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| canupleaseme |
Spent the last 2 hours trying to convince my daughter she isn't weird or stupid or ugly because 4 girls in her year have decided to pick on her.
Little bitches I could slap them.
Not only have they ruined my daughters week they have ruined my LC planes 
So other parents on the forum how have you dealt with bullying issues with your kids?
How do you teach your child to believe in themself...
| 19 Jan 12, 10:21 PM Merrick 3 yrs  |
The sensible me recommends a polite and friendly conversation with the bullies parents, perhaps when you're dropping them off and all the children have gone inside the school. If the parents turn out to be scum, perhaps make the conversation more 'forceful' plus inform the teachers of the situation.
If this doesn't work, beat the parents and the teachers up, not forgetting to teach your child how to beat up bullies. p.s. What's an LC plane??? Every man dies. Not every man really lives. | ||
| 19 Jan 12, 11:12 PM sub55y UK(HA), 15 mths |
I dont know how old your daughter is or what form of bullying has taken place but speak with the headteacher stating the facts and how they propose to deal with the situation.All schools should have an antibullying policy and strategy.Keep a written record of any incidents should the problems persist.Maybe your daughter might like to consider taking up judo or something so as to boost confidence and make friends outside of the school environment.Its good that your daughter has confided in you. | ||
| 19 Jan 12, 11:18 PM AmberStClare UK(BN), 5 yrs |
If the bullying continues I would seriously consider changing schools. Edited for typo. I'm the one your mother warned you about Edited 20 Jan 12, 8:39 AM by AmberStClare | ||
| 19 Jan 12, 11:44 PM Jezzebelle UK, 10 yrs |
My daughter got bullied, a very good friend said to her "next time just punch them", not advice I would have given, she did, it worked... http://www.flickr.com/photos/jezzebelle/ | ||
| 19 Jan 12, 11:44 PM Jezzebelle UK, 10 yrs |
My daughter got bullied, a very good friend said to her "next time just punch them", not advice I would have given, she did, it worked... http://www.flickr.com/photos/jezzebelle/ | ||
| 20 Jan 12, 8:17 AM geek_love 2 yrs |
Report any incidents of bullying to the school, be prepared for things to get worse, but do not stop reporting. The bullies will get the message eventually. Written from past experience. The singer is a neurotic drinker | ||
| 20 Jan 12, 8:43 AM Morgan_Sinjen UK, 8 mths |
Its unfortunate that in this day and age the ONLY sensible advice you can give her is the one you will be told is wrong. Reporting it to the teachers will do nothing as they have no power to interfere. Changing schools will be a result for the bullies and they will pick on someone else, and your daughter will be picked on in the new school and the process will repeat itself. She will grow up believing she is worthless. I'm with Jezabelle, the only real solution is to teach her to fight back, Be that verbal, if the bullying is verbal, physical; if the bullying is physical. But also teach her that it is to be used as defence and protection. Then she wont become a bully herself but will have a knowledge of self worth.
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| 20 Jan 12, 9:25 AM geek_love 2 yrs |
Sorry, have to disagree with this. As I stated, from personal experience, a bad case of bullying was stopped due to intervention from the school. It did take a while, but once they could see the pattern emerging action was swift and incisive. The singer is a neurotic drinker | ||
| 20 Jan 12, 9:39 AM Tralaticius UK(LS), 2 yrs |
I know of people who have done that.Perfectly understandable and very sad but unjust.It isn't the victim who should be leaving ! In my day (makes me sound old!) if someone tried to bully you, then you probably would twat them. Maybe it might work sometimes but it might not be so straight forward and the victim could end up getting seriously injured.Also,sod's law says the victims 'retaliation' will get spotted and they'll be the ones in trouble. As for talking to parents...not a route I would go down. You might get lucky and they might be very 'adult' about it but their natural instinct will be to defend their offspring, possibly to the point of denial. It is a really tough one and alot depends on how responsible or otherwise the school are. IMO, some schools openly accept that bullying exists and openly do something about it.Others, unfortunately, deny there is a problem in order to save face. If it were me I'd be talking to the form teacher/head of year or headteacher in the first instance, hoping that they are resolved to stamp out the problem.If that failed,well, you might consider going to the board of governors or even your local education authority. Hopefully, you won't have to take things too far and the problem will be resolved locally and swiftly. All the best
Edited 20 Jan 12, 10:07 AM by Tralaticius | ||
| 20 Jan 12, 10:04 AM Betony UK, 7 yrs |
This isn't much help, but teaching kids about how to stand up to bullies needs to start from a very young age. Helping her deal with it depends on your daughter's age and the type of bullying that's going on. One of the local secondary schools in my area refuses to admit there is any bullying at all amongst their pupils. The local paper have taken up the cases of children who are being bullied there with the result that the school have now banned copies of the newspaper being held in the school library. Unbelievable.
One syllable short of a full haiku Edited 20 Jan 12, 10:06 AM by Betony |
