What information do you look for on a profile? (65)

I also thought it might be helpful to new members, as I've seen a few new profiles that say something like "I don't know what to put on here".

To throw in my own two ha'eurocents worth: I'd say that it's always useful to know what kind of person you're looking for, and indeed the type you're not looking for. You know, age, height, location etc if they're important to you. It just saves typing.

Other than that, something about non-bdsm/sexual interests, and a bit of personality thrown in - though the latter is something that can be very hard to get accross in writing. So the factual stuff above is a good minimum.

So, knock yerselves out...

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But at the very least, age and location!!!!

And don't underestimate the value of a photo, even if it's not a face pic (see other thread on this).

Similarly, if you have a sparse profile and are sending someone else a memo, show that you've read their profile. Engage with it, say what you do and don't think similarly about, answer any questions that may be in that person's profile.

I can't speak for other members, but a blank profile and a one-line memo/chat message (with poor spelling) is unlikely get you anywhere with me. (Cue a bunch of people sending me messages containing two lines, the second being a reference to the first sentence in this paragraph, followed by "lol" or a smiley).

Beyond that, which is probably so obvious that it tends to get overlooked, I'd say a profile (whether intended as an ad or simply as a user profile) should maybe give a hint about what the person behind the profile is like, as opposed to just a list of activities they want.

I understand why some folk prefer to leave their profile minimal, I mean hey, I'm seeing someone with a very minimalist profile, but would advise that those seeking to meet others, even if only as new friends on the scene, should maybe say a little about what sort of a person they are so that their profile is unique.

Milage may vary of course: some like really long profiles and others prefer short but sweet ones.

I want to hold you close / Skin pressed against me tight
Lie still, and close your eyes, girl / So lovely, it feels so right
I want to hold you close / Soft breasts, beating heart
As I whisper in your ear / I want to f*cking tear you apart

Heh-heh-heh...

On the 12th day of Christmas my true love sent to me,

12 wankers wanking

11 tossers tossing

10 old gits letching

9 smilies smiling

8 masters baiting

7 bulls-a-crapping

6 cut'n'paste jobs

5 "How is yooooous?"

4 corny jokes

3 dick shots

2 blank profiles

And an "On your knees and suck my huge co-o-o-ck"

I wanted to avoid relationships that I knew would make me unhappy, and the quickest way to filter out women that I knew for sure wouldn't be compatible was to not bother with profiles that indicated a preference for poly, or showed the existence of any kind of active relationship, whether play or otherwise.

That ruthless winnowing of profiles left a very short list indeed, as you can imagine- so I couldn't afford to be fussy about distance, or in fact about anything else. All I knew was I would be far happier dating a great big ugly moron of a woman, as long as she was exclusive to me, than I could with the most beautiful, witty and intelligent poly woman on the planet.

So the only things that mattered to me personally were that she wanted to be boss, and that she was monogamous and single. So that's what I looked for, and anything else was a bonus (I've taken sanity as a given, but on reflection I can see that criteria does actually take out a significant number of people in itself).

A sense of humour and an ounce of kindness would've been brilliant, but for monogamy I was prepared to mostly sacrifice those as well. Thankfully I didn't have to go that far.

Edited 26 Jan 12, 12:41 AM by JustTony

All very true - but the men arent much better I'll bet....

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However, the above and a little about them and what they are looking for would be ideal...

The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind

Sound advice! I shall now amend my own profile accordingly.