String of Command? (37)

My questions and musings are what I feel I need to say. I felt more a bit ridiculed by some of the replies in my last thread, but still I need to speak out my way, just like every other member of the Community.

The Masochist desires to experience stronger sensations, but desires that it should be inflicted with Love. The Sadist desires to inflict stronger sensations, but desires that it should be felt as Love. -- Anonymous

Edited Tue 17 Jan 12, 4:11 AM by custardpowder

Nicely put.

I may steal that one day.

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Yes, that all sounds about right.

Excellent

I'm always happy to be of assistance

The Masochist desires to experience stronger sensations, but desires that it should be inflicted with Love. The Sadist desires to inflict stronger sensations, but desires that it should be felt as Love. -- Anonymous

Why do you ever say No, when he asks you to do something? Your post says that sometimes you obey him and sometimes you don't. We don't know why you say 'yes' sometimes and 'no' on others.

You seem to want to be submissive as you care if he really wants something. However, he doesn't tell you how he thinks or feels. Well, not everyone does tell their nearest and dearest all that is in their head all the time. That isn't a reason for disobedience or lack of submission or is it in your view?

You find it hard to commit to daily agreed tasks and yet crave more real time commands. What is the difference? Why do you care about one and less so about another?

Then you reckon you 'jump' as high as he wishes. What you have said doesn't back that up.

I am honestly and truly confused by your relationship and what your posts are really trying to say.

I guess I am intrigued as my own relationship is so different and one can only go by what you know.

Dominant partner in an FLR with @paulss

Excellent questions, Ms_Valentine. I'm still finding myself and my own limits, as is He. His desires become my desires eventually, but we are both fairly new to the lifestyle, having only very dabbled some years ago for Him, and more recently for me. Yes, I am confused but that's not necessarily a bad thing. I never disobey intentionally, but things have to be worked on. Trust needs to develop both ways, as in any deep relationship, of course. We have both been seriously headfucked in life too so that's another factor. I'm in training, and with a character like mine that is hard work for me!! I don't find it hard to commit to my tasks, I've lived a life of chaos and therefore I'm not that used to routine... at all. Any failures are caused by falling asleep or other things, not by wanton ignorance of my tasks. I thrive on my tasks, but certainly not re Him needing to say exactkly what He feels all the time, I don't own Him and really don't want to have the responsibility. I don't want to own any man. Sometimes, I guess, I wish He would speak His mind more instead of keeping it in?

I hope this goes some way to answering your questions.

The Masochist desires to experience stronger sensations, but desires that it should be inflicted with Love. The Sadist desires to inflict stronger sensations, but desires that it should be felt as Love. -- Anonymous

Me to.

Love it.

My goal - to save women from nature (Dior)
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Same here, excellent quote!

Well, I couldn't find a name to pin on the 'quote', but I'm sure somebody said it before me.

While I am on a roll, these are many interesting ways of putting things, including these:

"The worst form of equality is to try and make unequal things equal" Aristotle

"All men are not treated equal but should be treated as though they were under the law" Andy Rooney

"To every reaction there is always opposed an equal reaction" Isaac Newton (What goes up must come down, also IN)

And a couple of gems to almost finish:

"Once made equal to man, woman becomes his superior" Socrates

"All animals are equal, but some are more equal than others" George Orwell

The last word has to come from the Marquis himself though: "Are not laws dangerous which inhibit the passions? Compare the centuries of anarchy with those of the strongest legalism in any country you like and you will see that it is only when the laws are silent that the greatest actions appear"

The Masochist desires to experience stronger sensations, but desires that it should be inflicted with Love. The Sadist desires to inflict stronger sensations, but desires that it should be felt as Love. -- Anonymous

Edited 17 Jan 12, 4:10 AM by custardpowder

You have to play the game though. You have the power to give up your 'freedom', but if you choose to do so, then the dom is in charge and that needs to be respected. It's like when you ask someone for a favour and they do a half-effort job... what's the point if you're not going to do it right? If you're gonna get wet you might as well go swimming. Or as someone told me once "...or get f***ed...."

That makes the whole relationship so fascinating to me. It's a give and take of power and trust and all those wonderful things and I'm excited that I've found it and am having even more fun learning about it!

BTW @custardpowder I just wanted to say I LOVE your profile picture! You don't allow comments otherwise I would have posted there instead... I'm going to save that little 'poem' on it, it's perfect!