| 9 Jan 12, 2:32 PM rehtael_ni_dal  UK(G), 9 yrs  |
You dont need to tell him, he does not need to know what websites that you are on.
I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it. | ||
| 9 Jan 12, 2:34 PM inappropriate UK(CF), 3 yrs |
Thanks so much, this is a really helpful post. To the other posters, he already knows about some of my kinks in fairly broad terms, I wouldn't consider hiding it from him )or any other potential partner) I'm not sure how well it could work out if he isn't kinky enough, but its something to give a try | ||
| 9 Jan 12, 2:46 PM inappropriate UK(CF), 3 yrs |
That isn't a very practical solution for me - I don't want to have to hide what I'm looking at on the internet. It's a question of when, not if. | ||
| 9 Jan 12, 4:41 PM ms_jay UK(SE), 6 yrs  |
Ive found they tend to panic, run away, then when they calm down get in touch and want to be friends. I like the suggestion about new profile and that it might be a bit too early for such honesty, the vanilla world can be quite shocked by the fet world. If you like him caution you can never unsay what is said or undo what is done ooh but you could tidy up/ trim the profile! J | ||
| 9 Jan 12, 5:23 PM Talisker UK(OX), 12 yrs |
Well that depends on how much you think he likes / dislikes your own personal interests. I would suggest mutual online time (away from your profile) and discussion first. Or rent a movie to prompt wide open discussion to see how how wide his views are re : kink. A blog is as personal as a diary. OK online folk can see it, but it is still owned by you, created by you. I can understand wanting to share everything, but sometimes too much too soon can be self-defeating. T.
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| 9 Jan 12, 7:49 PM inappropriate UK(CF), 3 yrs |
Thanks to you and @Ms_Jay. Very sensible points. I think it's best to wait a while before I consider giving him a linky to my profile! Plenty of small steps are needed on the way! Thanks everyone |
