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cliques: part 17 1/2 (7)

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Posted by Telesto on Sat 21 Jan 06, 11:22 AM to Telesto's blog.

yeah there are cliques

LadyRed posts attacking someone who replied to one of her threads:

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/weblogs/LadyRed...

my response to that thread is (so far) hidden:

alicia posted something that you are not comfortable with; indeed you strongly disagree. not saying whether i agree or disagree with her statements, but it is well within the bounds of reasonableness for her to post as she did. if you put your life on public view, and invite comments, then you really must expect comments that you are not comfortable with.

answer them directly or suck it up.

i didn't really believe all that stuff about cliques hounding people from IC. seeing this thread i'm not so sure...

alicia has deleted her profile.

i can quite understand that LadyRed took issue with Alicia's remarks.

but to post an 'ad hominem', rather than just answer the issues raised, absolutely totally reinforces what others have been saying about cliques over the past day or so.

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21 Jan 06, 11:35 AM
Koneko
UK(L), 6 yrs
I agree that by posting blogs you are inviting, and should expect, public opinion on your most personal business and issues. Having said that, however, I'm not sure I approve of how brutally alicia attacked LadyRed... it seemed to me more of a way of picking a fight than giving her opinion. But that's just my opinion.

However, it's sad that people can't post their views without fear of being attacked from left, right and centre. You can't expect people to know everything about a blogger, just what they've blogged about. LadyRed had every reason to take issue with alicia - but I don't think that everyone who knows her does, too.

Just my observations.

A xx

21 Jan 06, 11:45 AM
angelina1
UK(SP), 6 yrs
In a way it is a shame that alicia has now deleted her profile as it does not enable people to view previous postings that she made. I read some others of hers, all of which appeared to attack without justification.

I agree that if you post personal information on blogs you are opening yourself up to receiving posts and replies that you may not like. However much you read a persons blog it does not tell you everything about that person. It tells you the things they want you to know. I completely understand real life friends of a person supporting them when they are attacked as they know the real person not the part persona that is seen on an online profile.

21 Jan 06, 11:49 AM
Koneko
UK(L), 6 yrs
angelina1 wrote:
I completely understand real life friends of a person supporting them when they are attacked as they know the real person not the part persona that is seen on an online profile.

Where do you draw the line between supporting, and attacking back, though?

21 Jan 06, 11:56 AM
angelina1
UK(SP), 6 yrs
Adalia wrote:
angelina1 wrote:
I completely understand real life friends of a person supporting them when they are attacked as they know the real person not the part persona that is seen on an online profile.

Where do you draw the line between supporting, and attacking back, though?

I did not read the original post and any replies made to alicia as I believe it was deleted early on. I have only read the posts made on the blog by jenis etc. I have reread them now and cannot really see any attacking of alicia at all.

21 Jan 06, 11:57 AM
DewiCinci
UK, 9 yrs

Adalia wrote:
Where do you draw the line between supporting, and attacking back, though?

Why do you have to? If you don't want responses then don't set your weblog to have a reply button. If someone is offensive then don't read their replies or just ignore them.

Just because some people behave like idiots, it doesn't mean that you have to pay them any attention. There is also no need to delete your profile because someone attacks back at you. That's not being 'hounded out of IC' that's choosing to leave because you do not like one response.

Cruel, heartless - yes, but that's the adult world, folks.

Dewi - who knows a few people whose weblogs he never reads and whose responses he would never read if they ever replied to his weblogs (something tells me the ignoring thing is mutual)

"There's no lovin' like the lovin' you get from the refrigerator." - Kirstie Alley

21 Jan 06, 12:26 PM
Daniell
7 yrs
I have no problem, with LadyRed posting her private life online. That's her right. The subject, covered choices we may all have to take as adults.

I'm wondering, whether the venomous responses, are being made by memo or IM. If so, it is a pretty cowardly method.

I hope some aren't resorting to that.

angelina1 wrote:
Adalia wrote:
angelina1 wrote:
I completely understand real life friends of a person supporting them when they are attacked as they know the real person not the part persona that is seen on an online profile.

Where do you draw the line between supporting, and attacking back, though?

I did not read the original post and any replies made to alicia as I believe it was deleted early on. I have only read the posts made on the blog by jenis etc. I have reread them now and cannot really see any attacking of alicia at all.

21 Jan 06, 1:14 PM
Prunesquallor
UK(RG), 7 yrs
Telesto wrote:
yeah there are cliques

The only adverse comment I can find in that thread is that alicia was being judgemental - something that is patently obvious.

I was struck by the total lack of negativity. The only messages are ones of support. Had I posted something like alicia's original posting and received that response, I would have considered myself very lucky.

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