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I suppose I find it hard to accept that my perception on time apart and time together - differs for the person from whom I am apart.
sometimes I wring my hands and I don't know what to do about it.
What's better? To completely exorcise a whole relationship because of the perceived lack of attention? (you obviously need more attention than I am prepared to give...)
Struggle on? (you will cope damn it!)
How many reassurances are enough?
Why do I feel so spent even before I've even begun...?
Why was it never like this before?
What changed?
| 17 Aug 05, 12:11 AM fen_fatale UK(CB), 8 yrs |
If you are not happy... end it 
If you are putting in more than you are getting out, end it.
If the bad times are outweighing the good... end it. Sometimes it takes more strength to end things than fight and try to solve the problems. all the best xx Semper in faecibus, Sumus sole, Profundum variat. |
| 17 Aug 05, 8:23 AM Whipcracker UK(WV), 11 yrs |
<What changed?> Doesn't everything change? Isn't life all about change? The problem becomes 'how do you adapt to that change?' It takes two people (or more in some cases) to make a relationship work and both must give all they can to make it work. Relationships need to flourish, they don't 'struggle on' or they slowly die. <Why do I feel so spent even before I've even begun...? Why was it never like this before?> I think you already know the answer to your questions, now you have to decide what to do about it. You can only choose the path you think is right for you, consider your relationship but do what is right for you otherwise you will destroy the very thing that made the relationship work in the first place. Good Luck Mick
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| 17 Aug 05, 12:34 PM DKLeather  UK(S), 11 yrs  |
just sending a whole armful of love and hugs.. miss you lady, and we hope you sort out what ails you. xxx http://www.leatherfamily.co.uk ~smile witch, laugh witch, take your power back witch!~ |
| 25 Aug 05, 5:43 PM Rubikscubeagain 10 yrs |
Its a remarkable thing any relationship and the physical intimacy is so deeply personal you(I) think that it automatically confers a better communication. It doesnt sadly and each individual we meet has their own 'threshold' need on communication. I believe that the poly relationship situation sometimes leaves little time for some to think about it and in others they just dont have it as a priority. Ive had to cope with lack of communication and the doubt that it brings but I have realised its not meant personally, so even though I dont like it and find it really difficult to cope with at times the bonding and friendship is there. Maybe not as you might have originally contemplated...but it is there. If the situation is too much to bear though you should stop before it creates too much hurt. |
