A session can be hard work. (19)

Admittedly the implementation of CP involves physical effort although this can be interpreted as less toil and more pleasure. Dancing as compared to mining for coal.

As a large proportion of sessions are likely to involve the effort involved in the application of restraints, I wondered if any pro-dommes shared this opinion and how, if possible they countered it.

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Plus if you are used to restraints and rope you strap, tie and capture very quickly.

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Edited 20 Jan 12, 2:40 PM by Perplexion

A Girl after my own heart, though the low top dosen't work for me so mutch!

If bending, crouching or kneeling to do dominant stuff in a session works against the 'femdom dynamic', then clearly the problem lies with whatever that 'femdom dynamic' is, and not with the Dominant woman in question.

Being active in a PD session is a necessary part of it, to restrain, use toys, flog and cane, are all physical in nature. I don't see one part as any less enjoyable than another. Effort used to inflict pain is fun but so is effort taken to bind up and control.

The exertion put in by me when dominating someone is all part of what I enjoy and I wouldn't have it any other way. I sometimes grin appreciatively and tell a sub he has worn me out and that is a huge compliment to them. It means that energy has been used and flowed and ends up with both of us feeling tired but happy.

By the way, stereotypical things like whoever is kneeling is the sub, is not always so. I often settle myself on my knees with great relish between the spread legs of a naked sub on my bondage chair and slowly torture his cock and balls. Being down there allows me to tease him easily, even blowing a cool breath on a sore cock can be exquisite. Funnily enough when I tease him with my so called lowly position, he never tells me I look or am behaving like a sub.

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Edited 20 Jan 12, 3:32 PM by Ms_Valentine

Hypnotism.

We sit them down, and whilst eating biscuits we lull them into a trance and suggest to them that they have had the best bondage and CP ever, leaving us to FB and Twitter.

It works a treat. Every time.

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Wow - didn't realise topping was part of your repertoire. I think I might have fallen, at least slightly, at least briefly, in love . OK not love, but ... perhaps desire . Punishing naughty boys for having wandering eyes is hot, and deliberately making it difficult for then is even hotter. That delicious interplay between desire and self-restraint,and the recognition of the female knowing herself to be desired and to be deliberately tantalising and teasing .

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Edited 20 Jan 12, 5:04 PM by wonderer

Yes it does say on my signature and profile, but only in a professional sense not in my personal life, unless doing a double with a really cute smaller female subby I can be very naughty!

The last time I was house domme at The Facility all day Sunday playmunch was a very hot day in July, I was wearing PVC and sweating buckets. I had Pensub on the spanking bench and 2 subs waiting. I took off the PVC and was still sweating in my La Senza lacey red and black bra, knickers and suspender belt I was working so hard.

When Pensub suggested I took off my bra I agreed on the provision he took 60 cane strokes. He took them very bravely and I then stood directly behind him out of his sight and removed the bra!

Poor poor Pensub!! The waiting Clubslut was in fits of giggles though at his dilema.

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Edited 20 Jan 12, 6:31 PM by Tara_Red

Having said that, I can't see why on earth fiddling about with restraints would diminish a femdom dynamic. Femdom (to me anyway) isn't about reclining on a sofa being fed grapes, it's about control. I see bondage as weaving a web around my victims that enslaves them and makes them feel safe all at once.

As @Ms_Valentine has already touched on, a Domme suddenly doesn't lose authority if she kneels or is physically in a "traditionally submissive" position. The Femdom Dynamic is about what is going on in our heads, not what the visuals are. It's also rather wonderful to subvert submissive's thoughts on traditional Domination - just to scramble the brains a little more!

Edited 20 Jan 12, 8:41 PM by Mistress_Susannah

Ah but depends how much fear I've already put into them!(Obviously depending on the dynamics of the session, I don't always restrain I don't always instill fear!)

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