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Polyamourous Relationships? (24)

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31 Oct 05, 9:43 AM
goodghirl
UK, 8 yrs

Lion_Dream wrote:

If I understand you correctly, I have to offer a differing POV here.

A poly relationship doesn't always mean "everyone fucks everyone else". Relationships with three people are usually described as either a V ("vee") or a triad.

In a triad, everyone has an intimate relationship with everyone else.

In a vee, there is one person who has relationships with two people, but those two do not have an intimate relationship with each other. It helps if they are friends and can talk though!!

In my relationships... there is me... my Mistress... my primary partner. My Mistress has another partner, and my primary has partners of her own. There is no adultery here, just lots of loving consensual relationships. Nobody is in the dark.

ditto this Ive had poly relationships where Ive not slept with my partners sub/slave.

there are so many different types of poly relationships I think its a bit ott to say that somethings not poly just because it doesn't fit in with your ideal.

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31 Oct 05, 10:23 PM
ShadowRose
UK(PO), 9 yrs

Lion_Dream wrote:

madkat wrote:
So you do it with the light on?

Absolutely!

Hmmm, obviously that blindfold isn't functioning properly...

ShadowRose: as a signature it's sweet, simple and to the point - nothing like me then.

1 Nov 05, 12:12 AM
lickgekko
UK(AB), 6 yrs

corriander_THM wrote:
One of the biggest issues in polyamoury is honesty. If one party lies, no matter what the justification, there will be problems. To be in a happy polyamourous relationship you have to be able to trust that the others are not doing things behind your back that would hurt you. Once one party lies then I think that you are on a hiding to nothing.

Maybe it is my problem but I cannot understand how a person who lies can expect trust, and I don't know how you get round the jealousy caused by that behaviour.

A hard one to live with, I absolutely agree with what you say, It is possible if there is a lot of love but a need to rebuild trust is, in my view essential.

I am still learning to live life to the full

1 Nov 05, 12:52 AM
verte
UK(E), 8 yrs

I have had poly relationships in the past, and am not averse to the idea of them at all, even though I'm fairly certain it wouldn't work in conjunction with the relationship I'm in and am happily monogamous. For me, at least, it's not as simple as polyamory 'not being for you', but that it's also subjective to the kind of relationship you have with your partner and how you react to them.

I think you need to let your master know how difficult you find all of this and ask him to talk about how it works for him.