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| Tue 31 Jan 12, 10:46 PM Fred_A_Stare UK(SN), 16 mths   |
W/we have recently started Argentine Tango classes. This is a departure for us since, although we both dance and teach dancing, tango is entirely dictated by the leader. The leader has the control to decide where to decorate the dance with pauses and speeding up, so it is ultimately up to the leader to decide on which beat the steps are taken. For me this is great, because her indoors is extensively musically trained and is astonishing at finding the first beat of the bar and she finds it to be like fingers on a chalkboard when I dance slightly off the beat or start on the 3rd beat instead of the first. I can see her wince in physical pain when I do something slightly off the beat and especially tonight when we started more extensive decorating of the steps and I was setting the actual figures on the fly. It was she who described it as exquisite torture to be forced to deviate from the rhythm and the figures we had been taught on my whims. Discussing this after the class on the drive home, it suddenly dawned on me that dance classes would be a great place for the initial steps in a D/s relationship, especially if there is a Dom married to or in a relationship with someone much more vanilla, since the traditional male/female division of authority is encouraged. Also in the modern world of men thinking dancing is less than masculine, women are finding that they have to twist their partner's arm to even think about dance classes. I see this in every class I teach: the women are more into the idea of dancing and the men have been dragged under threats of whatever works on them. If a Dom is having trouble getting their SO interested in trying the lifestyle, it might be an idea to suggest dance classes. I can honestly say that from my circle of friends and acquaintances a good 80-90% of the women want to dance, and more often than not have to restrict themselves to evenings out with the girls bopping around their handbags because their SOs aren't interested, so I would imagine that at least 2/3 of women would jump at the idea of their husband/boyfriend suggesting a dance class. Suggest the Argentine Tango, especially with the exposure Vincent Simone and Flavia Cacacha have given it on the last few series of Strictly, and they would likely jump your bones there and then. To some degree this would obviously work in same sex D/s relationships as well; it is quite common to have more women than men in a dance class and switching roles is not recommended during tuition so one usually emerges as leader. You would probably struggle to find a dance class where a woman leading a man would not be looked at askance, but I suppose if you book a dance teacher for a private lesson, or book them to teach a group of Domme/sub couples in a venue of your choosing then this shouldn't be insurmountable. | |
| 1 Feb 12, 4:08 AM Avada_Kedavra UK, 7 yrs |
Love Argentine Tango M: Its only a baby needle, you wont know the difference. I am not a one dimensional needle obsessed Domme... | |
| 1 Feb 12, 8:23 AM carenza_lionheart UK(NN), 24 mths  |
Tango and paso doble are both exquisitely male led and I am sulking now that I haven't had anyone to dance with for years. Doms, my advice to you in order to capture the heart of a submissive is to wear a smart suit and tango with her. swoon. The one who claims to be innocent - who wants to test the claim? | |
| 1 Feb 12, 9:18 AM MissMorrigan UK(BN), 7 yrs |
This is one of the most sensual, passionate and dominating of dances. I adore watching the intricacies of the steps, with the technical challenges of the leader and the consistent flow of the follower. Swooons. I cannot dance, sadly, I would greatly love to learn and can also see this as a beautiful medium for D/s. The tooth fairy teaches kids to sell body parts for money ~ David Richerby | |
| 1 Feb 12, 11:03 AM Kitana  UK(LE), 10 yrs |
I started Salsa lessons with my wife recently. As we are a gay couple, and wanted to dance together, one of us had to lead. We both experimented with leading and found we preferred it when Cat led, even though she is usually sub to me (although Domme to others). Possibly partly as Cat has more dancing training than I have so picked it up quicker, and maybe because this way she gets to dance with lots of women in the class rather than men! It has been interesting for us with the dynamics of her taking the lead during the classes and when practicing at home and been good for her confidence. We have been accepted as a gay couple, and they are fine with us deciding to dance the lead even though we are female. There are just as many men who turn up as women - it's very 50/50, and many are singles rather than couples. Vicky of Freak Clubwear Freak is 8 years old as a full time fetish business. FREE online BDSM instructional videos on our site. www.freakclubwear.co.uk See us at the LFF and BBB every month and Erotica in November. | |
| 3 Feb 12, 12:03 AM Ithaca4922 UK(SW), 2 yrs |
Sidestepping a little from the dance of the topic, my lovely D and I are keen followers of Cajun and Zydeco. Dancing, even though we aren't that good at it, is the key to a superb physical, mental and emotional bond. When he leads me at speed in a sensual dance to loud live music in a crowded hot room, well, who could ask for more? | |
| 3 Feb 12, 10:44 AM Sultry_Sub UK, 5 mths |
Aah, It does indeed make me swoon. So beautiful to watch. I wish I could dance... Sadly, I can just about stretch to the Macarena. Even then my coordination leaves alot to be desired. *sigh* xx
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| 3 Feb 12, 12:45 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
Ah one of my fav ,, i love the tango, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhjR2XLIUuU and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fJzVEn8o6NM&featu... Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish | |
| 3 Feb 12, 1:20 PM Sultry_Sub UK, 5 mths |
Anything featuring Ewan McGregor is enough to make me swoon 
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| 3 Feb 12, 1:40 PM TheProf UK(BL), 12 yrs |
I feel the same - and would love to learn. Masters at work - Carlos Gavito with Marsel Duran, (YouTube Clip).
Mike ('The Prof') | |
| 3 Feb 12, 3:36 PM Diabolikk UK, 2 yrs |
nice to see another kinkster and Tango dancer : ) It's little more then a year I started dancing Tango and yes I can definitely see parallels not only between Tango and D/s relationships but also between both scenes. I am reading a book about Tango called "12 Minutes of Love" ( which so far -personally- I don't find particularly good) but it gives an interesting insight within the tango scene and it has some funny bits in it too. To the OP : if you are down in London for a Milonga just give me a shout : ) To the others : please try it it is never to late to start! Love D
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