Posted by polly_uk
on Wed 28 Sep 05, 5:30 PM to polly_uk's blog.
We often here the phrase " it is a journey" applied to a D/s relationship and also that a Dominant has a "duty of care" for His submissive.
It is my view that it is indeed a journey and as such has a beginning where there is mutual friendship...correlation of wants needs and desires and the will to start the journey together.So by nature it isn't a static relationship it grows and evolves...so whose is the responsibility for that growth and evolution ?
I think that it is indeed a Dominants duty of care to work at improving, and developing his submissive and to take the time and make the effort to know all her pleasures, pains, fears,hopes and aspirations...to discover her talents and weaknesses .To use her talents and to help her to overcome her weaknesses.If He saw no need to evolve His submissive the journey , as it were , would be over before it started....hey presto...perfect submissive <g> and complacent Dominant go hand in hand into the sunset probably soon to discover that they are both unfulfilled and bored to tears .
We often talk about being "owned" .If we take this on board then a Dominant has a duty of care towards His "property" and included in that duty of care is, in my opinion, guiding and influencing His submissive to be the best she can be , for herself and thus ultimately for Him. Being proud of her achievemtns and the part He has played in her success and growth in whatever area of her life it may be. Being owned she is His property and it would be indeed a foolish Dominant who did not value His propery enough to use it to its full potential.....both in bdsm context and in all aspects of theit life together.
If the relationship is working and growing then, in my opinion,there is a deepening of submission and a growth of Dominance, but if it meets in the middle ground where it becomes stagnant and static then the journey would be over. If it is the Dominants duty of care to improve and evolve His submissive does that work in reverse ? .Does a submissive have a duty of care in that it is her duty to work constantly to improve and evolve her Dominant in order for Him to be the best He can be for Himself and thus for her ? I believe the submissive also has this duality of care.
The relationship becomes an "eternal circle".
| 28 Sep 05, 6:45 PM Bbdspls UK, 7 yrs |
You won't hear any disagreements from this end of the country, carinna. It's absolutely as much my responsibility to support my Owner as much as he does me. As you say, the 'eternal circle'. He calls it 'gestalt'.
If you're not going to sh*t, it's time to get off the pot (trad Irish proverb!) |
| 3 Oct 05, 11:20 PM MissHeart 8 yrs |
Just a thought,
I think it was Freud who said Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. So Mel' says Sometimes a relationship is just a relationship  silly I know but what I really mean to say or maybe to ask is perhaps we all at some point look too deep. Perhaps sometime there isnt any depth or meaning to a relationship and D/s is a handy lable for a boring mundane pointless couple who like engage in a little kinky sex.Mel' xxx |
pls x