax and get on. You don't have to do anything, you dont need a check list, you dont even know if you like him! if you do, send out a check list afterwards! Relax, enjoy the sauna, close your eyes, chat, gossip, have fun and relax. You'll soon know if you like him or not!!! It doesnt matter if hes the first or 30th person you meet, you still have to like him to move it on! You dont have to be the butch bloke dom, just be you and it will be fine. We're all so quick nowadays and want immediate answers and solutions that we forget to say its ok, lets just enjoy the next hour. We are too busy thinking yeah but what if!!! Fuck what if and grab right now. Debs "As darkness cascades shadows frolic eagerly tormenting me so. My longing for you grows fierce, breathlessly, I await you..." Edited 8 Aug 06, 11:48 AM by Adwhored | ||
| 9 Aug 06, 1:32 AM SinPar US, 12 yrs |
It's important to me to find out just how compatible I am with a person face to face (and they with me) before we ever start acting on things we discussed. I wouldn't call it a "don't kiss on the first date" phenomenon as much as a "know the depth of the water before diving in head first" type thing. SinPar -- The weak are the most treacherous of us all. They come to the strong and drain them. They are bottomless. They are insatiable. They are always parched and always bitter. They are everyone's concern, and like vampires they suck our life's blood. (Bette Davis) | ||
| 9 Aug 06, 1:38 AM Whore_Licks 6 yrs |
I'd suggest dropping the 'Master' tag on my knees i think clearer |
