29 Jan 12, 5:55 AM
MzWhipplash
UK(RM), 14 mths
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saphireyes wrote:
feminiseme11 wrote:
MistressAdara wrote:
feminiseme11 wrote:
thanks but i'm a private sort of person that would like to get to know someone online first before showing myself as a sub to everyone at a munch.
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i'm sure there are loads (subs) in my position who want to develop a relationship/dialogue online then take it further when trust develops.
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I'm sure you are right but as you have found unless you get out there actually you are wasting your time. I spent 3 months getting no where and got so hacked off I auditioned for Club Pedestal, had a great time at audition, attended the next event as a House Slave and my experience and confidence is now growing. I have met some wonderful Dommes at events admittedly mostly pro but actually found that suits me.
Its your choice but I think sitting behind a screen and hoping its going to happen is pointless if you are a male sub- as you say we are just two a penny.
I agree with joining Pedestal as a House slave for a newcomer submissive male to build confidence and learn the ways a Domme likes to be served.
I am a regular at Pedestal and I will chat a little to new House slaves particularly those with an extra broad smile.
Over come your shyness. If you remain online your growth eill be slower. Getting out to FemDom or mixed munches and events are the way forward.
Mistress Whipplash
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29 Jan 12, 9:19 AM
AmberStClare
UK(BN), 5 yrs
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FeralLady wrote:
feminiseme11 wrote:
thanks but i'm a private sort of person that would like to get to know someone online first before showing myself as a sub to everyone at a munch.
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How will anyone know you're a submissive at a munch?
~M.E~
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You hang a sign around your neck of course.
I'm the one your mother warned you about
You set the mood baby, for a big bad beautiful blues...
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29 Jan 12, 9:27 AM
Ama_Sidero
UK(GU), 7 yrs
  
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TopazD wrote:
FeralLady wrote:
feminiseme11 wrote:
thanks but i'm a private sort of person that would like to get to know someone online first before showing myself as a sub to everyone at a munch.
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How will anyone know you're a submissive at a munch?
~M.E~
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You hang a sign around your neck of course.
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Everyone keeps telling you to go to munches. You do usually actually *talk* to people when you get there. That is how they find out you are submissive.
At any event, you don't just home in on the people you interested in, you try to get to know people. People know people. When you get to know people well enough, you remember who is looking for what and people often introduce friends to each other.
People often go to munches and say there was noone there and never go back. Maybe they weren't there that night. You have to *try* and keep trying.
Actually, it's ok when subs don't bother to try. It is a really good filtering system. LOL
@Play_Space - Next party is Friday, February 3, 2012 and the first Friday of every month!
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29 Jan 12, 10:07 AM
clubslut
UK(B), 4 yrs
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feminiseme11 wrote:
thanks for the advice everyone..i know you speak sense!
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So which event are you going to first then?
Also where are you from? This isn't stated on your profile, nor much else for that matter. If you were going for a job you wouldn't expect to get an interview if your CV just had your name, age and address. Fill out your profile to try and sell yourself a bit.
If there's a munch in your area then try that. It's one of the few places where you can be 100% sure of meeting people who share similar interests. I'd be happy to try and find something suitable for you but without knowing where you're from, I can't offer any assistance with this.
"Sits alone and bends his cane, same old backsides again" - Madness
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29 Jan 12, 12:40 PM
NANA777
UK(SW), 3 yrs
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feminiseme11 wrote:
Well I know that subs are two a penny and i can sense a slagging approaching from some people but why don't Dommes give a poor sub like me a little time before dismissing me as a no go! trust develops over time pour moix
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'a little time' x so many sub men online = a huge amount of time |
29 Jan 12, 1:08 PM
MisstressvsSolicedog
UK(NN), 17 mths
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Useing the board's on IC are usfull but you really need a profile,,
a blank will get few intrested in you ,, Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish
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