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| Violently |
Something happened that completely freaked me out and I thought I'd share it with you as a sort of warning perhaps to be careful; mindful with whom you speak to and what about yourself that you decide to share.
I invited someone to my home in good faith and we had a pleasant enough time. When he left he was on cloud 9 and spaced out on endorphins (as you do when you have a good session) - a cabby fetched him from mine and they had a conversation which I can only guess at.
Today - the cabby turns up at my door and knocked - I was puzzled ofcourse as I hadn't ordered a cab and so I opened the door to say that he was at the wrong house or the victim of a prank. He said that he'd had a conversation with the young man he'd fetched to the train station the other day and got to talking that we'd met on the net.
I didn't know the context of the conversation so I assumed that perhaps they'd got to talking about BDSM somehow and he'd worked up the nerve to come talk to me about it. It turns out that the cabby had simply thought because the guy I'd sent off from mine was in such high spirits - that it had to do with sex and that somehow my home was privvy to a free for all... I made my position clear on the matter that I did no such thing.
It now upsets me that this person - a stranger, knows what I do, and where I live even though he has nothing to do with this lifestyle - this experience has left a really rancid taste in my mouth.
| 20 Jul 05, 11:48 AM sweet_thang UK, 7 yrs |
Hi Violently I am really sorry to hear what has happened to you. I know how you are feeling right now, I've been on the receiving end of loose lips in the past too. It was sufficient for me to withdraw from all scene events. Even just chatting to people online I have been told personal information about people I know professionally. I know in an ideal world we could all be open and honest, and in the past other people on the scene have called me paranoid in my desire for privacy, but like you I was left feeling open and exposed to people I had not invited into my life, and its a really crappy feeling. I wish you strength to deal with this. sweet_thang x | |
| 20 Jul 05, 11:49 AM BayeuxTapestry 7 yrs  |
I can understand how you feel both that this stranger knows alot about you and that someone has broken trust, the latter would upset most of the two. Unless you feel in anyway threatened there isn't much you can do. See you at Kinkfest. | |
| 20 Jul 05, 11:55 AM creative_flow UK, 7 yrs |
It now upsets me that this person - a stranger, knows what I do, and where I live even though he has nothing to do with this lifestyle - this experience has left a really rancid taste in my mouth. [/quote] I'm not surprised!Would scare the hell out of me if some stranger came up to me and knew what I was into.Have you spoken to your friend about this, as I think he is responsible for this situation? Chris
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| 20 Jul 05, 12:00 PM Ms_Tytania 7 yrs |
Hi Violently, I deeply sympathise with your feelings of unease. The mere fact that the cabbie had the nerve to knock at your door is in itself unsettling, considering how long it takes for many people to get the courage to contact a Domme or attend a munch. As you say, he must be thinking of plain ole' vanilla sex anyway, but still... I'm sure you were shocked at the time, but wouldn't have been a good idea to get his car's registration number? But if you called his company to order a cab before, you know at least where he works and how to find him. Don't lose that information, and let's hope you never need to use it. Be a genuine fake | |
| 20 Jul 05, 12:07 PM beltane UK, 6 yrs |
"Careless talk costs lives" is a quote that springs to mind here.Obviously the cabby was after a quick sex thrill and rightly so went away empty handed.As for the sub in question,what a prat,has he never heard of discretion.
Buying presents for kinky people is easy.No one has everything. | |
| 20 Jul 05, 12:19 PM Joolsy 8 yrs |
Get your hands on the guy who blabbed and peel his eyeball skins off to teach him a lesson. He deserves it. | |
| 20 Jul 05, 12:20 PM Navare UK(B), 9 yrs |
It would seem to me the only issue here is the fact that your visitor is not grown up enough to keep his mouth shut on a cab ride !! I would never give out details of play sessions or partners especialy to someone you have only just met that is the real problem here. As to the cab driver well they are frequented with the darker sides of life so he must of got the wrong end of the stick and is just cheeky enough to come and ask for a taste. I would deffo put a block on seeing that play partner again or at the very least let him know the error of his ways.... Hugs and stuff Navare.x Ad astra per aspera- A rough road leads to the stars. | |
| 20 Jul 05, 2:32 PM MissyG UK(MK), 8 yrs  |
I'd be more pissed off at the person who got in the cab, & blurted all, than the cabby, things like this suck, sorry to hear that, obviously the person you played cant be trusted.
edited to add: if the cabby continues to call, report him to his local council, make sure you get his cab number Edited 20 Jul 05, 2:35 PM by MissyG | |
| 20 Jul 05, 5:08 PM Violently UK(B), 12 yrs |
I have spoken with the person about this and ofcourse he was most apologetic - still I can't say I blame him all that much - sometimes you just don't think and I'm sure his head was still spinning when he yaked. If anything I think it was MOST inappropriate of the cabby to think he could come over to mine or had any reason to do so - still it seems more hassle than worth to make trouble about it . It's just CREEPY and kind of scary especially being alone at home at the time - you just never think (or I didn't anyway). On the otherhand - I'm just glad he didn't get all disgruntled or turn nasty. V | |
| 20 Jul 05, 5:16 PM Cagoulion UK, 7 yrs |
Hmm not good at all. While I agree with the above assessments I think this is a salutory lesson, NEVER NEVER NEVER have people visit your home address unless you know them really well. It may be that the cabbie is just a perv on the make, it may be worth reporting him to his firm for making an unsolicited call to your house. The rule of thumb should be always be sure of the discretion of those with whom you play. If in doubt meet 'em at a hotel, and make em pay for it... Cag |
