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| Two_Whips |
on Thu 12 Jan 12, 7:04 PM to Two_Whips's blog.
Edited Mon 16 Jan 12, 12:27 PM by Two_Whips
| 12 Jan 12, 7:21 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
Different people look for different things, remember though if you are sending loads of un replied to messages out then doubtless other men are too and then us women folk get the pick of the bunch. Its not just about 'skills' matching profiles its about how hot you are, how funny you are, how well you write a message etc etc | |||||||||
| 12 Jan 12, 7:22 PM coquettish UK(BN), 22 mths |
Maybe your contact memo doesn't grab them enough. Maybe your profile doesn't appeal to them. Maybe it's a combination of both. I'd start with those things and go from there.
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| 12 Jan 12, 7:25 PM littlenic 5 yrs |
What's the rest of your life like? You know, the stuff that isn't about your sex life? What do you do for fun? What winds you up? What makes your heart skip a beat? What's your personality like? Because I have no idea from your profile, and as such any memo probably wouldn't get a reply from me either. I don't think I'm unusual in saying that a lot of people looking for a relationship (whatever gender, whatever DS or SM orientation) want to get to know the person behind the kink. Your writing style doesn't really give much insight into you, so you may need to spell it out a bit more in your profile. Give people something to go on, something to think, hey, we have that in common, or ooh, that sounds interesting. If nothing else, it might get you that first response, which is the first step to striking up a conversation and maybe going on from there.
Try it. I hope it works for you | |||||||||
| 12 Jan 12, 7:26 PM Two_Whips UK(NG), 6 mths |
I have sent different emails, each one linked to the person I wrote to I have tried many profiles, some long and full of personal details but now have a shorter one, neither appears to 'work' So, any comments on my profile? Edited 14 Jan 12, 12:59 PM by Two_Whips | |||||||||
| 12 Jan 12, 7:36 PM Jezzebelle UK, 10 yrs |
Not an enticing profile, I like this, I like that, I don't do this, comes across as very rigid, totally inflexible. If your memos are similar then I'm not surprised you don't get replies. Try lightening up and getting to know the subs you approach. Oh and try not mentioning the D/s in the first memo to them, just a friendly approach! http://www.flickr.com/photos/jezzebelle/ | |||||||||
| 12 Jan 12, 7:43 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
Personally I don't think much of profiles that start like job applications, I never really cared how long someone has been doing something seeing as they never met me before.
All stuff better kept to your interest box unless there is something you really want to wax lyrical about.
The do not go to munches part seems really final and would make me wonder why you have such an issue with it.
Doesn't match up to what you said in the first place
Sorry which do you want? Also a few too many letters.
I personally never really like someone who tells me they are intelligent, if they are then it should come across in the way they write. Also I am sure you think optimistically pessimistic sounds cool and kooky but actually it doesn't fit in the rest of your profile at all.
Generally woman don't want to sit around thinking of your ex
So your only interest on here is how 'skillful' people are at activities? There is no one on your network which does ring alarm bells seeing as you apparently go out all the time and have been involved for 18 years.
Strange combo of things but I don't all together dislike this line its ok but to be honest unless I was doing this I would probably have stopped reading a while ago. Plus the photo of the dogs is just werid. To improve, move the interests section, if you are smart write an interesting profile about who you are not what you like. What do you bring to the table that someone else doesn. Upload a decent photo of you or take the blurred one off and don't mention the other photo in the profile. (Though face pics will always get a load more attention)
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| 12 Jan 12, 7:44 PM Two_Whips UK(NG), 6 mths |
@Jezzebelle My last profile was all paragraphs, waffly and friendly, that didnt work for over a year so changed it As I thought fem subs would be getting 100's of memos it seemed a good idea to make my new profile short, to the point and easy to read As D/s is a new venture for me I dont mention it at all in first contact memos
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| 12 Jan 12, 7:51 PM purgamentum UK, 3 yrs |
Perhaps it may be an idea to see these women as a whole rather than purely 'fem subs'. Just because someone has a profile up as a fem sub seeking doesn't mean that they are looking for just anyone that comes along. In my opinion it is best especially on a site like this to perhaps strike up a friendship with someone first and foremost as people are more likely to respond to this, and if anything grows out of it then so be it... if not you still have a new friend. Most importantly of all; be yourself, participate in the forums and so on, then eventually with a dash of luck you may pique someones interest. "I have great faith in fools -- self confidence my friends call it." Edgar Allan Poe | |||||||||
| 12 Jan 12, 7:51 PM AngelFingers1 UK(CH), 2 yrs |
I guess what you need to do is alter your profile so that you no longer come across as a well-weird-wannabe-dom. Of course, you probably are nothing like one of those....but just saying, thats how you come across in your profile. No need to thank me...feedback is my gift to you.xx Oh Yes....and the sun will set for YOU. | |||||||||
| 12 Jan 12, 8:05 PM Two_Whips UK(NG), 6 mths |
@AngelFingers1 "....come across as a well-weird-wannabe-dom." I am 'well weird' and have no cause or wish to change that 'wannabe dom' is kind of true as i dont have a sub so I cant be an active Dom, thus, I am a wannabe dom at this point in time - but not in the way you mean it I have had lots of short term submissives but have never had the chance to turn these into longer term relationships as I had a vanilla fiance until 2 years ago Edited 12 Jan 12, 8:26 PM by Two_Whips |
