Posted by xxxpumpkinxxx
on Thu 2 Feb 12, 9:08 AM to xxxpumpkinxxx's blog.
ok so my dilemma scanning thro ic as i normally do when vanilla life gets boring and i stumble across a certain profile do a bit of browsen at a blog and it dawns on me that it might be a family connection now no one knows i am inclined in this lifestyle and now i know i am debating leaving ic which i really dont want i am now puzzled on what to do?
| 2 Feb 12, 9:23 AM Litany UK(E), 11 yrs  |
As long as they dont contact you , and you dont contact them leave it be , that person has as much right to a life on IC as you do. I would be scared/worried yes if I thought it , but dispassionatly they may be as worried as you are. Take off your location , which might indicate more than you want , your profile doesnt give much detail per se , so I wouldnt worry....just play it cool.
Uncle James "Litany, a poncy show-off with wit, a camera, and his own teeth *swoon*"
Fen "You have some strange taste in music"
Me "If I didn't, I wouldn't be half as interesting" | |
| 2 Feb 12, 9:45 AM angellover UK(CM), 3 yrs |
They would be as surprised as you if they saw you, but I dought very much that they would bring BDSM or IC up in a vanilla setting, as then they would be saying they are also. I would amend your profile as such in putting UK as your location as thats still true. The end of the day, you got to do what feels right for you as were not living your life.
The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind | |
| 2 Feb 12, 10:36 AM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs |
You have given a fair bit of information away about yourself in your posting, which would make it quite easy for someone who knows you to identify you. Added to that if they are local then them turning up at the Cardiff Munch would lead to an encounter. But what does it matter? You are both in the same boat, you have both been spotted with a BDSM connection. Do they need everyone else in the family knowing what they get up to in their spare time? I have the perfect accent for conflict resolution, shame about the personality. | |
| 2 Feb 12, 11:31 AM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
or Wales? There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | |
| 2 Feb 12, 11:37 AM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
In such a situation i would consider 3 options: a)quietly slink away b)stay and keep a bit of a low profile, removing anything on my profile likely to identify me. c)say hello to auntie jean If c) isn't an option I probably wouldn't make a blog drawing attention to myself, encouraging all and sundry (including my maiden aunt)to check my profile to see if it's "our vera's kid" smartarse Edited 2 Feb 12, 11:38 AM by fellatrix | |
| 2 Feb 12, 2:29 PM barecheek UK(NG), 8 mths |
Go on leave, there are other pumpkins in the patch |
