Non replies to messages (58)

Don't take it personally ...

I've been guilty of it myself, I do reply though if I see that someone's made an effort to engage me, even if it's to say thank you for the interest, but otherwise I don't.

There are various reasons for this, my profile pretty much states what I'm searching for, so if a coupled up or married man contacts me I don't waste my time, if a sub girl contacts me for her 'master' I don't waste my time. If a sub male contacts me I don't waste my time or maybe the email I've been sent doesn't actually give me the opening to reply i.e.: It's a closed email with no opening questions to respond to.

I don't mind one liners if they are thought out, quirky, honest but when someone can't be arse to send me a decent first email, why should I bother replying?

So if you find it's happening to you rather a lot maybe it's the way you write them?

My two euro's worth :D

Take care and Keep safe Kat =^..^=

and how pray-tell do you know it's an genuine message?

to be honest though - it's part of the game. you send a message, and you've got a 1-in-10 chance (if not worse) of getting a response, (not even mentioning a positive one).

just the way life is - shouldn't be that way, but i don't make the rules.

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Edited 2 Mar 05, 3:03 AM by oscagne_uk

I've had enough of people (generally doms) making these complaints. I know I'm not on my own being a fem sub getting an average of a least 5 memos a day (no not under this screen name) on this website alone. I have a constant backlog of people to write to and I have a busy life outside of this. If someone has sent me a cut and paste message; or has read the age range on my profile, seen that they are 15 years above my specified age range- which is up to twice my own age anyway; or ignored the fact that i've said i'm not interested in anyone that's married then I don't often bother replying, no. Often it takes me up to a week to reply to people who I am interested in. Basically I just wanted to say think about it to all the complaining men, if you were getting 35+ memos a week how would you find the time to thoughtfully reply to them all. If someone has written me an interesting considerate message then I think they deserve being given the time to get one in return. If someone has sent me one line, or ignored my requests then quite frankly I've got better things to do with my time then explain why I'm not interested to them.

Well put! I do try and answer every mail sent to me, but I've fired off the odd "one liner" or "hello" to a message not expecting a reply due to the content of the message. If people want replies, put something in the message the reader might want to reply to.

Beth

BethTVMistress
"There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance" - Socraties

Totally agree. The female recipient arguments can easily be turned round to apply to male senders. Its a chicken and egg situation.

Why should a male spend hours of his time crafting a beautifully worded memo when there is no guarantee he'll get an answer? Much more time effective to fire off a batch of one-liners and hope for one quality reply. After all, the male has probably scanned the profile and is therefore judging on wider criteria than 'I don't like the way this person has approached me.'

If all males sent one liners, females would have no choice but to judge on the basis of the one line. So the fact that some females give considered replies saves the whole lot of you from that fate. So if you like, the people who don't reply are the female equivalent of the one liner senders.

I prefer the long thoughtful memo approach myself. I think a one liner deserves a one liner in return. But not replying to a memo that's had some effort put into it is just rude.

alex_10m

And make the message relevant. It's a "buyers" market when it comes to personal ads. You don't always get the feedback from the potential customers for the product you're marketing (yourself). You ahve to sell it, and sell it good, just to get the feedback...

Now, what does one write to illicit feedback? that's a totally different question...

I always reply if someone has taken the time to email me. If I didn't I would feel as if I had done the equivalent of walking past someone in the street who said good morning without even acknowledging they were there.

I don't say that the reply they get is always what they want to get. If they write shit, then they get shit in return, I tend to view everyone who comes into my inbox as fair game, and I reply as I see fit.

It's not the way a lot of people seem to do things, judging by the responses already, but it's my way.

I agree entirely, the pivotal point of the question was 'genuine messages', from this you would expect that the criteria of the advertiser had been met and the sender had taken the trouble to send a genuine message that extended beyond the bog-standard one liner. The recipient, in my humble opinion, if also genuine in their advert, ought to have the decency to reply. If the advertiser is advertising on several sites and being swamped with replies from all directions, does that make it the sender's fault? Is the sender aware of how much attention their advert is attracting? A genuine, politely crafted reply does deserve an acknowledgement in one form or another, anything else is simply unjustifiable.