Posted by SeaofDreams
on Tue 1 Aug 06, 10:13 PM to SeaofDreams's blog.
ok wise tin'ter'net i come bearing offerings of gold and food......well not really
i have an opportunity to go and see an Ex of mine in the US of A in October but i don't know if i want to go!?!?!?!?!?!
i absolutely adore this person (ie not the other EX that i rant about all the time) but we were kind of forced apart by distance - she went home, i stayed here.
she is seeing another guy who she seems to like very much and ill can only get to ehr for a night, it will cost 200 pounds and involve around 16 hours on a plane (don't start me on the global warming here)
she seems very happy and i dont want to upset there "thing"
i also dunno what i will feel like and i dunno if i wanna risk having to leave AGAIN!!
do i go and risk screwing up. or do i not go and accept the loss.
errrrr.....................
Edited Tue 1 Aug 06, 10:14 PM by SeaofDreams
| 1 Aug 06, 10:17 PM vivina_HM 6 yrs |
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| 1 Aug 06, 10:18 PM submissiveangharad PL, 7 yrs |
go go go go go!! if there's a what if,...you'll never know until you go and if you dont go you will always wonder ! | |
| 1 Aug 06, 10:37 PM SeaofDreams UK(G), 6 yrs |
yeah but like was said above. going all out with dinner and roses is not going to change the fact that i will have to come home and she will have to stay in Boston. will you be there tomorrow? "Today will be full of opportunities .......... take them" you are spot on as far as my problem is concerned and i thank you very much for the reply however this statement is exactly why i am in this situation because i am the sort of person that would normally have already booked the flight. if i dont go i wont know but if i do ill risk being unhappy with the result or a consequence of the result. im older wiser and scarred now ...... "No, I'm not going to climb that [El Capitan]. All of these ropes and gear are to tie up your wife and daughter." — Jeff Batten. | |
| 1 Aug 06, 10:37 PM Skyhook 7 yrs |
It's a tough one for you to weigh up. Can you handle the fact that you are visiting as a 'friend'? You've been invited so obviously she wants to see you and you are welcome; but you will have to meet the other fella. I don't for a second think she would 'flaunt' him but it may be tough on you. Or... I had a relationship with a girl a while ago, love her to bits, - it didn't work out, distance was a bit of an issue but to be honest we weren't really compatable that way. She is still my closest friend though. I visited her recently, and I was bricking it quite frankly; she was going to cook a meal for me and her boyfriend. But in the end it worked out great! I liked him, it was fantastic seeing her again - and I felt I'd grown by handleing it so well. And the odd thing was; while I'd been thinking of myself, the fella was going through his own worries wondering about my past with his Girlfriend. She was stuck in the middle a bit, so think of how your ex will feel; be strong and be the guy she liked. If you think you can do this without being too hurt (an eight hour flight back with nothing to do but contemplate may not be much fun) then I think you should go for it. You'll get to see the ex again, have a great time, share old jokes, bulid on the friendship. (And cynically prove yourself a great bloke and friend who will be there for her if they split). Can you not possibly extend the trip beyond one night as well? Explore America a bit? I know £200 is a lot; but you could easily blow that on a full night out in any city in Britain. Good luck fella.
Edited 1 Aug 06, 10:40 PM by Skyhook |
