Posted by melody_A
on Sat 30 Apr 05, 2:39 PM to melody_A's blog.
I hate living a lie – I'd love to 'come out'. Even in the future, I just can't see it happening.
Just can't.... I mean once you've told someone you can't 'un-tell' them. Too much to lose.
Has anyone come out and regretted it?
Feeling frustrated.
melody xxx
| 30 Apr 05, 2:48 PM melody_A UK, 8 yrs |
I've a daughter and a career to worry about. What's the worst that can happen? m xx "I'm a classy honey kissy huggy lovey dovey ghetto princess" | |
| 30 Apr 05, 2:59 PM Smartarse UK(CM), 7 yrs |
I came out to just my close friends - those that I could trust with the knowledge - within a couple of weeks of joining IC. I haven't regretted it so far. I've found it to be very liberating.
smartarse (formerly alex_10m) Edited 30 Apr 05, 3:01 PM by Smartarse | |
| 30 Apr 05, 3:22 PM bighugs UK(LE), 7 yrs  |
I feel lighter and a lot happier for coming out. I was sellective of whom i told, when i had a career to consider i kept that life and this separate...or attempted too, until i found out numerous managers there went to the munches...my face must have been a picture... I did not tell my family however...but where i used to live you walked in through the front door into my bedroom, through the bedroom to the rest of the place (don't ask about the layout) suprise visit...i had handcuffs, chains secured to the bed frame...oh and my ickle bro (ickle- hes a lot bigger than me) kindly pointed out the sturdy screw in loop/hook thingys around the frame of my bed !!! Dad wasn't fine at the time...(hes very traditional, old fashioned, and his little girl) its now a family joke... Edited 30 Apr 05, 3:23 PM by bighugs | |
| 30 Apr 05, 3:30 PM bootshiner 6 yrs |
I had thought I might inform the Inland Revenue - all that shoe polish I use is expensive and in any other business one can claim business expenses - - but they would not, probably, understand. A prosub - now there's a thought - get paid for cleaning. No - probably best for you to proceed with caution unless you are very sure your friends or the people you tell will understand. I had a friend some years back who asked his girlfriend to whip him - she was shocked and appalled - and, sadly, their long term relationship broke up. Slowly slowly l I think....unless you are very sure. It is a bit more complex than coming out as a gay - and that can be difficult for some, I know. I wish you luck.....I tend to have D/s friends and vanilla - works for me, but may not for others... Good luck, Melody
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| 30 Apr 05, 5:19 PM pixie15_CJ_s UK(EX), 7 yrs |
Just can't.... I mean once you've told someone you can't 'un-tell' them. Too much to lose. Has anyone come out and regretted it? Feeling frustrated. melody xxx [/quote] my family knows who and what i am ....my son who is 21 accepts me for this and is happy that i enjoy my life with CJ....and He told His sister last year ....had to realy she went into our bedroom and saw the huge crucifix with the floggers and whips .....she seems to understand our life i have found folks are curious ...but non have been judgmental at all btwCJ is a sea captain on huge oil tankers so he was worried how people would change...but again they havnt .... so hun take a deep breath and choose carefully who you tell first ....it is very liberating wishing you luck and happyness pixieuk{CJ} chaos mayhem and desaster......my work here is done | |
| 1 May 05, 12:10 AM Chastiser UK, 12 yrs |
whats to regret? openess, honesty, the freedom to be who you are? nah, i have never hidden who i am and what i do. it makes life so much simpler. Mike
Let Me unchain your mind and your sexuality will follow. www.chastisersworld.com www.chastisersworld.com/auction | |
| 2 May 05, 8:28 PM Mrs_EStim UK(WC), 8 yrs |
I had not choice but to come out cos my ex blurted most of things to my family. Thankfully its easier living the life not having to think quickly about what you have been doing and where you have been that weekend etc... Ok they dont approve but at least I dont have to fib no more. The kids dont know and wont know until they are old enough in my eyes to understand. as to friends they dont know and thats how it will have to be as they will NOt approve. Its not easy but thats life for us all | |
| 4 May 05, 5:42 PM travelling_man 6 yrs |
You wouldn't expect work colleagues to know particular desires when it comes to 'nilla sex so why should they know about BDSM stuff? For me it isn't a lifestyle thing but a bedroom thing... maybe making it a lifestyle is where problems arise. |
