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| Wed 1 Feb 12, 10:11 PM domfredlondon  UK(EC), 4 mths  |
I had been chatting to a sub I met online for a few days when we got into a heavy sexting session. I called her a cunt, among other things, and from the next day she started avoiding me. I asked her what was wrong and she eventually told me that my use of the 'C' word was disrespectful and while she wanted to be treated like a slut, she still wanted respect. Does anybody else have stories about names/texts that went wrong? | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:15 PM Captain_Sensible UK(WV), 20 mths  |
I always ask to ensure certain words are acceptable in normal chat as a matter of courtesy and respect. Being a Dom doesnt mean you have a licence to be socially rude. To Honor! if you can't come in her, come on her! | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:17 PM domfredlondon UK(EC), 4 mths |
I wasn't being socially rude though.. the word was used in the course of the sexting session. But asking upfront is a good idea... you learn something every day! | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:19 PM Dommy_nick UK(WS), 6 yrs |
To me and to some other women I know, the C word is the most offensive one in the English language. If in doubt, definitely don't use it! Dommy_nick Licence to perve! | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:21 PM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
so you were sexting.... whoopie doo! sexting doesn't make it acceptable to say just anything you know! for many subs, the word cunt is either offensive or only appropriate once you are in a relationship... definitely worth asking a bit more - and just getting to know her a bit more! - before you get into sexting I would say.... There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me Edited 1 Feb 12, 10:22 PM by Shypeachybottom | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:22 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
Yeah prehap's thinking round new way's of slutting a person up will only improve your preformance,, and obviously add far more to your repartee !
Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish Edited 1 Feb 12, 10:24 PM by MisstressvsSolicedog | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:23 PM Black0rchid UK, 2 yrs |
It's not really gone wrong for you has it, it's just you've discovered something you like, e.g., using the C. word and it's not something she likes and by the sound of it, it turned her off. That could equally have happened in live play. I used to correspond with someone by memo and then one day he told me his fantasy would be x and x and x and then I would be made to tell him how worthless I was. I've been in the benefits system for years, the whole object of the benefits system is to make me or anyone feel worthless so it certainly wasn't my fantasy to have a man make me feel like it on top of everything else! After that I never corresponded with him again and that was the end. It wasn't that it came out in memos or sexting though, it would have been the same result when we met and then during live play he had announced that. People have differently sexualities. Sometimes maybe before you get into your "sexting" or whatever you need to ask the other person if there is anything that turns them off, or you just take pot luck and if it works it works, but sometimes it doesn't, and sometimes it doesn't work in real life situations either, it's just life. | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:25 PM CarolDeeTgirl UK(B), 2 yrs |
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| 1 Feb 12, 10:26 PM domfredlondon UK(EC), 4 mths |
Absolutely agree. Learnt something valuable there. | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:30 PM DeCoverley UK(GL), 4 yrs |
Texting, and even MSN and email, are notoriously prone to horrendous misunderstandings. Sooner or later you'll offend somebody, or get offended yourself, no matter how careful you are. I know I've had icy reactions from time to time over the years when I've said something a lot more innocent than that! Peril of the game, I'm afraid. | |
| 1 Feb 12, 10:35 PM domfredlondon UK(EC), 4 mths |
Those are true words... |
