Posted by polly_uk
on Thu 19 Jan 06, 4:51 PM to polly_uk's blog.
....for all this in fighting and ego centric politics.
I know this is idealistic but why on earth can we not just accept people are different..not better or worse just different. We are not all going to get along all of the time. It would be unrealistic to expect that of any group of people drawn together by a common and diverse interest would.
I have been around bdsm for an awful long time. What i see now sickens me. We are all in the same glasshouse and there enough people more than happy to throw stones at us from the outside without us hurling huge boulders at each other from within.
There is not one isolated thing that makes me feel like this, it is an observation over a number of years. Maybe things will go full circle and bdsm will go underground rather than the sort of fashion statement it has now become.
I am not sure that it is a retrograde step to be honest from what i observe now.
polly
| 19 Jan 06, 5:32 PM Buzz22 UK, 8 yrs  |
To be honest with you polly I personally think it would be a good thing. There is some parts of the scene that I don't like. I know I am intolerant, I know I don't have much patience but it always boils down to the things that are being done which are "fashionable". love Buzz xxx If I want your opinion I will beat it out of you | ||
| 19 Jan 06, 5:38 PM hattie UK(AL), 7 yrs |
Spot on polly! m xx
te amo, mi amo | ||
| 19 Jan 06, 5:39 PM polly_uk UK, 7 yrs |
It was my conversation with you earlier that prompted the thoughts... Thanks love x
"Indifference to me, is the epitome of evil. Be a sound not an echo" | ||
| 19 Jan 06, 6:01 PM ssarahbee UK, 6 yrs |
As for 'pack mentality'....if you piss enough people off, of course they'll be only too happy to join in when someone gets angry enough to fight back.
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| 19 Jan 06, 6:19 PM alexandraa UK(NW), 8 yrs |
Please show me the person who can do that, I have yet to meet one. None of us can put our hand on our hearts and say we behave in that way. I remember most sincerely not being accepted. What we can do however is not behave like children... but I think some people enjoy that. That's where they get their kicks and so who are we to judge that behaviour and find it wanting? There is no answer except to be selective in where you make your friends and what blogs you read. Quite honestly I hadn't noticed anything was going off again with anyone but then I read very few people's blogs nowadays. Be careful what you wish for | ||
| 19 Jan 06, 7:36 PM hattie UK(AL), 7 yrs |
Unfortunately i think alexandra is right. i have fairly firm views about how bdsm should work (well how it works for me), and sometimes i see others take on it and i shake my head. i try very hard not to react or judge as a) it's not my problem b) none of my business c) what floats my boat doesn't necessarily float someone elses and d) who am i to say my way is right! i do try very hard to bite my tongue - to the point where it has huge blooming teeth marks in it (ok not literally)
But it doesn't mean we have to condone intolerance and bigotry, spite jealousy and venom as acceptable behaviour. Maybe i'm very naive, but surely positive behaviour breeds positive and negative breeds negative. God i sound like Mary bloody Poppins now! Just my opinion as ever! hattie xx te amo, mi amo | ||
| 20 Jan 06, 6:46 AM polly_uk UK, 7 yrs |
I did say i was being idealistic...smiles. I think alex is right too. We are all guilty of intolerance and non acceptance. As i said , i wasn't writing about any particular incident or people it just reflects my general feelings at the moment. polly
"Indifference to me, is the epitome of evil. Be a sound not an echo" |
