Safe Calls (37)

That's why we feel so humbled by those that ask us to do it.

BethTVMistress
"It's a new dawn, a new day, a new life for me - and I'm feeling good!" - Nina Simone

With respect (I work in the IT industry) it is trivial to open an account with an ISP using a false name. And lots of people do.

And if, heaven forbid, something did go wrong and you went to the police the chances of them getting anything useful out of the ISP are varying degrees of zero.

But if you learn how to read the headers of an e-mail then you can glean a great deal of information. For example if they are using a hotmail account you will see something like this:

Return-Path: <xxx@hotmail.com> ... X-Originating-IP: [00.00.00.00]

Running some standard tests (whois, traceroute etc) on the IP address can be very revealing.

I had an incident recently where someone was supposedly mailing me from somewhere on the south coast.

Lots of other little red flags had been popping up for other reasons. So I took a look at the headers of the mails.

They all came from the same IP address. Which was 100+ miles (and several counties) away from where it should have been. And belonged to a cable company that didn't provide a service to anywhere near the place that the mails were supposedly coming from...

All of a sudden, the little red flags became very loud alarm bells.

Because Hotmail and Yahoo do a pretty good job of logging where the mail came from they are actually your friend.

Yes, I know that mail headers can be forged. And IP addresses spoofed or zombied.

But you should get the general idea.

About me: Lionheart's Lair was last updated Mar 10. http://www.lionheart.me.uk
Meet me: At the Docklands munch on Mar 14. http://www.docklandsmunch.co.uk

You could also bring a friend, if the person you are meeting is safe, they would understand and not mind. If you prefer a bit of privacy, you could even ask your friend to sit at a separate table if you meet in a pub or restaurant. Obviously it might be easier to do that if it's a couple of friends, so they don't have to sit there like a gooseberry!

I'm in the lucky position to have my lovely Husband as escort for all potential meets with subs, but I would most definitively set up a safe call system if I wasn't - better safe than sorry!!!

Ms VL1 - Edited cos I can't spell...

If you don't live life on the edge, you're taking up too much space!

Edited 13 Mar 05, 12:32 AM by Ms_VL1

http://www.safetxt.co.uk/

ML, (Master Laurence, the other half of Roissy Workshops), and I once had a long discussion on safe calls - there are a few negatives at both ends - ranging from possible charges of 'aiding and abetting', to 'contributory negligence'. I'll have a word with him, and see if we can recontruct the conclusions.

One thing I've done for a few friends of mine is to act as a 'trusted third party'. I'll accompany them to the meet, say hello, and sometimes, sit in a corner with a drink until given the OK.

One simple point: if someone insists on some kind of clandestine first time meeting, then it's probably a strong indicator of future problems. They may 'just' be cheating on a partner, but ML says the profile of many sex offenders commonly contains 'secretive'.

I'm a voter for the 'munch or club' style meeting myself.

Thunder is a bit more lucky then me - I'm the one who gets the BDSM emergency calls at 2.00am - like "The-hooks-I've-just-put-in-have-pulled-down-part-o f-the-bedroom-ceiling-and-covered-us-in-dust-and-my -partners-having-hysterics", type of thing.

Perhaps we need BDSM 'Thunderbirds' too.

Mike ('The Prof'), Roissy Workshops

A LandLine Number

A Mobile Number

Meeting in a Public Place Maybe ( At First )

Definetely Letting Someone Else Know what I am Doing

..and Ofcourse Letting the Person I am Meeting Know There is Someone Knowing I am Meeting Them.

Used all The Above in The Past!

MistressEbonyUK

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