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| 3 Mar 06, 2:25 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs   |
It is entirely possible to form a close emotional attachment with someone online, because the ability to interact and share thoughts and feelings is every bit as present as in real life, only the physical contact is absent - and many people form close emotional bonds in real life without physical intimacy. The likelihood is that this would be perceived as being unfaithful, every bit as much as having a real-life fling, however you might try to dress it up as "only" online. "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars" | ||
| 3 Mar 06, 2:26 PM ll_2ndSkin_ll UK, 7 yrs |
I think if such an online relationship was sneaky and secret then there would be an element of concern. If there is reason to keep the details of such a relationship hidden, what are those reasons? I think that motivations for secret sneaking about are often dubious and highlight a lack of communication. If you can't trust the person that you are with because they can't confide in you or you can't confide in them, getting past that should be a priority. We are not islands and it's always good to have a different opinions on thoughts and feelings. I feel that Keeping things open and on the level is essential in any relationship.
The large print giveth and the small print taketh away - Tom Waits. | ||
| 3 Mar 06, 2:28 PM Breeze UK(RG), 8 yrs |
I can see where you're coming from Mr Bone, it is very subjective. I was basically taking the "you can look but you can't touch" principle a bit further. I don't think it's being unfaithful to look at other women, whereas it is obviously unfaithful if you act on your desires - it's the action that makes it unfaithful IMO. The extension of this idea is that 'virtual sex' is an action on your part and thus unfaithful, but is not as serious as taking someone to your bed for real. I understand and agree with what you say about physicality being more fleeting, but in practice I would suggest that these things can only be effectively judged on their physical aspects. | ||
| 3 Mar 06, 2:29 PM dzsubguy 6 yrs |
at one extreme there is the actual physical action....at the other end just the thought of it......the phantom zone of the internet is somewhere between the two..... this comes nearer to mind crime than actual crime for me. i know i will be beaten up for this by some, i just cant believe that thinking, looking, and talking can be as wrong as doing and touching.
....dig...be dug...and return... | ||
| 3 Mar 06, 2:41 PM Katena UK(M), 8 yrs |
Oh...now THAT is the telling sign! k "happiness is katena-shaped!' | ||
| 3 Mar 06, 2:45 PM amira_S 8 yrs |
But what if they have an issue with there partner and are discussing it with a 3rd party to get a clearer view on things. The partner may never know exactly what is said but its for the benefit of the relationship. amira (devils advocate)
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| 3 Mar 06, 2:46 PM MissToria UK, 7 yrs |
I'd say that when you find yourself spending more time talking about your partner than to your partner maybe time for a change of partner www.croydonmunch.co.uk | ||
| 3 Mar 06, 2:48 PM Katena UK(M), 8 yrs |
hahaha...you lil devil you That a differnt case entirley...i was thinking of if they were chattin n flirting...if they could do that infront of their partner it is obvioulsy innocent. However if they have an issue with their partner and airing it with a 3rd person..then that wouldnt really edge on cheating i dont think! k
"happiness is katena-shaped!' | ||
| 3 Mar 06, 2:51 PM MissToria UK, 7 yrs |
maybe the difference is that I wouldnt have a problem telling my partner I was bitching about him...maybe this is why I don't have a partner www.croydonmunch.co.uk | ||
| 3 Mar 06, 3:04 PM shimmer UK(LE), 11 yrs |
If they can, then no. |
