Going long distance after living together (16)

I would like to hope that it's not a case of relationship VS career but if it was going to be a case of that then I wouldn't want to move to my hometown and be apart from Master.

We (Master and I) were talking about it tonight and I think I'm in a tough situation because I think it's definately a Manchester thing. So even if I don't get an job from said interview, I might be tempted to look for work in my hometown after this anyway.

I have 2 fears at the moment: doing damage to our relationship or failing to embrace my chosen career path at a time where I already feel like I'm behind.

We did say that maybe I should try to get work in my hometown (under the belief that it's there to be had) and then if it's total and utter poo, in the worst case scenario I could quit and come back up north to do any job whatsoever.

I feel greedy because maybe it's a case of not being able to have my cake and eat it. Like I suspect that a lot of people sort their career out and then find the love of their life whereas I've done it the other way round (not that i'm complaining! omg no way!)

The 1 year rather than 6 month thing certainly provides a lot of food for thought. Also, the working pattern of what I want to do includes weekends which limits my control over how often I can go home.

Hmmm, whatdoyasthink?

It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice xx

But who's to say that if I'd made the opposite decision I wouldn't now be saying that with hindsight..etc.

All you can do is make what you feel is the right decision for you at the time. And whichever chice you make do your best to make it work.

(jeez, it's uncomfortable sitting on this fence )

smartarse

Edited 10 Jan 12, 8:42 PM by fellatrix

Finish the 6 months and look back. You will find it went so fast as to be insignificant in the larger scheme of things.

Dont believe me? How fast has the last 6 months gone for you?

At the end you will have an experience you will have for the rest of your life. If your relationship doesnt last I would look on it as probably doomed at the first decent hurdle anyway so better to find out sooner rather than later!

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The relationship persisted and survived, but there were issues.

Firstly, when we were together, I felt she should have little time for anyone but me (because most of the work I was doing was fairly lonesome stuff). She had a life and wanted to include me in it - but also wanted to spend less time as a couple than I often wanted.

Then, we both had many different experiences whilst we were apart. One of the things I enjoy most about being a couple is sharing experiences: It felt difficult when I knew she was off to the theatre to see something I'd enjoy with someone else and she resented the fact I'd had opportunities to see historic sites she burned to visit herself.

Then there was the fact that you could be in a pub with a couple of chums (mine, on leave at the same time or hers/mine from the former life and with whom she'd shared recent months) and you suddenly realise that you, at that time, shared more recent events, experiences and feelings with your chums than you did with your partner. Felt strange.

Onion skin paper and airmail was vital to us.I guess the internet would have made things much easier.

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