Taking Play Opportunities –v- Waiting for that Perfect Partner (66)

Rubbish. Its about knowing what you like best, what suits you. I would have a lot more experience if it had been more enjoyable spending my time as a singleton playing at clubs etc. But it didn't suit me. I found it emotionally exhausting but with little reward. It often left me hollow and I was alone for my comedown. I admire people who just go out learn what they want, practise where they can. Its just not me.

"And she does have the occasional "Tigger" moment - also to be commended, I feel. " robert1961
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I have *occasionally* had D/s-style sex. And it was wonderful! So, there you go. It has - on more than one occasion, though, led to a conversation that goes something like:

Her: "I can't do this. We can't have a relationship and we have to stop sleeping together." (pause) "Do you want to play, though?"

(this has happened multiple times with several different people)

Give it up, mate, no one suddenly decides after seven years that you actually are their dream partner. There's nothing mystical or special about "love" because the world is full of people who think that they "love" another who will somehow have to reciprocate in the end, and it doesn't happen. What unfortunately *can* happen is that people who consider themselves to be brimming with unrequited love for a long time can end up with, not the adoration of the one they fancy, but a criminal conviction for stalking.

Not if your a sub! there is this attitude to subs especially fem-subs that if they play with alot of different people then that makes then less submissive somehow and they do get labled sluts......sounds oh so vanilla and male if you ask me, kinda reminds me of society's view that its ok for men to 'play the field' but if a woman does it.....then well you know what I'm getting at

'indulgeo mihi abbas pro ego sum sin'

I'm appalled to hear that. I thought we had evolved a little from frumpy vanilla values, but that is oh so vanilla, in the worst possible sense!

“To want sex with another (...) is not exactly a credential for political radicalism.” (Leo Bersani)

I did a thread about this on b.com ages ago. subs (my thread was about male subs) who bottom a lot to many different people seem to be frowned upon for having the temerity to make the most of a bad lot. The assumption is that they're tarts and not looking for a relationship.

Some dommes said they wouldn't play with a man that had subbed to one of their friends or they'd seen playing out and about in the clubs.

I have to admit I once feel like this till someone told me I was talking bollocks, that people have the right to try things out and that doesn't mean they're not capable fo monogomy. Plus. They're a greta benefit to lazy dom/mes cos thye have done all your learning for you.

"And she does have the occasional "Tigger" moment - also to be commended, I feel. " robert1961
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Edited 24 Jul 06, 3:56 PM by demolitionred

i can assure you that that doesn't just apply to fem subs, applies equally to male subs too.

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