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| 10 Feb 12, 6:23 PM Muzzlehatch UK(TN), 7 yrs   |
Wherever there's bare skin, dependant on your outfit.
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| 10 Feb 12, 6:25 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths |
I always wear a collar to match whatever outfit I have on for the night! It's just part of an outfit as far as I'm concerned.
I'm going to be at TG on Saturday too and for this weekend, I'll be wearing my pink diamante collar I try so hard to be a good girl, but have more fun when I'm being a naughty girl | ||
| 10 Feb 12, 6:41 PM TheMistressH UK(HX), 4 yrs |
Exactly. A good question from the OP. My boy wears a kind of thin leather strap necklace with a silver fastening at all times , which no one would question in his vanilla workplace/ family. When he comes to see me, I put on another proper collar with a name tag, which signifies my ownership, and his status to other people at events. I also know a sub lady, who says she is often mistaken for a Domme at events when she is not wearing her collar. She didn't want to wear a collar unless she was actually owned, so I suggested a necklace with the initials, or name "SUB", to show she was submissive.
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| 10 Feb 12, 7:10 PM Bubbles_2 UK(E), 6 yrs |
And a collar, probaly pink with chrome spikes.
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| 10 Feb 12, 8:57 PM ToakReon  UK(RH), 12 yrs |
It's always difficult to get the RIGHT message across. I would be wary of a large tag reading "NOT OWNED" because that in itself would be interpreted by many to read "DESPERATE". There is the "dual nature" of collars which means that some ellement of a collar wearer being seen as "owned" is inevitable ... but I'm not sure if this can be easily counteracted without the risk of other "unintended messages" being given. My suggestion would be go to the event uncollared, and have a collar in the toy bag to be put on when playing. Not ideal, perhaps, but it gets around the problem. *UPDATE* Model(s) for "how to" bondage photographs (and other bondage photographs) have now been found. Thank you to all who showed interest. | ||
| 10 Feb 12, 9:47 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
Preety bloody simple solution,, you have a collar with an embossed open padlock,, or if collared ( owned ) a closed padlock,, like the old hanky code people would pick up on it fair quick so they would,, Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish | ||
| 10 Feb 12, 10:56 PM Mz_Nix UK, 5 mths |
I agree, if someone is collared, then I would expect to see it locked or secured in someway, but if someone was just wearing a collar I would assume it was just an accessory. Nx | ||
| 11 Feb 12, 12:19 AM MistyRana UK(SN), 5 mths |
Agrees totally | ||
| 11 Feb 12, 1:03 AM RanDesu UK(WA), 16 mths  |
I wonder if something is being overlooked? Given that so very few people seem to understand Protocol nowadays, it seems that there has been a little of a general over-sensitivity to people wearing collars and the art of conversation. If I see someone alone, wearing a collar, I might speak with them and ask them how they are. I might discuss the weather or if they have been havng a nice day. Just because they are wearing a collar doesn't mean I can't talk to them like a normal human being. They are not less than me or less than another person to whom I may speak. All that matters is that I respect them and indeed, respect the value of the collar. I may ask if the collar is significant to them and represents an owner. I may ask them to pass on my regards to their owner. If I am interested in playing with them, I would ask the whereabouts of their owner - if they are indeed owned. I would never ask them to play, if the collar represents an owner. If they are in fetish wear, I may comment and compliment, but nothing more. I would expect anyone to respect the collar worn by my girl, as I respect those placed by others. Sometimes, we see young girls, goths or emos, wearing collars. It's an obvious fashion statement - 99.99% of the time. (Made up statistic) If someone chooses to wear a collar as a fashion accessory, there is surely no harm done. They should be no less respected for it and in some cases - as stated in the thread responses, it might help with pestering, mithersome 'Dominants'. I feel that anyone not familiar with Protocol should be given a chance, but I do think it is wrong to assume that they should not know better. It is always a matter of respect. I hope that you have a good evening, wherever you go and whatever you wear. | ||
| 11 Feb 12, 3:28 AM Smitten_Kitten US, 21 mths |
I guess it would depend on where you were at. If it's something kink related, it is to my understanding a collar means 'off-limits.' If it's just everyday places, would probably just see it as an accessory. Though a kinky observer would probably still take it as 'off-limits' or I would. * You're running with me, don't touch the ground * We're restless hearted, not chained and bound * |
