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| 8 Feb 06, 5:24 PM ll_2ndSkin_ll UK, 7 yrs |
YES!
The large print giveth and the small print taketh away - Tom Waits. | ||
| 8 Feb 06, 5:27 PM adouglasmhor UK, 7 yrs   |
My mates and dojo colleagues all know, my sensei even told his flatmate when he introduced me to her in the pub. She then started to try pressure points on me to see how I coped with pain. | ||
| 8 Feb 06, 5:29 PM demolitionred 7 yrs |
As for the OP's question, yes everyone I know knows. Some of my pictures are on the wall at home and my mum has been to events. I have only been unsure what to say once. I asked my sister what she wanted my nephews to know. She said if she's done a good job of bringing them up they'll ask their own questions. And last time they were here, my eldest nephew -- aged 6 -- asked why I'm dressed as a police lady in a photo in my lounge. I explained that I like to play pretend just like he pretends he's spiderman. That made sense to him. Then he asked "Aunty, why are you trying to cut your friends head off with the chainsaw?" And I explained that I like to play pretend games with my friends just like he has play fights with his brother. That made sense too so his next question was whether I had any chocolate....kids, eh? I guess the point of this is that I have found I don't tell anyone until they ask but I'm careful I answer any questions in a way that people can understand. They will ask as many questions as they want. My nephew only had two, some people have had many more, and some including my mum and some of my friends have wanted to come and see for themselves. You have nothing to be ashamed of, nothing to hide. Once you're happy in your own mind its easy to explain to others. _______________________ Edited 8 Feb 06, 5:33 PM by demolitionred | ||
| 8 Feb 06, 5:56 PM NinjaBitch 7 yrs |
The friends who are close enough to know, do. I'm not one to discuss my private affairs so casually, nor am I the kind of person who goes for shocking declarations in a social or business situations. I'm a professional, and relatively typical gal . . . on the outside. True England | ||
| 8 Feb 06, 6:04 PM lisal 9 yrs |
Yep all my close friends know As a TV I find that my female friends are interested in that aspect and are happy to go clothes shopping with me | ||
| 8 Feb 06, 6:05 PM MissyG UK(MK), 8 yrs  |
all my family know, all my friends know, all my work colleges & bosses know aint I lucky London Munch -:|:- London Alternative Market -:|:- Hades | ||
| 8 Feb 06, 7:20 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
Most my mates know, all my work knows ( as i took my silly high boots in for them to try on) My sister in law just needs official confirmation but she knows and i dont have anything to do with the rest of my family so i dont care if they know or not. Its not what you say or do, its how you say or do it | ||
| 8 Feb 06, 8:21 PM MmeDragon UK, 10 yrs |
All my mates know... and most of my family! They always thought I was mad... but when I told them what I am into it just confirmed it for them! LOL
Erare humanum est... To err is human....Heck, I am blonde and dizzy I needed some intellectual excuse! | ||
| 8 Feb 06, 9:22 PM nancyfettv UK, 6 yrs |
I made the mistake after a lot of drinks of telling someone, now I admit to a 'Double life'. Its got to the stage I have a W/end dressing up then a weekend out with 'straight' friends. When asked what 'you did last W/End' its a case of, ' watched TV and slept' Sometimes I find it hard marrying my TV habits with BDSM and I am quite shy in a fairly macho. envirns so its best being an honest liar. If you know what I mean.
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| 8 Feb 06, 9:24 PM fifesnicest1 UK(KY), 8 yrs |
There seems to have been a lot of positive posts on this one, might make others like me think we are odd so heres mine. No-one outside of the scene knows, if my colleagues at work did i reckon i would eventually lose my job. I beleive there is a clause is my contract sexual behavour etc. If any of my family knew a church somewhere would burn down due to the large quantity of candles being lit to save my soul. I remember the shock and horror coming from one of my friends when i brough up the conversation of oral sex,em so i think no more would need to be brought up there. So to answer the question,, no i wouldnt tell any of my vanilla friends, colleages or family, i do however have very many friends in the scene who i can talk with and thats fine with me. fifes |
