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| 19 Jan 12, 2:45 PM icklekitty UK(SW), 4 mths  |
You know, I think the reason I'm submissive in this context is because I behave so dominantly in other areas of my life. I can think of it only as a positive thing that he brings out this side of you and that you enjoy it. | |
| 19 Jan 12, 3:14 PM Mistress_sultrybelle UK(G), 2 yrs £ |
I know quite a few people like this. http://www.mistresssultrybelle.com/ http://www.glasgowdominatrix.co.uk/ https://twitter.com/#!/MissSultryBelle | |
| 19 Jan 12, 3:32 PM TheSilverFox  UK(GU), 2 yrs    |
I know a very lovely lady who is also like this. It isn't a problem at all! Enjoy it.... Just be you. There are no rules.. (Well, apart from the ones your Master gives you.. OBVIOUSLY!  )"I can and I will.... I just choose not to..... Yet!" | |
| 19 Jan 12, 3:54 PM Mysubeyes 19 mths |
I totally relate to this... If you met me out and about, there is nothing about my behaviour/actions/interactions with others that would indicate I was anything other than a dominant women. However, when it comes to being in a relationship, I am completely submissive. That is my comfort area, my place to be because of the 'one' that dominates me. Certainly would not happen with anyone else.
What is most important is what goes on within your own relationship and what makes you both happy. Everyone has a different story and way of being - so just be you mse x I'll follow you and make a heaven out of hell, and I'll die by your hand which I love so well….. William Shakespeare | |
| 19 Jan 12, 4:10 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs  |
I was a sub in a relationship like this. It can certainly work the only issue I had was when I witnessed their D/s dynamic, totally my own problem and I should have understood yadda yadda but in reality it just completely put me off. | |
| 19 Jan 12, 7:24 PM abby1983 UK(KA), 7 yrs |
There's a fair few relationships out there that are like this. For me I generally identify as 'sub' but there are people out there who can make me feel like I just want to tie them down and do wicked things to them. There are some people who bring out the whole 'I want to kneel at your feet and obey what you say etc' and yet there are some who bring out the 'hmmm I'd like you to do naughty things to me but don't expect me to make you tea afterwards' in me. There have been (possibly one) that I would have done absolutely anything for (legally of course) but there are some who bring absolutely nothing out in me. I personally don't think I cold ever 'top' someone as I would hate to administer pain but it doesn't mean I don't imagine it. There is too much emphasis on labels. I hate labels! If it makes you happy then go for it. If someone can't accept it then they can't accept you as you are and aren't worth it xx Domestically challenged!! | |
| 19 Jan 12, 8:03 PM saranora UK(GU), 3 yrs |
I'd just echo the much expressed thought so far of " You are who you are". If a sub has issues with your own sub relationship, then that person is not for you. Wouldn't worry me incidentally. | |
| 19 Jan 12, 8:22 PM the_oracle_jennie UK, 3 yrs |
i would still take it seriously and i like the idea more of a collared sub/slave being a top over me yes i think a person can subit to one and still want to top others a rose by any other name will smell but as sweet | |
| 19 Jan 12, 8:46 PM NightFox UK(CV), 3 yrs |
I have always thought that being the submissive is the easy option. You don't have to think, just accept what's coming your way and do as you are told. Being the Dom can be hard work as you have to be in control, plan, and issue the orders. You, as the dominant partner are in effect the Manager, and that is a demanding role. I think a lot of Doms/Dommes probably will not admit to ever having a submissive desire or thought because that would damage their status. Equally, a lot of subs will shy away from ever being Dominant because its too much like hard work. I don't see any reason that just because you are collared to someone should preclude you from dominating others. As a switch you will meet people you will naturally want to dominate and some you will naturally want to be submissive too. Hierarchy is quite normal in all other aspects of our lives, why should this aspect be any different ? NF | |
| 19 Jan 12, 9:05 PM Perplexion 13 mths |
If someone is put off by this then they are not appropriate for you and vice versa. It's not a bad filter for compatability. |
