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| 28 Nov 05, 6:05 AM demolitionred 7 yrs |
How dare you? I am omnipresent, omniscient and omin-gorgeous. So get down and give me twenty before I smite you with a thoudsand ills... --------------------------------------------------- --------- Edited 28 Nov 05, 6:54 AM by demolitionred | |||
| 28 Nov 05, 6:33 AM WaterDragon UK(LN), 6 yrs  |
Damn advanced cat that! I wish my neighbours were that interesting. Hugs, Irene.
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| 28 Nov 05, 6:58 AM Ariane 8 yrs |
I suppose I agree with the sentiment of this, although often it's just semantics. Can't say I haven't done the same with subs. But then, many of them like objectification... Ariane Relax, nothing's under control. | |||
| 28 Nov 05, 3:52 PM oscagne_uk UK(CV), 7 yrs  |
I think that's the important thing here. It's a part of us, not the whole of us, and i posted the original post yesterday after seeing yet more people who don't seem to have grasped this little fact.
Mind i also fully expected to be flamed to hell for making such comments. Thankfully that hasn't happened . my stories at http://members.tripod.com/~oscagne whatever i say is my opinion, and mine alone. Leamington Spa munch details at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/leamingtonmunchand... | |||
| 28 Nov 05, 5:48 PM Kassandra UK(EH), 7 yrs |
Politeness I like but being called Ma'am, Miss, Mistress etc etc by people who do not know me ( and mostly by people who do) is a bit of a turn off. I have a name like everyone else and unless I say different it's the one I like to be called by. If I got put on a pedestal I would only fall off unless it was to help me see over the heads of the crowd ( being short).
If you're not part of the solution you are the precipitate | |||
| 28 Nov 05, 7:09 PM rascalDan UK(DN), 6 yrs |
I think you only get flamed when you say something the majority of people disagree with. You, on the other hand, said what most people seem to have been thinking for a long time. I'm gonna shed my light on this, and see if anyone can back up/support this or disagree with me. I'm new to the scene and I'm new to the site. Rightly or wrongly, I tend to read only the BDSM posts, sometimes chat if something catches my eye. I do this because I wish to learn about how people view the scene, act in the scene, I want to learn new words etc etc etc. My vanilla is pretty reasonable, my BDSM knowledge is limited.... so I hope you can see my theory. I for one can see the problem in said theory, and it may or may not explain the problem at hand. If like me, you read the BSDM posts... you get a very biased view of the people who post. You don't really see the vanilla side, as much as you know it exists. The mental image is far from complete, but it's all you have. That mixed with being a complete novice, I dare say it's likely to produce sub ideal statements, despite my best efforts to say something useful and sensible. Course all that said, I try not to let my one sided view cloud my judgement and try to post more balanced opinions without offending, upsetting, annoying (etc) anyone. If someone does post something that is considered out of line or uncalled for, do you ignore them or politely correct them? I'm largely just raising the questions here. Limited experience, but this kind of thing about respect and not everyone being a lifestyler seems to crop up more and more. I don't know the answer... just a small corner of the problem :s Dan Loveable rascal seeks..... | |||
| 28 Nov 05, 9:06 PM rascalDan UK(DN), 6 yrs |
For the sake of playing devils advocate (I'm feeling typically rascalish) isn't that exactly the kind of thing that gets answers like "Yes, Mistress" from complete strangers? Dan Loveable rascal seeks..... Edited 28 Nov 05, 9:08 PM by rascalDan | |||
| 30 Nov 05, 12:50 AM Demiurge UK(CV), 7 yrs |
Surely it takes barely five minutes of looking at the Domme profiles on here to see exactly how and why this phenomena occurs... For those that don't know what I'm getting at, allow me to give you the tour... these are all genuine quotes from profiles to be found on IC in a matter of minutes... "I would wish to extend the plan to actually implanting slaves with microchip identifiers such as used in pets" "You will need to, as I expect to be Worshiped in everyway, shape or form and my every need catered for without Question" "I require seven male slaves (including all-rounders) and two female slaves. I will carry out a 5 stage selection process (Initial Application, Detailed Application, Initial Assessment, Detailed Assessment and Selection). If selected I will then break you and rebuild you to my specifications." I could carry on all night... the fact is that the vast majority of male subs behave the way they do in response to the expectations they perceive from others. When every other advert seems to expect deification, when even otherwise sane women insist on capitalising Me and My, literally raising themselves to the same grammatical level as God, its hardly surprising that desperate male subs follow suit... | |||
| 30 Nov 05, 1:12 AM rascalDan UK(DN), 6 yrs |
Are we then not guilty, intentionally or otherwise, of tarring all with the same brush as it were? A practise that I do not agree with, but am perhaps guilty of. For the beginners amongst us, those who know no better, could easily be lead to believe that a Domme, any Domme, would wish to be addressed as Mistress etc. When talking to someone we don't know, we have to go with what we do know... we aren't always right. I would guess that in most cases, no harm is meant. I don't think it would be fair to take it as a sign of disrepect, quite the opposite in fact. It's probably best described as presumptuous. If there's a lot of profiles that seem to imply it's wanted, you're gonna get lots of people doing it... it's just the way it goes unfortunately. Dan Loveable rascal seeks..... |
