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| alexandraa |
In a funny mood today.... tired of men who only want to have sex. Absolutely nothing wrong with a man keen on sex, but it'd be nice if they tried to speak to me at all. I have shagged at random in the past, played at adult clubs with people whose names I didn't even know, played at SM clubs with people I did know, but then I was with my partner at the time, so it was all a different context and different objective in truth. Now I am a woman alone, seeking sexual fulfilment, sm fun and friendship. Even..... OH MY GOD..... a relationship....
It seems the men out there can only make it to the sex bit, not even the fulfilment bit, never mind the fun and friendship baggage. God help me on any aspect of intellectual engagement.
Wankers.
How endlessly disappointing people are, and how endlessly ignorant men are about how to engage with a woman.
I shouldn't be surprised. I have been fully aware this is how it is for most of my adult life.
I met an Italian married man yesterday. In truth he couldn't do much more than gaze into my eyes, try and hold my hand, giggle and tell me how utterly beautiful I am.
That was his side of the conversation while I worked up a sweat trying to make things slightly more interesting, by asking him about everything I could think of. Erm who is the submissive here??? Sigh....
He managed not to reciprocate at all of course. Just answered the questions I asked while he fumbled to adjust his trousers, presumably around his hard on, held my hand some more (shudder & guaranteed to make me freeze up, I can't do physical contact with people I don't know - discounting the history of random sex in an adult club while my partner was present.... that was different...), and gazed into my eyes telling me some more how beautiful I was. Perhaps that's all men think women want to hear?
Yes that's nice but..... erm can we try a..... dare I say it????..... c o n v e r s a t i o n?
Big ask I know.... but this is how it goes..... I ask a question and then you ask a question, even if you aren't THAT bright simply repeat the question I asked you back to me. See easy.... a child could do it.....
How utterly tiresome it was. Turns out he'd be quite a good catch, he's married but has had a series of mistresses lasting on average 2 years, apparently quite the norm in Italy. Consequently he is available to meet evenings and weekends and has even suggested meeting Saturday for dinner.
But, you know what, I concretised my thoughts this morning. I want these men to be friends. That's all, that's simple isn't it? Friendship and sex. Is that really too much to hope for?
Men - you piss me off.
Another date tonight, different guy..... SO can't be arsed.....
Edited Thu 12 Jan 12, 2:22 PM by alexandraa
| 12 Jan 12, 12:32 PM man_in_tyres UK(RM), 22 mths  |
Sorry to hear about your bad experiences so far and I sincerely hope you meet someone who will give you what you want and need soon .
Sending hugs At the end of the day ................ It's night |
| 12 Jan 12, 12:59 PM tallulahme UK, 2 yrs |
The problem is with us women is we expect too much, and the male as a species generally fails to deliver. I did say GENERALLY If you had someone that only wanted to have conversation, and was not interested in the sexual side then you would feel unattractive, and unwanted... Mr Perfect (for you) is out there somewhere, but Mrs Goddamned perfect probably has him in a headlock. Its a whinge whinge situation for us women. T x
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| 12 Jan 12, 2:29 PM redsub123789 UK, 15 mths |
I am feeling bit like that today. My beef is LIARS, why, u will only get found out in the end, which I did yesterday and had to end what I thought was a promising start and to top it all only to find out yesterday too that he really didnt want a relationship with a woman with kids! I have one but that is not the point. I would have told him I have a child on Day One. All cop out clauses. I will get back on my bike soon I guess in the vague hope I can find a man who can extend himself past the lying stage and like you hold a conversation too. If it will help remember way back men were hunters and had to be quite so maybe there is something in that trait that haven't lost? The Italian guy I would say believes us English women only want to be wooed, little input from then hoping you will dribble at his attractiveness alone. Watch out for them for behind them is a very powerful mother. redsub123789 |
| 12 Jan 12, 2:45 PM barecheek UK(NG), 8 mths |
