Posted by reservoir_bunny on Sat 4 Feb 12, 7:09 PM to reservoir_bunny's blog.
I spent 6 years being subjected to almost daily abuse til the medication stopped. After three years I immersed myself in my job to hide myself away, to survive. My sanctuary.
I survived, we survived. My work survived and I excelled at my job, getting promotion and tremendous respect.
Now though we have a new boss. A bully; an abuser. My team and I live with fear and stress and increasing sickness.
No longer the sanctuary it was, the sanctuary I no longer needed, my situation has reversed.
Bit of a bugger really when stuff at home has been so good this past 8 months.
Still, I survived that, I will survive this tyrant. Just hate the conflict it brings at times and the tears....
ps to DM who I know is watching me always...love you my friend. we miss you xxxx
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Edited Sat 4 Feb 12, 7:14 PM by reservoir_bunny
| 4 Feb 12, 7:29 PM Summer_Hayes UK, 3 yrs   |
Is there a grievance procedure you could use at work? | |
| 4 Feb 12, 7:33 PM A_Sub_Woman 4 mths |
Challenge the person if they do it to you, bully's do not usually like or expect it. | |
| 4 Feb 12, 7:37 PM andrewsean UK(CO), 5 yrs |
Tell them to FOCUS, only you will know it means Fuck Off Cos Ur Stupid. Good way to insult them without them realising  NON OMNIS MORIAR | |
| 4 Feb 12, 7:53 PM sub55y UK(HA), 15 mths |
Your new boss may soon become your ex boss,as productivty from your team will suffer showing the indivisual up as incapable[fingers crossed]. | |
| 4 Feb 12, 8:27 PM MistressValkyre UK(RG), 6 mths  |
Keep a record - day, time, what happened, who else was there etc so that if you do take the grievance route you have the evidence. There is a great website run by someone who was bullied at work in the past : http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/ Take care x | |
| 5 Feb 12, 1:29 AM Black0rchid UK, 2 yrs |
Please please please, order a copy of this book: 'Bully in sight' How to predict, resist, challenge and combat workplace bullying. By Tim Field. (Published by Success Unlimited). I used this book a lot when putting together my tribunal case against former employers (which I won), and recently I have been using it helping a friend in his case. Please order this book, it identifies types of bullying, the way to handle it, and ultimate sanctions you can have to deal with it. I wish you well, I know it takes stamina to deal with. X Edited 5 Feb 12, 1:28 PM by Black0rchid | |
| 5 Feb 12, 9:04 AM reservoir_bunny UK, 15 mths |
Thanks guys, its really helpful to have your input. I will certainly look out for the book you mentioned Black Orchid. Meanwhile we just keep swimming. xx rb
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