"I'm required to find a new woman ..." (7)

- Chris

Old member names: Backdoor, 1999-2002; Notvelvet, 2003-2004; Thought, 2004-2005.

or his sub's more of a babe magnet than he is.....

I my self have it on My profile and that of My slave that W/we are seeking such play mates,

My slave is My most treasured possestion one I take pride in looking after, as she does Me, the times that W/we have had a female here with U/us has been an enjoyable experiance,

My slave is bi and so there fof I treat her to a play when I see fit, during this time every thing is talked out very clearly, I myself very rarely have sex with another as I dont swing but it has happened,

I love the control, call Me a perv if you wish but I'm sure I will live,

so as to tar U/us all with the same brush is a bit harsh as there are some that are genuine!

Damien

"You don't need to break a rule for me to punish you. I'll do it just because I want to do it. If you want a paddling, don't fuck up, just ask me for it and you'll get it."

I agree with you Damien as it is something that J and I have done in the past and no doubt will in the future as we enjoy it - however the occasions have been rarer than hen's teeth as it is not just about a female body to screw, pleasant though that is.

Including a third isn't something that we do lightly, much the same as yourself and takara. However there are those out there that do, and as the original post says, it tends to be with very new-to-this submissives who are told that this is what their beloved all knowing master wishes and therefore it is what they have to do. For my mind, task setting should not include the provision of people for a scene; it's something I've never felt comfortable with, and as you say, it does lead to all of us being tarred with that particular unpleasant brush of being predatory and rapacious (I know, I say the sweetest things!)

If a third, fourth, fifth or sixth floats a set of boats then all power to those concerned, so long as it's done with the same care and concern as are all aspects of play. Any kind of lack of that and for me its a case of "don't let the door hit you on the arse on your way out"

capi xx

My imaginary friend thinks that you have a problem

V0ndilla wrote: Well thats because his wife reads his email

D'oh - Now why didn't I think of that!

I'm impressed

As I said in the post "I'm sure in some situations it's a sane thing".

I guess my sense of troubledness mostly comes from the fact that from the outside it's impossible to know what negotiation has taken place, and whether there's a "legitimate" desire to include another, or just a "selfish" motivation.

I'm certainly not intended to tar all people - because a) it'd be simplistic and wrong, and b) there are many possible relationships where this is a legitimate, sane, and sexy thing to do.

I guess sometimes I don't make my points terribly effectively. I'm glad it works out for you, and for all the others too who approach it in a serious fashion.

It's just a step backwards where a lot of people seem to make this demand and equate BDSM with little more than swinging (which incidently I'm not against).