Posted by inappropriate
on Sun 8 Jan 12, 11:01 PM to inappropriate's blog.
When would you show your IC profile?
We've had a bit of a discussion about kink - he's inexperienced but willing to give it a go. In all honesty, it doesn't sound like he has a lot of dominance in him, but I thought I'd see how things progress as he's pretty damn good in other ways....
So, when should I tell him about my IC profile - and, accordingly, let him stalk it?!
Should I remove anything? Add caveats (honestly, I don't expect you to cut off my toe...unless you want to in the future?; that one was fiction, etc.)?
Your thoughts (particularly if they're based on something similar) would be much appreciated,
A.
| 8 Jan 12, 11:12 PM fellatrix UK, 2 yrs  |
Don't do it! Unless he's lovely of course. I don't think there's anything on your profile to worry about (except maybe the trashy novels) But I think if you've already discussed kink and not scared him off then he's probably ready for your profile. smartarse | |
| 8 Jan 12, 11:18 PM Talisker UK(OX), 12 yrs  |
Nothing to worry about on your profile. Share it though, only when *you* feel comfortable, ready to field questions.Keep flirting and banter running, see how the land lies first...and best wishes. T. | |
| 8 Jan 12, 11:28 PM inappropriate UK(CF), 3 yrs |
My profile, yes, but my blogs include things like scat and eating the contents of spots... I'm not sure there would ever be a good time to introduce the idea that your new girlfriend has done stuff like that with other men... | |
| 8 Jan 12, 11:30 PM twilightsilence UK(ME), 16 mths |
I'm seeing someone who has definitely embraced the kinky  but I have no plans to show him my profile any time soon.Something about sharing this side of me with someone who doesn't *really* understand it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. Take me on a journey and keep me safe on our travels.... | |
| 8 Jan 12, 11:37 PM inappropriate UK(CF), 3 yrs |
I totally understand where you're coming from, but the idea of having to conceal my interests long term feels like I'd be hiding a part of myself, when I'd expect to know pretty much everything about him... Is he not interested in looking at kink stuff online if he's getting interested in it? I'm just wondering how the issue of him looking at IC and wondering if you have a profile hasn't popped up? (if it was me, I'd definitely want to know, but then, I'm nosey!) It's a tough one! Thanks for sharing, A. xxx
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| 8 Jan 12, 11:42 PM Shypeachybottom UK, 20 mths |
How did you meet him? On a vanilla dating site, I have both a vanilla profile, and a submissive one - one that has no blogs or posts attached, and which I am very comfortable sharing if I feel someone is worth getting to know. Might be a way of sharing more with him, without going as far (yet) as sharing your IC blogs & posts There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me | |
| 8 Jan 12, 11:44 PM MisstressvsSolicedog UK(NN), 17 mths |
Well you could deleate this profile and start a whole new one,, because the honesty at this stage might be to much,, but on saying that,, how much kink are you prepared to put aside in the long term for 'some' kink, you may find you can be really happy in the long term with him and not miss aspect of kink that you enjoy now, just thoughts. Please excuse crap spelling cause i,m rubbish | |
| 9 Jan 12, 12:41 AM PrinceD SE, 4 mths |
I was in the same situation as your new person about 8 months ago. I found out my new love was a perv on our first date over coffee in the middle of the day by total accident. I knew nothing about BDSM, the one thing that freaked me out totally was fisting, I didn't understand it, I made up my mind that I would never do that and if that was what she wanted she could never be happy with me, I fixated. what I think I want to say is make sure he knows a bit about what things are before you put the lot on him. | |
| 9 Jan 12, 1:53 PM lightswitches UK(W), 5 yrs |
The real question here is will you be happy with him if things develop further hiding it from him, better to find out sooner rather than later if he is not interested it will hurt less if he walks now rather than after you have totally fallen for him. | |
| 9 Jan 12, 2:31 PM inappropriate UK(CF), 3 yrs |
I wouldn't ever do that - it would be completely dishonest Edited to change an 'if' to an 'it' Edited 9 Jan 12, 9:57 PM by inappropriate |
