Posted by pinkreindeer
on Tue 14 Mar 06, 3:14 PM to pinkreindeer's blog.
Two blogs in one day is something I've not done for ages...however, I've been thinking...
I had been thinking lately that the D/s type things in our relationship had utterly vanished...and that was ok, given the plethora of other things that are happening...I could see exactly why it'd be stuck on the back burner for a while.
Then, REALLY thinking about it...it's still there, it's just settled and comfortable, so much so that I don't always notice it (convinced that this is some sort of evil plan being executed by F!). I still get a list of jobs to do during the day, most days, it's still F that decides what I do and don't do...it's just that I'm so used to it that it doesn't seem like it's anything out of the ordinary.
We don't do ritual-ly type bits, or high protocol...I'm still a cheeky cow who has been known to initiate pillow fights and ticking fights (but I only did it once...honest!). Perhaps our version of 24/7 is a loooong way from what you see on web sites etc etc, but it's ours and it works.
Honestly, describing my day (apart from boring the heck out of you) it'd all seem very normal...perhaps someone looking at it would be able to identify that F 'wears the trousers', but that's it. When I make decisions, it's because F has allowed me to make them...for a recent example, what maternity clothes to get...because he knows that I choose things that are going to be most comfortable better than he could.
The really wonderful thing about it is the balance. F knows exactly what to allow me to make decisions about, simply because he quite happily aknowledges that there are things that I'm better at than he is. Most decisions are made by him, with input from me...a process I'm happy with.
I DO aim to please him and think I do a fairly good job of it, he isn't interested in 'training' me to please him...I think he quite enjoys the fact that I use my initiative...but he'll happily tell me when I've got it wrong...
I don't think I'd cope well with rigid D/s with acres of rules etc...I'm really quite happy as I am...
Pinkxxx