You so easily criticise MEN and yet you feed the very anger you feel. Your promiscuity seems to be feeding your disappointment and frustration with certain MEN yet you are attracted to exactly that type of MAN, and moreover the vicious circle you find yourself in is self created. When I first read the leader to your blog I thought you were going to take on a different line, one where you were going to do the shagging, I know there are some good strap ons available, however the thread of your blog comes down to an off day and perhaps with a little insight you may discover MEN are not all alike, in some respects. We all have our brains between our legs and that applies to gays too. As I have no visual record of what you look like I cannot comment on your beauty but I find that beauty is on the surface artificial, what lies beneath creates beauty. When you have a date I would imagine that the effect you get is the effect you give choose how much cajoling into conversation you desire the instinct is read by the testosterone not by the mind. Good luck in finding intelligence in MEN for even the most intelligent have an organ that needs grinding. Best wishes |
| 12 Jan 12, 2:49 PM pilsburyDB 19 mths |
Not all men are the same... Have clingfilm, will travel |
| 12 Jan 12, 3:00 PM sub_65 UK(DE), 7 mths |
It must be something in the air! Tomorrow you may wish for today. |
| 12 Jan 12, 3:05 PM Painpet UK(CB), 3 yrs |
I don't believe all men want just one thing from a woman, so saying not all women want a relationship, a lot of women also like to just sleep about, have affairs with married men or cheat on their own partners, I believe it works both ways, it's dependent on the individual and what they are like as a person. I've been hurt, betrayed and had a best friend cheat on me with a boyfriend I once had and another one try to. One accepted, the other didn't, that was their choice, being a man had nothing to do with if they were going to cheat or not. I do think women have made it harder for themselves to find the right man, a decent man, as a lot of women including me have been more than happy to just go out, have a laugh, a few drinks or one too many where it results in ending up in bed with a man we don't really know or care too in the full light of day. I think sometimes things like sex are given over so easily there's no effort needed anymore to find someone, it's there on a plate for both sexes. Why does a man have to be honest, decent and not use us for sex if we allow them to use us. I know from my own experience that if I have wanted a relationship to last I have had to make sure that I get to know them well and not just jump into bed with them but for us both to wait and happily wait, neither feeling pushed to go to bed together just cus we can't control ourselves. It makes it worth the wait too, as I knew I was giving my body to someone I could totally trust and know that they weren't just after the sex, but getting to know me as a person and that if it was just sex, they would have long given up and found the next more willing girl.
There is someone out there for everyone, sometimes you just have to wait and pick the right ones and be patient about it when we do |
| 12 Jan 12, 5:39 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
I have to be honest here, but I would imagine a married man can get his conversation at home, generally a mistress is a sex thing. I also do not agree that it is all men. However I do wish you luck. |
| 12 Jan 12, 6:13 PM strokes321 UK(M), 2 yrs |
Yes all men are bastards, ahh well at least you've got another lined up for tonight. |
| 12 Jan 12, 7:17 PM Pole_Slut UK(BA), 5 yrs |
Really enjoyed some of these replies, and agree with bits from lots, barecheeks nail on head and funny as fuck. A friend of mine believes that as humans we are just another species that has had the ability to learn and think, like a colony of ants, whilst I respected her opinion, even though I thought it was bollocks, after this I'm slightly, and only 10% inclined to agree with her. It's amazing how we as people seek out partners, fuck buddies one night stands what ever you choose, and how we go on our senses, senses as in sight, smell, ect, but why blame a stranger or shoot them down for how they are when you wasnt forced and chose to spend time with that person, maybe if you keep getting it wrong and come away with so much hatred then maybe you should try going for a different type of person. Everyone has there faults, would be interesting to see what his thoughts are of his time, maybe cock tease, or whatever I dont know. But sorry I dont agree all men are like that, in fact alot aint, and believe me Ive had some shit experiances with men to be put off men, however that was just an incedent that happened between two peeps, but have also known females to cause the same pain.
I sincerley hope you meet someone special that will help to change you opinion, reckon tomorrow will be a better day for you. |
