Posted by mazzie_RB on Mon 17 Apr 06, 1:55 PM to mazzie_RB's blog.
I have been asking this question of most i talk to for a while now, coz it does seem that u cant find love AND D/s!
Most i talk to, all say the same story...it never lasts longer than a few months. My longest was 6 months , yet in nilla shortest was 3 years!! Alot i talk to have been trying for 6-8 yrs or more now, and still have only had a string of short term stuff, even though they want the whole deal. There are a lot of very disillusioned ppl , and over the years they wonder back to nilla now and again hoping to find love..only to find they cant do without the D/s.
I know some do find both of course, but i feel thats very few.... I know nilla has problems too. D/s can create a wonderful bond that nilla cant achieve! Is that enough though? Or can a deeper kind of love grow from that maybe?
I want to know if u had the choice of wonderful love in nilla land , OR the closeness of D/s but couldnt find that love...which one would u choose? Is the bond that D/s creates enough to replace love?
I havent been around that long, so would appreciate ur thoughts.
Mazzie xx
| 17 Apr 06, 1:59 PM DrPeterVenkman UK, 6 yrs  |
I have had both , it does and can happen and it does last, years in my case. Of course all things end. But there is love even for deviants. Marc Where did I come from mommy? | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:03 PM larra_uk 7 yrs |
Wow Mazzie you certainly know how to ask them. Love or D/s? Of course I want to meet somoen that I fall in love with, someone who will love me back just as strongly but will it happen? I have no answer to that one. If I had to choose D/s or love then it would have to be love because without it I dont think you can even have a deep D/s relationship, of course this is only my opinion and what I would do I am sure there are many who will say they have a great relationship without love. larra x | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:07 PM Ariane 8 yrs |
Could I share D/s without loving my sub? Certainly not for long. Nulla Anxietas | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:09 PM mazzie_RB UK, 7 yrs |
I do ask em dont i lol, but its a valid question that bugs me. Maybe D/s creates a different kind of love over time. I know a few do find love, but it must be hard as the choice of ppl is so limited... not enough of us pervs about hehe! xx
Don't judge others, lest you be judged!! | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:10 PM mazzie_RB UK, 7 yrs |
And i suspect as an attractive Lady ( am not ass licking lol) u have had a few subs maybe? So if it is love why doesnt it seem to last?
Don't judge others, lest you be judged!! | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:11 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs  |
The D/s bond is not enough to hold a relationship together for me. I need to love someone to want to try to make things work. Love and Respect for me come hand in hand, without one you wont be able to achieve the other. D xx Its not what you say or do, its how you say or do it | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:16 PM NilSatisNisiOptimum UK, 6 yrs |
I agree with Debs whole heartedly. | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:16 PM sweetsens8on UK, 6 yrs |
i want both but i am beginning to think they are unobtainable together ...which is sad..or at least for me. i can't choose not right now ..i could in the short term say the need for the Ds is the stronger one, the driving force...but as that connection grows so does the need to love and be loved ..prob the reason there are so many short term things. To pursue perfection is a good way to fuck yourself up! Edited 17 Apr 06, 2:17 PM by sweetsens8on | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:17 PM tonytb ES, 6 yrs |
Well, I see that the D/s dependancy on love is showing, by the previous answers.
I think that D/s can last as long as it's fun.
D/s with love can last forever.
Love without D/s can still last forever.
2 -1 by my count, love wins. Oh, that was so simplified, but it's just to put some perspective to something that affect everyone at some time. x | |
| 17 Apr 06, 2:19 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
Nice bit of boxing up there. D/s, M/s, Nilla, it is irrelevant to me, love and respect for the person before the Dom/Master/Man holding the power !!!!!
Its not what you say or do, its how you say or do it Edited 17 Apr 06, 2:21 PM by River_Deep |
