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| 24 Apr 06, 11:43 AM Kassandra UK(EH), 7 yrs |
Most define poly in different ways. I think most accept it's the emotional side which leads to the problems not the play side. I don't think it is being greedy I think it is being honest with yourself and each other. Being secure in any relationship is paramount to ones well being. Knowing the person you love and care for feels the same about you, regardless of what else they do, must play a part. I think for myself it would be hard to accept that the person I loved also loved someone else, albeit in a different way, whilst I would have no problem if they played elsewhere and would expect the same. However, if I loved them enough and I knew they had to love someone else to make them complete then maybe I could understand and let them live the life they feel they have to live to make them happy. Them being happy making me happy kinda thing. I have also noticed that, almost without exception, it is a dominant with more than one sub not the reverse. Can it be that we can only serve one master/mistress but we revel in more than one serving us?
Very complicated subject and one to which I suspect has no right or wrong answer. Once again if it works for you then be happy
If you're not part of the solution you are the precipitate Edited 24 Apr 06, 11:44 AM by Kassandra | |
| 24 Apr 06, 12:11 PM Rhhona 6 yrs |
I would tend to agree - I love that others appreciate the ones I value, they have so much to offer the world. Edited 24 Apr 06, 12:20 PM by Rhhona | |
| 24 Apr 06, 6:25 PM Ariane 8 yrs |
Interesting question for me right now. I've been poly for a long time now, and I would see it as very greedy indeed. I just don't see greedy as necessarily a problem.  However, the subject of commitment has come up with someone recently which has me examining the question closely. Is it a different form of greed to want someone all to yourself? I can have it all my own way if I want and keep having multiple subs, but I feel that if I take his commitment, it would only feel right if I gave mine as well. Nothing is going to happen too suddenly so I've got time to contemplate. On the bottom line, I think whatever works for people is good. It just needs to work for all concerned. Going along with poly when you really want monogamy will cause emotional pain and usually the end of a relationship. None of us can tell the others how to live or conduct our relationships, we just have to work out what will work best for us and find someone compatible. Ariane Nulla Anxietas | |
| 24 Apr 06, 7:41 PM gimpneil UK(DN), 7 yrs   |
Quite simply its not being greedy its just keeping an open mind and have plenty of options avaiable to you. You never know who will grab you. |
