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| angellover |
on Tue 10 Jan 12, 2:48 PM to angellover's blog.
Misunderstandings I have found can easy be done...
While talking to a slave and getting to know them as a slave contact, you know two sub's comparing notes and having a laugh, to me it was nothing serious but as online banta. Then I invited them down and they asked under what rules and where they would sleep. I explained as a friend nothing else and either they can have the settee or the bed but not with me as that will never happen.
They visited and we had a great time, as they are a nice person and easy to talk with and we chatted and chatted. I cooked them dinner on arrival and breakfast when I got up. We went out as 2 sub's and I introduced them to new people.
I did a light snack in the evening and we talked about my date on the following evening after they had a cap nap because they still had to drive home. When they were leaving I asked them to call me when they arrive home no matter what the time was, so I knew they were safe, but I do this with everyone who visits me and I try to do the same when I'm out visiting.
They texted and I replied saying I am glad their safe and turned over and went back to sleep...
We spoke the following day as usual and in the evening they said they had not slept since they got home so this meant for about 36hrs they had no sleep, apart from a cap nap. I said 'go to bed, you must be tired' they replied 'yes Mistress' which I took as a joke, nothing more as I added lol.... Bed!!
Then in a chat with them today it became apparent they were looking at me as their Mistress and I had to tell them, I have always seen them as a friend.... we agreed friends, we knew were both submissives even if ones a slave and ones a sub and not switches and sorry but I knew there would never be a we and I thought I made that very clear that they were visiting as a mate Nothing more.
Sadly they felt they had egg on their face yet I never even thought of it like that. I didn't see why they felt they had egg on their face as it was two mates meeting up.... or am I missing something hear!!!
Edited Tue 10 Jan 12, 2:53 PM by angellover
| 10 Jan 12, 3:09 PM Satans_puppy UK(NE), 4 mths |
I dont think you are missing anything at all. If ownership/domination is not agreed upon it should not be assumed. |
| 10 Jan 12, 3:22 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
I have found a few times male submissives have twisted what I have said such as you have here, a comment and its all 'yes mistress no mistress'. Like they can't actually see the reality or listen to what has really been said. The egg on his face comes from the fact that he tried to put you in a postion that you told him wouldn't happen. I can imagine feeling foolish about that, but there really isn't any blame at your door. |
| 10 Jan 12, 4:32 PM Big_Friendly_Giant UK(RM), 9 yrs |
I feel if a person has a great meet we can all hear what we want to hear. No egg on anyones face, it happens to all of us in all sorts of situations. |
| 10 Jan 12, 5:51 PM simply_sub_lime UK(SP), 2 yrs |
Some people are just SO grateful to have made a friend that they dont WANT to hear, go away fantasising and eventually convincing themselves that their version is the only and correct one. Conversly, I would suggest that many of us actually start in D/s way and end up making real friends after. Certainly that seems to be the way things go for me. |
| 10 Jan 12, 6:00 PM gastro_masochist 6 mths |
What a shame. Perhaps a little time on their part to think about things may change the situation. You make a good friend and it really would be a shame for them to miss out because of a bruised ego. Ib "I'm not bothered if people in general like me or not, those that matter to me like me and that's all that counts." |
| 10 Jan 12, 6:28 PM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs |
Misunderstandings on t'internet are so easy to do. I hope it doesn't spoil your friendship. smartarse |
| 10 Jan 12, 8:30 PM Caracal UK(SS), 5 yrs      |
Sounds like a bit of selective deafness coupled with brains in pants syndrome. Your profile is pretty clear, you didn't mislead him by your account so where did he pick up that you were dominant, and secondly, in the market to be his dominant. Ah well, onwards and onwards. |
| 10 Jan 12, 9:58 PM Mandys_maid UK(PR), 12 mths |
thank you |
| 11 Jan 12, 12:38 AM angellover UK(CM), 3 yrs |
They won't stop me talking with them as they are a nice person but I think within their head they so need to serve anf therefore feel anyones better than nothing... Nice person, just confuessed maybe. The highest fences we have to climb, are those we have built within our mind |
